Catherine E. (Bielski) Dubois

Jun 21st 1969 - Jun 15th 2004

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Amanda Ross (Nolan)
July 16th 2007

I met Cathy when I worked at the daycare that Caitlin & Lauren attended. I really looked up to Cathy. She was always so happy and was the best mother I had ever met. The girls were always so happy & got so excited whenever they saw her. She was like a supermom, finding time to teach full time, take great care of her girls, find extra time to do fun things with them like going to swim lessons, & still find the time to take care of the staff at the daycare by making us fresh cookies or cupcakes every chance she got. I never turned down the opportunity & loved every chance I got to babysit for the girls because I loved to just be around their family.

I am writing this message three years after Cathy's death because I am now married & have a son of my own. I still think of Cathy everyday and I do my best to try and be as great of a mother as she was. I hope that everone will be able to keep Cathy's memory alive so that Caitlin & Lauren will know what a great mother she was.

John, Lauren, & Caitlin I want you to know that I still think of you everyday. I know that the girls will grow up to be as great as their mom!


Susan Trautman
June 7th 2005

Ok. I has taken too long for me to be able to write about my dear friend Cathy. I really don't know how to express all of the emotions that arise when I think of Cathy but I'll try my best and I direct it all to her...

Dear Cath,

My Dad called me and told me the sad news. Funny thing is that you had been very present in my thoughts for many days up to that call. I was trying to get in touch with you. We haven't talked in such a long time. I even drove by your parent's house on Memorial Day weekend thinking you might be in town (you were) but we missed connections. I went to your wake and actually, you would have really liked it. So many friends and family all loving you to pieces and the pictures -what a riot. Wow have your sisters grown. I remember putting make-up on them and shooing them out of the way to get ready for a fun night out. We laughed constantly remember. Swimming (you bring the bagels I'll bring the toaster), Spanish Club (let's start a Spanish club and go to Chi-Chi's), going to Peru (Inca Cola, Aero Peru, all of the Peruvian boys that sent us valentines) and continuing to volunteer upon our return (I still like to use caulk guns). I'm so glad I had we did all of that. I talked to Sra. Thompson this summer. She was at Sam's Club. She brought you up and we laughed about Brebeuf (we are still favorite students -wow). A few weeks later I had to email her the news about you. I cried for days and days when you left this world. I was so mad that I didn't get around to getting back in touch with you. I am mad that a woman ("chick" as we called ourselves) who did so much, gave so much and loved so much isn't here to keep things real. When you died I went through some old scrapbooks of mine. I found a card from you. It of course it was in prose as we loved to rhyme back at Brebeuf. Your card was silly and spoke of eating bugs but it was also kind and loving. I must have been having some sort of teenage angst and there you were with a snoopy card and a poem letting me know that you care (rhymes with dare). I'll really miss that from you. Anyway even though we weren't in touch, I thought of you often and I would think of how you would handle something when odd situations arose in my life. Now that you have died you are in my life even more. I still morn for you (my loss) and for your family and friends. I sit and try to make sense of it and when I can't I just pray. Sometimes in prayer I fall asleep (I don't know if that is a good thing or not) and I figure God is covering me with rest and comfort when He knows that I can't handle the pain of your loss. Here is a great story that happened today. I went to my weekly Bible study group this morning. Please know that I went begrudgingly as our furnace was out and the repairman could have come first thing but I asked him to wait until the afternoon. My youngest son was sleeping in for some reason and wouldn't get ready on time, and to top it off we were having a coffee/ sharing session instead of a lesson today. No brunch items in hand, off to Bible study I went. Our coffee topic was to tell of an example of how you have seen God at work in your life. I wasn't about to talk today. Then I listened and heard a story of a woman who had a liver transplant this year. How suddenly this life-saving organ came available for her (within weeks of being on the list) and how she kept thinking she wasn't ready to undergo all of this now and how God was telling her to just be still and trust in Him. She spoke about her peace and seeing her mother's strength in faith as well. Her mother has since died and she knows that God made all of this available to her in His time for His reasons and she sees the sense in it now (witnessing her mothers faith, learning to trust in God's timing even when it doesn't fit your own). My heart started racing my head was pounding and I finally had the nerve to speak. I just had to say that I knew that the Lord was working in my life and providing me comfort right at that moment. I knew that your organ donations helped to save others but to me it was all in theory and really wasn't a tangible source of comfort. Now, I just saw and heard from a person who was helped because of someone like you. She helped me with my loss of you. I don't even know her but somehow I bet that you know her mom today. I have to smile. Well Cath, I am rambling now. I wanted to say that those girls of yours are just beauties. I am sure that they will pick up right where you left off.

Thanks for being a great friend, not just to me but to pretty much everyone you met. I really love knowing that you are so special to so many.

Susy (Bonifield) Trautman

P.S. Cath,

I will always laugh

When I think of you

Not the zoo

'cause we're cool

And swam in a pool

We had some fun

Laid out in the sun

We even scooped some frozen treats

Now, I hope you get to meet

All of the great family and friends who have gone before

And peace to you forevermore.

Love ya,

Sus


Rob Walsh
June 7th 2005

I had the pleasure of knowing Cathy during our years at Xavier University, and my heart broke when I heard the news of her passing. At an age where I had trouble coming to grips with the person I was supposed to become, Cathy unwittingly served as a shining example of that which we should all strive to be. She treated all that she met with a sense of genuine enthusiasm, displaying a depth of compassion and humor that made everyone feel special. Cathy’s strength was not merely that she was confident enough to be herself, but rather the quality of her character. She was at once independent, caring, funny, generous, and supportive. She seemed to have a place in every social circle at school, a testament to both her spiritual and physical beauty. It is no surprise that she went into teaching. As Margaret Fuller once said, "If you have knowledge, let others light their candles in it." Cathy leaves behind many lit candles, and I can think of no greater testament to a life well-lived.

Caitlin and Lauren, you will find quickly that your mother will always be around you. She will be in the laughter of those who tell stories about her; in the hope of those she spent her life helping through the Church and the Peace Corps; in the dreams of the inner-city children that she educated; and in the love of the many who surround you in her place from this day forward. Although your time with her on Earth was too short, you have been given a wonderful gift: you are the daughter of Catherine Bielski Dubois, and you are therefore capable of great things.

Thank you for sharing her with us,

Rob Walsh


Chip Birge
June 7th 2005

I went to high school with Cathy and was very saddened to hear of her passing. My heart goes out to all of her family. I remember how special she was in high school and I know she just got kinder and funnier as she got older. I will always remember the fun we had ditching class, going to movies, and making bad jokes. I am grateful that we were friends. I've often wondered over the years how she was doing and I'm glad to read that she had a full life surrounded by people that cared about her. Aloha and Mahalo Cathy!


Leanna Birge
June 7th 2005

In 1991, I spent a summer in the Dominican Republic with a number of people and Cathy was among them. My brother had told me what an amazing person Cathy was; so, I was excited to spend my volunteer experience with her.

Though the Dominican Republic Trip seems like it took place a lifetime ago, the quest is still vivid in my mind. This illumination allows me to share the lesson that I learned from Cathy with all of you now, and because of this lesson, Cathy has always been one of my heroes.

The lesson was how Cathy flawlessly exemplified courageous compassion. This special quality of Cathy’s was so beautiful and she executed it so gracefully and unconditionally that she quickly became someone I have always tried to emulate. I still attempt to approach life with Cathy-like love, compassion, and courage and plan to continue. I think this is probably the best way to honor the memory of such a beautiful soul. Thank you, Cathy, for being a shining example of humanity that never dulled.


Jennifer Hudson
June 7th 2005

I first met Cathy and John when their children attended the daycare in Ypsilanti. I was Caitlin's preschool teacher. I remember how impotant it was to Cathy to hear every little detail about Caitlins day. From every funny moment to every little stinker moment. Not that those moments offten occured. Together John and Cathy raised very kind and caring children.

I remember that after they had watched the movie MARY POPINS together caitlin started talking aboout hailatosis. Cathy got a good laugh out of it and told Caitlin to say that Daddy had hailatosis. Cathy and john would both laugh about it.

When Cathy deciced to stay home and sdpend time with the girls before they move, she kindly gave me some of her materials that she used as a teacher.I still use them today. I remember how kind she was to me and thanked me for teaching Caitlin so much. I hope I can some day be as great as a teacher as she was.I am greatful that her children have so many wonderful memories of such a great role model. I know I do!

MY thoughts and prayers are with you John, Caitlin and Lauren.

~Jennifer Hudson


Nancy Dearhammer
June 7th 2005

Cathy was my roommate at U-M; she was an amazing woman that taught me so much. In our two years of chaos called grad school and teaching in inner-city Detroit, she was the bright spot in everyone's day. When we had had an especially harrowing day at school, she would always have some funny story which always made everyone laugh hard enough to cry.

One student that I always remember was a first grader in her class who was especially troubled but was so drawn to his teacher, Miss Bielski. He would usually throw some sort of tantrum and Cathy would have to stop his tantrum and calm the class. This little boy was so angry and would shout at her and say that he 'wasn't talkin' to you no more' as his anger mounted. But everyday as he climbed into his schoolbus headed off to a troubled household, he would wave wildly to her and shout at her from the bus window, "Ï love you,. Miss Bielski." All his anger dissipated as he waved good-bye to his teacher who loved him. Cathy had the power to melt people's hearts and her loss has definitely left a gaping void in many hearts.

We miss you, Cath. Thank you for all the powerful lessons you have taught me.


karen hotz
June 7th 2005

Lauren and Caitlin attended my childcare center from the time they were infants up until they recently moved to Orlando. We all truely loved the Dubois. They always showed their appreciation through homemade cookies that Cathy and Caitlin would make for the staff. It always took Cathy at least 15 minutes to leave at pick-up time because she would talk to all of the children and teachers. One of my favorite memories is of Cathy dropping Caitlin off in her preschool class. As she left the front door, Caitlin and all of her friends were waving to her from the window. As Cathy walked to her van she struck about 20 different silly poses and had the children cracking up.

I am so greatful that Cathy and John allowed us to care for their beautiful daughters. The girls are lucky to have John as a father; his love for them showed every time he arrived to pick them up. His face would light up when he saw them. I am deeply saddened by this great loss and think of your family every day.

Love,

Karen


Barbara Furlow
June 7th 2005

How swiftly time passes...that adorable

child who rang my doorbell on Sourwood

Court in the spring of 1974, cheering my

morning with freshly picked dandelions,

bubbling as she handed them to me, now

gone. How blessed I was to know the

Bielski family, to delight in visits from Cathy and to learn, along the way,

of the amazing things she accomplished

in life and the joy she brought to everyone who knew her. My heartfelt

sympathy to the Bielski and Dubois

families. Barbara


Danielle Wierda
June 7th 2005

Hi Caitlin & Lauren!

I only knew your mom, Cathy, for a short 1 year (2003-2004) while you both attended Montessori World School. I worked as the Office Manager there. Each morning your mom would drop you off to school and pick you up, she always had a warm, loving smile and was full of energy and excitement for the new day's events! I loved seeing and speaking with your mom each day. I will never forget the teacher appreciation week when your mom brought me a special baggie of treats/snacks. Included with it was a detailed explaination of what each item represented along with her heartfelt thanks for a wonderful school year and all that I do for the school. Since I worked in the office, I didn't expect to receive any teacher appreciation gifts, but your mom surprised me with one. (She was one of the few other families who gave me a gift of some sort.) After receiving the gift from your mom, Cathy, I had a conversation with her reagrding this appreciation gift. She told me that when she was a teacher, she had been given this same gift and liked it so much that she vowed to share it with others, such as myself. I told her that I loved the gift and planned to share the idea with my family and friends and maybe even use it as a thank-you gift for my daughter's teacher/office person in the future after I have a daughter. I am learning more and more each day how important it is to thank people for all their contributions no matter how small or big they may be, because you never know when you will see that person again. After experiencing the loss of your mom, Cathy, I was shown again that life is precious and every moment counts! Today and every day, I truely cherish each moment I spend with, talk with on the phone, e-mail, send letters or gifts, or just think of the person as thay are all very important moments to be cherished always!!!

Thank you for a wonderful year of my life (2003-2004) working at Montessori World School and getting to know your mom, Cathy! Reading her life story reminds me a little of myself too. (middle of 5 children, first a shy then outgoing person, keeping in touch with family and friends, full of energy, laughter, and enthusiam for life!)

Cathy...just keep dancing!

Love to you all...Caitlin, Lauren and John.

With sincere sympathy,

Danielle Wierda


Renee Brodnik
June 7th 2005

My husband Mike and I met Cathy and John at the airport as we arrived for our honeymoons in St. Lucia. As luck would have it, we were going to the same place: Sandals Resort. As we waited for our luggage (which of course was last in coming) we got to talking. Mike and I joke now that we didn't really have a honeymoon for just the two of us because we spent nearly every minute with John and Cathy. We all got along great. So great that when John and Cathy decided halfway through the week to move across St. Lucia to the other Sandals Resort, we had to go to. We enjoyed many banana drinks, water skied, laughed at the cheesey St. Lucians trying to act Mexican or Italian, ate french fries, played pool soccer, did water aerobics, and took hokey pictures of each other. The most vivid memory is of the music played on a loop there. "Who Let the Dogs Out" was played constantly and always stuck in our minds. We joked about it for years after. Then one day I was driving home from work and heard that song on the radio. It had come to the US to haunt us. We had a good laugh over that. Ever since then, in every Christmas card or e-mail, Cathy and I would always end it with "Don't forget to let the dogs out." Mike and I will always remember our honeymoon as a time we got to know Cathy and John. I'm sure Cathy's up in heaven letting the dogs out. We love you, Cathy.


Susan
June 7th 2005

I worked with Cathy a few times at the O'Connor Sports Center at Xavier University.

I remember one day we were working and bored silly. So I decided to just start laughing and Cathy asked me what was so funny. I said I had no idea and we both ended up in tears from just cracking up at absolutely nothing!

I didn't really know Cathy well, but I am saddened and touched by her death. My heart just breaks for her little girls and her family. Having lost a child myself, my heart goes out to her parents and the pain they are surely feeling.

I remember that Cathy always had a smile on her face and she was nice to everyone.

God bless you all.

Susan Harrod (Xavier '91)


Edna Bickett
June 7th 2005

To John, Caitlin, and Lauren:

I loved talking to Cathy. She had a great appreciation for teachers. When she dropped Caitlin off at school she would check to see if she could volunteer to help in the classroom. She came in and made butterflies, valentine cards, and helped the children with their hand writing and lets not forget Mr.Green. I was talking to Cathy about getting a fish for the classroom and the next morning Mr. Green joined our class. She had so much positive energy and her enthusiasm for teaching was delighful. She was enjoying being home with you and the girls this year and loving ever minute. I am very blessed to be one of the lives she touched. I will miss her.

With Sincere Symphathy Mrs.Bickett


Lisa Delahanty
June 7th 2005

Cathy Dubois was my cousin, my father is her Uncle Joe. We grew up in parallel universes but didn't get to spend much time together until later in life. I remember visiting when I was a young teenager and we stayed with Aunt Cathy and all the cousins. We "slept" on the floor and talked, laughed and didn't get much rest. Even the young Cathy was full of stories, happiness and enthusiasm. I remember talking about God with her even then. We went to the Indianapolis speedway, to bonaza and had dinner. Cathy is everywhere in those memories because her light was always shining through that beautiful personality. You could easily see she was admired by her family and her cousins even then. The next large memory I have of Cathy aside from other family get-togethers was her marriage to John Dubois. Thier wedding was unforgettable. From the karoke love serenade "I think I love you" to the unihibited dancing and sharing joy with all of her peace corp friends, Cathy and John seemed perfectly matched. I remember seeing her in her white dress before she walked down the isle, flanked by her sisters and clucking relatives who couldn't, like myself, remember a bride who looked as beautiful and happy as Cathy did that day. What a party. She brought such happiness to the family and her friends that day.

The next memory I have of her is of her birthday the year she conceived Caitlin. My cousin Jackie and her husband brought me along to celebrate. We did a canoe ride down a very still river. Uncle Len was my partner and what a day. No wind to be found. Yet, there was Cathy, gliding by with John driving the canoe. I still can see her so clearly, laying in the canoe, smiling, her hands on her lap. She looked beautiful, happy, content. It was then I found out she was expecting you, Caitlin. She was so obviously in love with life, John and that wonderful baby to be.

Many occassions have come and gone since, Thanksgivings, other gatherings and Team Dube, Cathy and John, in attendance made the family complete. Following these occassions would be the much anticipated Christmas cards with the girls so beautifully posed and bows in their hair. Caitlin, Lauren, your mother was incredible at showing how loved you are in those many cards and announcements.

The last time I saw Cathy and John was at Anne Lally's wedding. Also a magical match, Anne and Rory's wedding was a festival for appreciating life and love. Cathy and John were in form and everyone had a wonderful time. I have pictures of the morning after when the family gathered at McDonalds for a kid friendly meal. There the Dubois were gathered, a beautiful, happy family.

Cathy was a light. There was an energy that drew others to her. She had so many friends, touched so many lives. And now, she lives on in these memories and in Caitlin and Lauren.

John, I cannot imagine your loss or pain. I can only say what I said to you these tough days, you are so surrounded with family who love you and the girls. We will always be there for you, Caitlin and Lauren. Although we are states apart, we are close in our love of family. Please call on us if you every need us. We will be there. (The Delahanty spontenaity is well known for immediate response.) Please call even if you don't need anything.

God Bless you and you and the girls will remain in my prayers.

Love, Lisa


Kay (Pezoldt) Goetz
June 7th 2005

In 1987, I was placed in a tiny dorm room at Xavier University with two roommates that I had never before met. I was truly blessed! Cath (“the fun one”), Julie (“the athlete”), and I (“the scholar”) were said to make—if combined—the perfect girl! We all knew, however, that Cathy was perfect all by herself. Not only was she tremendously fun (always!), but she was also athletic and intelligent. Our second year at Xavier we chose to remain together—3 girls in one dorm room as sophomores was absurd to all those around us, but made perfect sense to us! (Although our 3rd year we did decide to get a 2-bedroom campus apartment together!)

My memories of Cathy at Xavier are many. My albums are filled with photos of her. There are photos of Cathy in all of her silliness: decorating the room with toilet paper or with underwear strung together; the results of a marker fight or afternoon of mud wrestling; having races down the dorm hallway with balloons between our knees, and ending the race by sitting on them for the pop; drawing hearts with chalk on the carpet in the hallway outside of our room and filling them with names; performing a solo “head-banger” show (in costume, of course); dressing ‘70s and visiting our hall-mates; leading a seated séance (with candles and focused “ummmms”) around the toilet (aka “porcelain goddess”). There are photos of Cathy in service to others: taking care of and making fun times for less fortunate children in the “College Friends” program; serving in Appalacia with the University Ministry program; practicing before the crack of dawn as part of a team for Crew. There are photos of fun times together: Muskies basketball; sitting together on Santa’s lap; visiting the Cincinnati Zoo; Homecoming dances and other formal Balls; fixing each other up on triple-blind-friendship-dates; watching the hot air popcorn pop or the chocolate cookies bake; French-braiding hair. There are other memories like the birthday celebrations that she would organize for me, studying together (she even managed to make THAT fun!), sharing many stories of our beloved parents, siblings and high school friends, long talks in whispers before sleeping, attending worship together, graduation.

Cathy had a neat way of bringing people together. A favorite memory is when we dressed up in goofy clothes and wild hair, carried an empty measuring cup, knocked on every door on our dorm room floor, and asked in a weird voice, “May we borrow a cup of sugar, please?!” This is how we met everyone on the floor that second day of college, and most of the dormers ended up in the hallway together laughing and getting to know one another! Leave it to Cathy! Another favorite memory is of the “stage” which we outlined with masking tape on our dorm room floor. If any of the three of us wanted to tell a story, we would stand on the stage and the other two would drop whatever she was doing and listen faithfully and attentively. Cathy’s stories were always hilarious and fun, and never gossipy or mean-spirited.

I know that she has grown and matured since our XU days, but her fun-loving, happy, faithful, friendly self never changed. She came to Waynesville, Ohio, to meet my newborn in 1995. I saw her complete love for you, John, during a visit to our house in Cincinnati in the spring of 1996, at your beautiful wedding, and in the yearly Christmas card photos that she would send. I can see her in the faces and mannerisms of both Caitlin and Lauren, whom she truly adored.

Ever since the late ‘80s, whenever I hear the song “Forever Young” by Rod Stewart, I am instantly reminded of Cathy. My husband, Andy (who knew and loved Cathy, too), knew to put “my Cathy song” on a compilation tape of “happy music” that he made for me a few years ago. From the very first note I am reminded of Cath, and can see her dancing on top of the desks in our dorm room, with the song blaring as she performs it (singing and dancing) in her own special way, with lots of energy and passion. She loved the message of that song. Caitlin and Lauren, when you are older and reading these pages, maybe you would like to listen to that song and know that your wonderful Mom would most certainly wish those things for you. It begins, “May the good Lord be with you down every road you roam; And may sunshine and happiness surround you when you’re far from home; And may you grow to be proud, dignified and true; And do unto others as you would have done to you; Be courageous and be brave. . . . . May good fortune be with you, May your guiding light be strong . . . .”

Recently, in June of 2004, I was mourning and trying to pull myself together in the car, and so I popped in a music tape as a distraction. I was surprised that the song that immediately played was “Forever Young.” Although it certainly did not dry my tears, it served as a reminder that Cathy is with us in spirit, and that her body will not suffer aging but instead will be, appropriately, forever young.

Cathy is an extraordinary person. I love her and I will miss her. My 6-year old son, in an effort to console me, cut out a heart-shaped-paper card and wrote on it, “I love you a lot and som day you will see her agen.” I am comforted in knowing what he also seems to know. In God’s timing, we may all be with her again.

Lovingly, Kay (Pezoldt) Goetz


Dave & Jeanne Riggs
June 7th 2005

We saw Cathy for the last time 3 weeks ago. She was nice enough to drive up from Indianapolis to see some of her Ann Arbor friends. Cathy had a real knack for making and maintaining friendships with a wide variety of people. Friends from high school, college, Peace Corps, graduate school, teaching, junior league etc... She was the kind of friend we could see once a year and pick up right where we had left off.

Cathy and the kids looked great. She had never been happier and told us all about her new life in Orlando. She was thrilled to have more time with the girls. She loved her new house and the warm weather. She loved that she was in a place where people could come visit and enjoy the weather. You could just see that she was a fantastic mother. The girls were wonderfully behaved and bubbling with personality. As always, she spoke lovingly of John. She was very proud of him and considered herself blessed to have such a wonderful marriage.

Our hearts go out to John and the girls. We hope that you know you still have in us, the kind of friends that will always be there regardless of time and distance.

Love

Dave & Jeanne Riggs


Rhonda McAnlis
June 7th 2005

Cathy is one of three sisters My sister in law Joanne (sister of my husband Bob) gained when she married Ed Bielski in July of 1997. Although I did not know Cathy well, she was always there each time we spent time with the Bielskis. I always appreciated that Cathy and Dube made time for their families-when Wil and Lydia were born, they drove 5 hours from Michigan to share in the new life of their niece and nephew. In the Bielski family, in law siblings are treated as if they were biological children-anyone that came in contact with the Bielskis could cherish the love that the Bielski family shared. The last time I saw Cathy was at Lydia's (Joanne and Ed Bielski daughter)baptism in Dec 2003. Cathy and Dube are Lydia's godparents. As Dube had to work that weekend, Cathy and her two beautiful daughters flew from Florida to participate in Lydia's entrance into God's world. When I mentioned to Cathy that I thought it was just wonderful that she was so devoted to her family to be there, she said, "I wouldn't have missed it, and not just because I am the Godmother"

My heart and prayers go to Dube and the kids as well as the rest of the people that knew and loved Cathy. I did not know her well but what I did know, she was one very special person.


Tara Franey
June 7th 2005

My husband and I met Cathy & John when we moved into our house on Maplehurst Drive. They lived across the street and we all became fast friends. They went out of their way to make friends and I will always remember that first meeting. Our little boy Benen and Caitlin were best friends and we all shared such wonderful times. For three and a half wonderful years Benen and Caitlin were able to grow up together. Cathy was always up for a fun day, whether it was taking the kids to the Toledo Zoo, Dominos Farm or a pool (her favorite!). Cathy enriched all three of our lives. She never failed to make us all feel special. Benen adored her, as did we.

Our house was rarely without some kind of special treat from the Dubes - I will always miss her cupcakes. What always amazed me about Cathy was her ability to just enjoy life. She didn't waste much time on worrying - she just did her best to make the most of her days. We knew we were always welcome in her home - we didn't even need to call. She was truly an amazing person with a beautiful spirit.

We were blessed to have known her and to have shared special times together. John, Caitlin & Lauren - you know you'll always have a home on Maplehurst Drive. We will always be here to support you and help to keep Cathy's memory alive. We love you all. Brian, Tara & Benen


Ian Cheng
June 7th 2005

I met Cathy for the first time in Miami in 1992; we were on our way to serve in the Peace Corps in the Dominican Republic. I still remember her vividly at our pre-service training - funny, vibrant and exuberant in her excitement.

Cathy was always like that - always up, always with a kind word, always there for any of us if we needed a lift.

I guess what I remember most is that Cathy made me laugh. She had a knack for making people happy. I remember getting on a plane to Costa Rica during our service. I was traveling with Chris Wall and Cathy was traveling with Fran Raymond and Sarah Hyman. The girls happened to be on the same connecting flight as Chris and I. Much like her love for the Carpenters, she always had these wacky ideas that would make me scratch my head and then laugh out loud. Since the girls were already on the plane, Cathy came up with the silly idea of all of the girls covering themselves with a blanket and using the air sickness bags (with eyes drawn on them) as hand puppets to greet Chris and I, as we walked down the aisle. Well, as fate would have it, we were taking some Peace Corps-esque super-saver flight and the cleaning crew had forgot to replace some of the air-sickness bags from the previous flight. You can guess what happened next. Of course, it was no big deal to Cathy, just a great and funny story for her to tell in the future.

Cathy left me with an indelible impression of positivity. I am so happy that I had the pleasure of knowing her. I will always remember her - she was that type of person.


Amy and Julie Brown
June 7th 2005

My sister Julie and I baby-sit for Caitlin and Lauren. We first met the Dubois family at church in Orlando. Being teens ourselves, Julie and I always loved the "teenage" sense of humor Mrs. Dubois had. She also watched all the same shows as us and had the same sense of humor as we do too. One of the last memories that we have of Mrs. Dubois is really funny... Julie and I work in the nursery at church on Sunday mornings and one day was day light savings. Both of us were cracking jokes about the people that would walk in late but no seemed to do that, we were very impressed with everyone. So in between the two church services that we work we went to go eat donuts and there was the Dubois family. Mrs. Dubois said that they pulled into church and were like "why is everyone leaving?". Quickly it clicked that they were late, but the memory of their faces were hysterical.

"When you were born you cried and the world rejoiced, live your life so that when you die the world cries and you rejoice."

This is the best quote I have ever heard, and with all the love and support Mr. Dubois, Caitlin, and Lauren are getting it seems to Julie and I that she lived her life this way. She will be missed greatly.

With all our love and support; Amy and Julie Brown


Bridget Kennedy
June 7th 2005

Cathy and I shared a brief time together at St. Luke.

I attended St. Luke for one year before my family

moved back to our hometown of Chicago. I

remember riding the bus with Cathy. We lived only

a few blocks away from each other. We would team

up together and convince the bus driver that our

Moms had given us permission to get off at each

other's bus stops. It actually worked!

Years later meeting Ed, through my brother-in-law,

Ray, I recall Ed speaking so fondly of Cathy and her

committment to serving others.

All that knew Cathy will keep the best of her in us.

When we reach out to help someone in need or

throw our head back in laughter, Cathy will be a

part of that.

We continue to keep Cathy and her family in our

prayers. My daughers would like Caitlin and Lauren

to know that they are saying special prayers just for

them.

Much love and prayers,

Kevin and Bridget Kennedy

Casey, Deirdre, Caroline, Michael and Molly


Cathy Ferrara
June 7th 2005

I first met Cathy at a Family Focus meeting at Holy Family it was the first meeting for both of us and we were sitting at the same table along with another woman whose name was Cathy and we asked each other is it Catherine or Kathleen because when you are a "Catherine" it is a big deal that you are called by the right name it makes a difference and people shouldnt confuse the names.

Anyway she was so bubbly and happy to be living in the area and loved the church and I gave her some pointers on getting her Disney passes because its fun to tell your family and friends up North that your going on a play date to the Magic Kingdom or only staying for a few hours because it doesn't matter you can go anytime you live right here.

The last time I saw Cathy was at Family Focus Pottery 6 where she made a plate of her girls and it was the cutiest thing I saw. My prayers are with Cathy's husband and children.

Rest in peace Cathy,

Cathy Ferrara


Kellie McElhaney
June 7th 2005

The many memories I have of Cathy have been flooding through both waking and sleeping hours. I met Cathy when also in grad school at U of M. Her very sense of LIFE was what drew me to her, as with all of you. My first memory of Cath was going to watch my now husband, then crush, play in a softball game- I had to point him out to her and get her opinion. Herself dressed in the ever-present baseball cap and pony tail, she agreed that he was cute and that I should pursue him. The memory that I have of Cathy was her bringing her new boyfriend, John, to a party that we had at my Huron and 3rd apartment-0 within 15 minutes of being there, he was dancing with her to the Dooby Brothers, wearing his purple LL Bean fleece, and I knew right away this was her TeamDube and that all would be well with her world. The other vivid memory I have of her is the cake she made for my Bachelorette Party, shaped like a male body part- she did it *free hand* as their seemed to be no cake pan in this shape....and she was so very proud of her art work.

Cathy's fullness of life, her uncomplicated nature and just pure genuineness, her innate ability to always serve others, yet never martyr herself, her compassion and love and perfect cupcake-filled home, her two beautiful girls and her life's soulmate in John. I am honored to have known her, and if we could each continue forth with one tenth of her in each of us, the world will continue to be a better place because of her. John, Caitlin, Lauren, the Bielski's- our very strongest and best prayers are out to you from out here in CA.

Kellie, Dave, Isabel & Juliana Weinerth


April Eckwielen
June 7th 2005

I met Cathy a couple of months ago in our church nursery. We talked about the usual kid stuff and found out that we lived in the same neighborhood. We then started talking about family focus and her wanting to join. I would see Cathy and her family at church and around our neighborhood. She was always smiling and friendly. I last saw Cathy on friday at our neighborhood's mommy and me meeting at my house. She had just come from working out and was worried that the event was over. I told her to come on by that the door was always open. I am so glad she got to stop by. I enjoyed talking with her and watching the girls [play with my children and the other children in the group.

Even though I did not know Cathy for a long time, I will be forever grateful for the time that I did have to know her. SHe was a wonderful woman and I know that she will look down and watch over her family forever. God Bless.


Cathy Klein
June 7th 2005

Although I never had the pleasure of knowing this kind lady, she sounds like a wonderful person. Blessings to al the family but especially to her two daughters.


Craig McKendree
June 7th 2005

I never this wonderful mother, wife, sister, and friend. She sounds like a wonerful person and I am truly sorry for your lost. My heart goes out to you and everyone that knew Cathy. May God bless you and yours.


Julie Grimes
June 7th 2005

Cathy was my first friend in Ann Arbor. I was new to the city and had joined the Junior League to get involved in the community and meet other women. I was sitting at a table at our "newbie" meeting and asked if anyone wanted to go out that weekend since my husband was going to be out of town and I didn't know anyone. Cathy didn't miss a beat and invited me to join her at Grizzly Peak to hang out, get to know eachother and meet her then bartender boyfriend, John. John provided the cocktails all night, Cathy and I bonded, and I knew when we were singing 70's tunes together at the end of the evening - I had found a friend. We clicked immediately and remained close friends the rest of my 6 years in Ann Arbor.

Cathy and I shared some of the most special times in life together. We were pregnant together, gained and lost alot of weight together, Caitlyn and my daughter Riley celebrated their 1st birthdays together, the fun and challenges of owning our first homes... shopping, sunbathing, dancing, playing. Taking the girls in the pool for the first time, and sledding for the first time. Lots of firsts and a friendship that lasts. We shared a love of the sun and a love of board games. She shared herself, her friendship and her love.

I cherish these memories. Cathy will forever be in my heart. John, Caitlyn and Lauren, my family is always here for you now and forever.


Kelly Cochrane
June 7th 2005

I did not know her, but I just saw her obituary

in our newspaper and then read her life story

and if sounds like she was a wonderful wife,

mother and person and I was truly touched.

The obituary stood out to me because my

birthday is June 22, 1 day later and 1 year

later and I have 2 children also, almost the

same ages....and my heart is saddened for

your family and especially her precious

children. I will pray for your family for a very

long time. May God's peace cover your hearts.


Sheila Wilson
June 7th 2005

Although I did not know this wonderful person I am touched by her story. She seemed to accomplish so much. Most things many people never get to do. I wish her young daughters the best in their lives. She lives on through them and I am sure that they will be as wonderful as their mother . Best wishes to the family also in their time of grief. May god bless.


Beth Volk Russell
June 7th 2005

Cathy and I went to St Luke together and I haven't seen her since but I do remember her as being a very sweet and quiet little girl. We missed her at our class reunion last summer! I just put together by name that Cathy's husband was a friend of my brother's and a Sigma Chi with my husband and brother-in-law. My heart aches for John and the girls even though I know Cathy is in a much better place then all of us. I have a 4 year old and 9 month old and I can't image life without them or me in there's! I know every Mother feels that way. That's why God took Cathy so painlessly & quickly so she wouldn't have to worry or suffer!My prayers are with all of Cathy's family & friends.


Sue Bittenbender
June 7th 2005

I only knew Cathy for a short time. She had just joined our neighborhood babysitting co-op. She just watched my two boys the week before she died. She said it was her first time to babysit with the co-op. She was so friendly and nice. The boys loved being at her house with her and her daughters. The boys thought she was so cool because she let them have 3 popsicles and she even sent them home with one more. She was definately the kind of person I immediately wanted to be friends with. She made me feel like a friend eventhough we had just recently met. She was a very welcoming, warm, fun, nice, friendly, funny person who will be missed. Cathy, John, Caitlyn and Lauren are in my thoughts and prayer constantly.

Sue, Eric, Justin and Dylan Bittenbender


Julie Christofferson
June 7th 2005

Like everyone who knew Cathy, I have so many wonderful memories to choose from when thinking about Cathy, my friendship with her, and most important, the way she lived her life.

I owe a great deal to Cathy as she is largely responsible for connecting me to a group of women who, over the years, have become dear friends and a very strong foundation for me. Cathy was a key member of that group and the hole left by her passing is simply immeasurable. It was Cathy's initiative to get us all meeting for dinner each month as new members of the Junior League that created a bond among us all that is still strong and continues growing today. Our friendship came at such an important time in all of our lives. We all shared in so many major life events together...marriages, pregnancies, personal losses, first homes, new jobs, job losses..and so much laughter throughout. Those of us still in Ann Arbor went out last fall to bid Cathy farewell as she, John and the girls were headed to Florida. It was such a memorable evening, full of laughter, singing, dancing and pure silliness, and as always, meaningful conversation and the uplifting support of friendship.

One other story comes to mind that for me represents who Cathy was. I had my first son, Jackson, in April of 1999. It came as no surprise that the first homemade dinner to show up at my door after returning from the hospital was from Cathy. She sent a four-course meal over with John and their wonderful friend, Rowan. We took photos of both of them holding Jackson. A few weeks later, I gave a copy of the picture of John holding and gazing at Jackson to Cathy at a meeting. Tears instantly began streaming down her face. Slightly surprised, I asked if everything was okay. She just explained that she was very moved by the picture, seeing John holding the baby. I was so touched. Though I didn't know it then, it was because Cathy was newly pregnant with Caitlin and she was anticipating the beauty of sharing the gift of parenthood with John. And that was Cathy -- so very in love with John and their family, right from the start.

Cathy was about as truly good a person as I think I will ever meet, and the same can be said about John. Tony and I have been blessed by their friendship.

Julie


Letisha Covington
June 7th 2005

In September 2001 I had the

pleasure of meeting Cathy at Detroit

Edison Public School Academy in

Detroit, Michigan. I instantly grew

fond of her as a co-worker and friend

from then on. In 2003 I worked as

Cathy's classroom assistant and

enjoyed every moment of it. Her

warm personality and sense of

humor touched my heart in a way that

no one has. Cathy was such a

genuine and fun-loving person and

that is what I will remember about

her. I was saddened when she

moved to Florida but also happy

because she was able to fulfill her

lifelong dream. I would like to send

the family my deepest sympathy. My

prayers are with you and know that

Cathy is with the Lord in a much

better place. Cathy was adored by

many whose lives she touched at

Detroit Edison Public School

Academy. She will be greatly missed

and her memory will live in me all of

my days. Love Tisha


Chris Wall
June 7th 2005

Cathy was one of the most upbeat people I have ever met. She was mean competition in a three-legged race. She always shared. She never snarled unless facing down an injustice. She and I shared a birthday. I think we figured that I was a couple of hours older, which meant that I won! It was an inside joke for the two of us. We could be in the middle of a classic day of bad Dominican transportation and when things got rough, Cathy would lean in and whisper, "you win." She was right, she won a good moment out of a hard day. Cathy you are a gem, te extranara

Love, Chris


cathy
June 7th 2005

Although I did not know this family my heart aches for them in their loss.May her heart live on in the people whose lives she touched. We will miss her on our earth as we need more people like her! God Bless you All


Ellen Ramsey
June 7th 2005

This is my third attempt in the last two days to try and find the right words. I only knew Cathy a short time but in that time, I found her to be such a fun-loving person…so likeable and easy-going…as if I knew her longer than in actuality. Living a few blocks away from each other, we made a little pact that we would get in the habit of walking up to the pool together with our girls (in their strollers or little red wagons) in anticipation of summer. The last time we were able to get together was shortly before her most recent trip to Indiana. Our vacations overlapped and I returned home to her voice mail message which looking back I now wish I saved. I am so happy that I was able to speak to her that last time if only so briefly on Monday morning the 15th about meeting at the pool on Wednesday and looking forward to catching up. Now, having just returned home from Cathy’s memorial service in Central Florida, I want to thank John and Cathy’s family for the stories you shared about her through the years. What a humble person and what a wonderful family. I am honored to have called Cathy Bielski Dubois my friend if only for a short time, she definitely touched my life. God bless you.


Ellen
June 7th 2005

I'm so sorry. I meant Monday the 14th but I couldn't edit once I clicked submit.


janie kiggins
June 7th 2005

i did not know cathy but what a wonderful person she must have been my thoughts and prayers go out to the family at this time.


Robin Pritzkau
June 7th 2005

To John, Cathy and family,

I unfortunately did not have the opportunity to meet Cathy personally, but knew she was a great person through working with John. The service that was held on June 18th in Orlando was very emotional but also refreshing. I am also married with two toddler girls' and I can't even imagine your painful loss. Watching your daughters and listening to the memories of the family touched deep in my heart. Not knowing Cathy, I left the service feeling like I had known her for years and what a positive impact she had made in my life. As I sat in church with tears running down my face, I was able to put into perspective the most valuable things in my life. I walked away today knowing where I wanted to go in life and the impact I want to have in my children's life.

It is strange how and where we learn some of the greatest lessons in life, but thank you Cathy for answering some important questions in my life. When my girls grow enough hair for bows and ribbons, I will definitely be thinking of you and your girls.

Thank you again for the inspirational service, and may God bring peace to the family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Robin


Amy Van Derzee
June 7th 2005

My husband, Jon, met Cathy through his then co-worker at BOC Gases, Dave Weinerth, and the new circle of friends he made through Dave when he moved to Ann Arbor in 1995. When Jon purchased a home, John Dubois (who had just moved to Ann Arbor to be close to Cathy) became his housemate. Jon and John & Cathy became good friends during that time, and when I later moved to Ann Arbor knowing no one but my fiancé, Cathy made it a point to always include me.

Jon and I never knew Cathy before John, or John before Cathy. To us they have always been "JohnandCathy"...one word. We were friends while dating, as we both were married, and through babies and baptisms. We remember the laughs we shared bellying up to the bar at the Grizzly Peak, the pub crawl and barbeque Cathy planned for John upon his graduation (and the crazy hats they both proudly donned for the occasion--hers had a fake bird perching on top of it!), the Sunday afternoon spur-of-the-moment cookouts at our home or theirs, the loving, but disapproving look in her eyes when John shared one too many beers with Jon (and got ‘marble-mouth’ as I believe Cathy would affectionately refer to it as), her generous hospitality, and her beautiful smile and quick wit.

Last year Cathy invited us to celebrate Lauren’s first birthday with them, and in typical Cathy fashion, she had baked not one, but two cakes...one for Lauren and one for my husband and Rowan whose birthdays fall close to Lauren’s. That’s the way we will remember her, always thinking of and doing for others. The last correspondence we had with Cathy was an email she sent to us in May, congratulating us on the birth of our baby girl. She shared how wonderful it was that we now had two daughters, two years apart, just like her girls. She shared how Lauren was attempting to copy everything Caitlin did in the pool and the joy she got from watching them together. I wanted to refer to that email when writing this but, unfortunately, it was gone from my inbox. I am still in disbelief that Cathy is now gone from our worldly lives and that John and the girls have been left to go through life without her.

In the few days since Cathy has been gone, friendships have been rekindled and a greater appreciation for life, family, and friends has been realized by many. I know Cathy has had a huge hand in that, and I believe she is smiling down at us and rejoicing because of it.

Johnny, Caitlin and Lauren, Dubois and Bielski families...we share this inexplicable loss with you. You are in our prayers now and always.

Amy & Jon Van Derzee


Jackie Elliott
June 7th 2005

Cathy was one of my many cousins. I love her greatly, and that won't end. Dave and I had Cathy and John on our minds just a couple of weeks before this tragedy. We remorsed that we had not yet met Caitlin & Lauren, because we knew Cathy must be the BEST Mom and John must be the BEST Dad EVER! We wanted to see them together and enjoy their family beauty. It cripples us that Cathy has passed so soon, and her beautiful family is suffering without her. We try to focus on the belief that Cathy's essense will continue to live through them as they blossom later on. We love Cathy and everything about her happy, caring, sharing self, and that love lasts forever. We would like to show our love for you John & Caitlin & Lauren even more than ever before, so please let us do anything for you that we can. We will reach out to you and please reach out to us for help whenever you need. We love you! Jackie & Dave & Kian & Troy & Baby #3


Jayla Davis
June 7th 2005

I meet Cathy and John 3 years ago while working at the day care center that Caitlin and Lauren went to in Ypsilanti. It is so hard to find the words to say because she was such a great person and I have so many wonderful memories of her. Everytime I would go to the Dubois house to babysit the girls I could never leave as soon as John and Cathy returned back home, because Cathy and myself would stand at the door and talk for about an hour about any and everything.She was always there to listen and I felt like I could talk to her about anything. She was a wonderful person and I can only wish to be half the mother and wife that she was some day. My prayers are with the family, and know that in your time of pain turn to each other and most of all turn to God.

Love,

Jayla Davis


Fr. Tom Clegg
June 7th 2005

Catherine and family,

My prayers are with all of you during this tragic time. May all the beautiful memories you cherish of your wife, mother, daughter, sister and friend be signs to you of God's grace in the midst of sorrow. I will remember Cathy at all of my Masses this weekend.

God's Peace.

Fr. Tom


Amy
June 7th 2005

I did not know Cathy or her family either. I saw her beautiful picture in the obituaries and was drawn to what her story might have been. Cathy's life story is an inspiration to us all. My heart goes out to her family, especially her husband and daughters. Please know that even strangers are praying for your continued faith and strength. Although I have not experienced your tragedy, I lost my two month old son on January 1, 2004. Coping with his loss has been difficult. However as time goes by, we have been able to feel comfort in knowing that he is in heaven watching over us. May you find comfort in the coming days and months knowing that she is watching over you as well.


vivianseaman
June 7th 2005

Dear friends, We were saddened to hear of the death of your daughter and sister. God's plans are always so different than ours. May the loving Jesus give you strength during this time of grieving. You will be remembered in our rosary novena and our daily prayers. In love and prayers to lon-time friends, Don and Vivian


BOB AND DOTTIE WODRASKA
June 7th 2005

LEN AND CATHY KNOW THAT OUR PRAYER AND THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU ON THE PASSING OF YOUR DAUGHTER. WE KNOW THAT GOD HAD A REASON FOR TAKING HER AT A YOUNG AGE. BE ASSURED THAT SEE LITE UP THE LIFE OF MANY PEOPLE IN HER LIFE. WE REMEMBER THE GOOD TIMES WE HAD WITH YOUR FAMILY AND ALL THE GROUP MEETING. KNOW THAT WE LOVE AND WILL MISS HER. BIG HUG AND KISSES FROM US.

BOB AND DOTTIE WODRASKA


elizabeth bou
June 7th 2005

I only recently met Cathy when she decided to join our neighborhood babysitting co-op. She attended our informal meeting in May so that she could meet everyone else and as the meeting went on it seemed like she was part of our group all along. Not afraid to throw her thoughts into the hat and also not afraid to offer to host the next family social in August....ten families with kids....here she just joined us, and was the first to step up and say, "I would love to host it, it would be fun!!" Amazing!!

Not long after that I visited her at her house to meet her kids and to go over our co-op. She welcomed me and my 2 girls into her home as if we had been friends forever. We talked about nothing and everything it seemed, as she managed to slip a cracker into my baby's hand in one moment while also looking for 2 crowns. One for each of our four year old princesses who hit it off rather quickly over some dress up clothes. She was so excited to be part of our group, as we were to have her join us.

Many in our group also play Bonco (our monthly girls nite out), and we were so lucky that she was able to play just last Thursday as a substitute. Towards the end of the night we both met up at the dessert table(as we had a few times during the evening), and I said to her, "Looks like we will all be heading to the Y tomorrow to work this food off", and she laughed and said "we would all have to go somewhere!!" She was so happy that night, moving from table to table, meeting new people, telling her story and happy to be part of it all.

Her service yesterday was incredible. The strength the family showed was just amazing. Their personal stories filled the church with warmth and love, and I feel fortunate that I was able to share in that.

Elizabeth Bou


mark olsen
June 7th 2005

I am so sorry to all that were close to cathy and john.

I will be thinking of you all.


Judy Duncan
June 7th 2005

This message is for Cathy's mother. Catherine, I worked with you at New Hope. I am so very sorry for your loss. She was obviously a very special person. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. May God bless all of you.


Darren Wilcox
June 7th 2005

In our travels through life we meet new people all the time. People we like and don't like. And every once in a while we are lucky to meet certain people who make us feel really good. Cathy was one of these people who you looked forward to seeing again because you knew she would have a smile for you and you knew that whatever situation you were in together she would make it fun and enjoyable. I only had the pleasure of being around her a handful of times, but she was just one of those special people who had a very positive effect on me. If I have gained even a tiny bit of her enthusiasum and positive spirit then I am a much better person today for having met her. Thank you Cathy.

Darren


Paula Saabye
June 7th 2005

I had the privilege of meeting Cathy through her best friend, and one of mine, Julie Wilcox. The stories of these two girls and their many adventures are just incredible. In 1998, we were fortunate to be able to add an adventure of our own. Seven of us went to the Ocean Reef Club in Key Largo (Cathy & Julie's former place of employment) for a much needed 'girl's trip'. It was a vacation that you dream of... sun and sand, good friends and much laughter. Cathy was the life of the party and I have many fond memories of that trip with Cathy, but one that I can print includes taking over the dance floor during a Spice Girls song at a cheesy bar in Key West! As anyone can tell from reading all of these tributes, she was truly and incredible person who touched so, so many. I send my deepest, most heartfelt condolences to the Dubois', the Bielski's, Julie Wilcox, and Cathy's many, many friends. I truly love the saying that the stars may be the light of our loved ones who have gone, shining down on us. Cathy is one of the brightest stars.


Bonnie & Barry Wilcox
June 7th 2005

To John and the girls:

Our thoughts and prayers are with you. We only saw you as a family a few times, most recently at Sea World, but it was easy to see what a great choice you made John. What a wonderful wife,mother, and friend Cathy was. Dube, stay strong and take good care of those beautiful girls. God Bless all of you. With Love

Barry & Bonnie


Mel Kleinert
June 7th 2005

I knew Cathy from the St. Luke days. I always remember Cathy as a shy girl with a lot of pretty hair (usually braided with a ribbon)and freckles. I never had the pleasure of seeing her again after she moved. After seeing the picutres and reading about Cathy's life after grade school, I realized what a beautiful woman she became both inside and out. I am so sorry that both of the girls will not be able to see their mother again, but I hope they know that she will be watching over them and giving them kisses and hugs, just as she has always done. She will start a new contest of 1 million kisses, so those girls better be ready!


Bryan Elliott
June 7th 2005

Cathy and I spent four years at Brebeuf together and, although our time there didn’t overlap extensively, I will always remember her as a fun-loving, good soul whose compassion ran deep and whose laughter went long. My prayers go out to her and her family in this time of sudden loss.

Bryan Elliott


Nancy Decker
June 7th 2005

Dear John & Family,

We were so sad to hear of the loss of your wife Cathy. We know her mostly through the storys that Andy and Julie shared with us. She was very special to so many people. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Sincerely, Nancy & Jeff Decker


Amy O'Malia/Katie Bauer
June 7th 2005

Although we did not know Cathy personally we knew the Bielski family from our days spent at Our Lady of Mt. Carmel, we would just like to know you are all in our thoughts and prayers. Mary, although we haven't seen you in a few years, please know we are thinking of you and your family during this time and hope you enjoy and celebrate all the memories you have with your sister and family.

Amy O'Malia and Katie Bauer


Sonia Desai
June 7th 2005

I served with Cathy in the Peace Corps, and even though we were not in the same class, she left a lasting impression on me. I remember her very well. Her enthusiam and humor were what stick out the most. I admired her spirit. I still remember certain humorous things she would say. My heart goes out to her family. The world will miss her.

Sonia


Dana Rossini
June 7th 2005

When Cathy moved to Chicago I was

waiting. I had Cathy as my best friend for 3

years until her family MADE her move away

from me. :) I had so muh fun with Cathy.

She lived walking distance from my house

and so if I wasn't over there doing my

version of "staying alive"dance routine in her

kitchen, she was over in my rainbow room

giving me her impressions of celebrities. I

might still have that on tape! I have a box in

my mom's house still of all the letters she

wrote me after she moved back to Indy. Of

her feelings about high school and the move

and all that. I was just home to sort through

all of it and started to read some. It brought

all the feeling of her back and reminded me

what a great gift I was given back then. She

was one of the best I have met through life. I

could trust her, count on her and I know by

knowing her even for a short 3 years she

made me a better person. I saw the way she

treated her two sisters when they would

burst into her room when we were prank

calling Marty Ryan for the 10000 time. and

she would just laugh and make them feel

welcome. She was NOT your typical person.

She was special and loving and kind . No

one knew how to laugh like Cathy. I loved

that time in my life.


Joanna Gilicinski
June 7th 2005

I have known Cathy for less than a year. We

were in the same Gymboree class where her

daughter Lauren and my son William played

together. She always had a smile on her face

and loved to play with Lauren on the

equipment. I remember watching her several

times sing to Lauren or help her climb the

obsticles. I so enjoyed talking with her and

found her a fun person to be around. I was

happy that she wanted to join the babysitting

co-op and Bunco group set up in my

neighborhood. She was the kind of person

you wanted to share with others so that they

could get to know her as well. I will miss her

smiling face and quirky humor.


Rozetia Jenkins DEPSA MAIN OFFICE
June 7th 2005

I had the pleasure of knowing and working with Mrs.Dubois for4yrs.she LOVED her children and Husband John with all of her HEART.Cathy had a passion for teaching children and seeing their progress,making them feel good about themselves it made her very happy.Cathy touched alot of lives and will be missed by many.I have a trophy she gave me this time last yr., I will kept it close as I have,I'll fell close with her.My prayers are with all of you she also loved her mom,dad,silblings she spoke HIGHLY of you all, KNOW that she truly LOVED all of you.


John Butler
June 7th 2005

I met Cathy in Peace Corps, she was a year ahead of me in the program, and eons ahead in understanding that the world is made for two things - making others happy and laughing while doing it. She taught me these truths.

I've not met most of the people who were closest to her in her life, but I'm certain that one thing is true and that is you loved her from the moment you first met her. Like we all did.

-John


Fr. Maximilian (Greg) Dean
June 7th 2005

My condolences to all, especially John and the daughters, and to mom and dad, on the sudden loss of our dear sister in Christ Cathy. She was a blessing to us all during our 4 years together at Brebeuf in Indianapolis. I will offer Holy Mass for the repose of her soul and for all of you, her family, on Friday, June 25th.

God bless you all,

Fr. Maximilian Mary (Greg) Dean, F.I.


Teri De Zwaan (BOC Gases - Ann Arbor)
June 7th 2005

John, Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. I am very sorry to hear of your loss. May the Lord be with you and carry you and your family through your hard times. Please know that many of your "BOC family" is praying for you.


Lysa Curry
June 7th 2005

As the story goes, Lysa Milne, from Cumberland, Maine, moved to Key Largo, Florida after college… One of her long time childhood friends, Andy Wilcox, was one of many to follow… Andy and Lysa decided to rent a house with two girls from Indiana – a lifeguard and a dolphin trainer… who would have known about the HUGE changes in all our lives that were to follow… To make a very long story short… Julie Mathias and Cathy Bielski moved in with me Andy and we had an amazing cast of characters! Julie and Andy fell in love quickly and Cathy and I pretended not to notice. A high school friend of Andy and mine came to visit (John Dubois) and he and Cathy were bickering like they had been together for ever! We all joked about “you two should be married”, but that was that and nothing happened. Later, at Andy and Julie’s wedding – they fell in love! Apparently passion is passion no matter how you express it. I have great memories of Cathy at Ocean Reef - She loved to be silly – she loved to dance and do jumping jacks, and touch her toes (as we goofed around). Cathy, Julie and I won first place at the Ocean Reef Halloween Contest as Charlie's Angels! (Guess who was who!! ) I also remember the time we were at Cheeca lodge (Remember Julie?!) And we had a great time bothering Bo at the Wreck Hall, although I think he secretly enjoyed it! Cathy was truly a fun person and I will miss her a great deal. John, please know my thoughts and prayers are with you, your beautiful girls, and her family and friends. Julie, I’m here for you, too. Cathy has touched many people in her life and we should all be proud and feel special that we were able to spend some time with her.


marge cahill
June 7th 2005

Dear Family of Cathy

your heart must be so heavy with the sorrow of losing your beloved Cathy. Nothing prepares us for the loss of our children, does it? I did seen Cathy several times at The First Friday Mass.

God doesnt promise health and wealth only joy...I have always admired The Bielski family and their love of live.

Our oldest son, Tom age 48 died the same way last October, we found peace with with God and know he is now in heaven, may all of your family now pray to Saint Cathy and without a doubt, she left a bit of herself in each of her children...love to all of your family. marge cahill


Kara Pepper
June 7th 2005

I am seven years old and Mrs. Dubois was my kindergarden teacher in Detroit, Michigan. I love her so much because she was a fun teacher and took us on a lot of field trips. I was so sad when she left Michigan. I missed her so much. She will always have a special place in my heart. Love, Kara Pepper.

My name is Lydia Pepper. On behalf of my family, we would like your family to know that Mrs. Dubois was loved by all the kindergarden kids, parents and teachers at Detroit Edison School. This news saddens me but I praise God and I'm honored that our paths crossed and I had an opportunity to meet her. Kara and I talk about her all the time. Take comfort in knowing that she dedicatd her life to serving others and she accomplished what the Lord placed her here to do. The Family are in our prayers. Lots of love esp. to the kids. Best of all there's wonderful memories of a wonderful person so keep them alive! God Bless you all with strength in this time of sorrow. For to be absent from this body is to be present with the Lord!

The Pepper Family