Benjamin Elo
Sep 8th 1993 - Jul 21st 2008
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Mom and Dad
September 8th 2010
melo@BenElo16.org
Dear son,
Today you should be 17 here on Earth. What would you look like and what would you be doing? Oh, how we miss you. Your goofy smile and humble nature and attitude are things we miss so much. 17 years ago at 7:50 in the evening you popped out in a rush and changed our lives forever. As Jack plays for MHS we watch and 'see' you fitting in on the field. The hard part about your birthday is that while we know YOU are great it is a day that began long ago with dreams and love fulfilled over time and has become empty with so many things that should have been. Please watch over and protect Jack and Grace. And while you're at it, could you ask God to come back soon and save this world from all that is broken? We keep our eyes on Heaven knowing you are so very close but far enough that we can not hold you or hear you laugh. There are so many other parents, Ben, that we've contacted that have also lost children. I hope you have found each other up there and that you welcomed them Home as they arrived. There really are no words to explain how one can 'live' and 'die' at the same time. We love you more than words can say. Say hello to Grandma and Grandpa, Aunt Laura and all the others for us, would you?
Uncle Tim
July 21st 2010
Dearest Nephew, it has been two years today. Time has brought on a level of busyness I have never seen, and at times, I feel guilty for not thinking more of you. But when things are the most hectic, and I am most frustrated, you make time for me to think. i remember. You as a small boy when I would babysit. And you as the impressive young man who made time for Darby. A smile comes to my face, and the burden lightens. When I struggle, I tend to find myself thinking of you, and my perspective changes. I love and miss you, and know you are there listening. Any chance you can share some of that listening with Nolan? Soap in the mouth isn't working so well, and he's running out of lovies to take away.
Please continue to watch and protect over the family, you are doing a great job as usual! When you make your rounds tonight, please bring peace to all those thinking of you today, and perhaps share some words of perspective!
Sharon and Jon Ellers
July 20th 2010
sajellers@sbcglobal.net
Dearly beloved Ben,
It has been two years since we received that horrible phone call...what a shock....and words cannot express how very much we miss you...you are a very special grandson...we were blessed to have had the privolege of having you stay with us for several days a few weeks before...how much fun we had and how much we enjoyed our talks...I continue to talk to you...and even though you do not physically talk back...I feel you close to me.
We just had our annual family reunion at Turkey Run...and we missed you...the last time we were there...you took the two little grand daughters...Emma and Aris under your loving arms...helping them on the trails and up the cliffs...we all spoke of you with Love and cherish our times together.
The soccer camp in your memory was a great success...this was the 2nd year...7 college coaches, nearly 100 children attended, and 100 people volunteered their help...Your Mother was the mastermind...and has put her all into it for you and your LOVE for the sport...the Notre Dame coach has been present both years.
I fel your presence ...and especially during the camp...we know that you are shining a light down on us. !0 of the "Ben's Boys" ....soccer United team members have come to help with the camp....they have been a huge help...as well as Paul the coach....they call me Grandma,too.
I know that the Lord is there in heaven with you and his promise is what keeps all of us going...as we know that we will all be together again one day....we LOVE you, Ben...and miss your presence here with us on earth....but continue to feel your heavenly presence....Forever and Always...Grandma and Grandpa Ellers
katrina
April 4th 2010
Ben! your so lucky you get to spend each and every day with Jesus. please greet this young man who died a couple weeks ago in my community. he was only 17 and i know you'll welcome him with a smile :) you both are lucky you get to experience what heaven is like. i'm really jealous. it has to be the greatest thing ever. after i take the ACT this next saturday i get to come work in your gardens with my mom and your mom :) i'm very excited. i can't wait to see you very soon.
love, katrina.
Katrina..
January 9th 2010
oh Ben, how i miss you.
Dad
January 7th 2010
brian.elo@omnicell.com
My Dear Son,
Another Holiday has come and gone. As I look out my office window at the flag pole, I cannot help but remember the times watching you play outside in the snow. You sledding with Jack and Grace, snowball fights and you coming in the house covered in snow and your Mom yelling at you to keep the snow in the laundry room. The same laundry room that i remember you helping Mom hang wall paper the day before you left us.
I don't know why, but this Christmas and New Year are harder for me than last. I envision you bugging me to get your license, Friday nights at basketball or football games and watching pro and college football with you and EPL. I miss all of that. I can't help but sit and wonder why are you not here. I still struggle with thoughts of that day and find myself praying to God to take those memories away.
With that said, your Mom and I know you are in Heaven and are doing great! We pray daily for God to bring his kingdom back to Earth......and you with it.
May all your goals in Heaven be upper 90, bud!
Love, Dad
mom and dad
November 26th 2009
melo@benelo16.org
Warm thanksgiving wishes to you, dear son. We are thankful for many things this year. The top of our list is the wonderful gift from God of you, Jack and Grace. We can't say 'happy thanksgiving' as our lives aren't 'happy' but we are blessed and thankful. We hope the people you've touched continue to hold your memory close and live their lives impacted by yours......touching others' lives in memory of you.
We pray daily for God to return and will continue to do so with our eye on heaven.
love always and forever
Bailey Pryor
November 9th 2009
Even though I didn't really know Ben, I've heard his story and felt his impact. He has inspired me to take a turn in my life, and even to inspire others like he has. I know he had an amazing life, and his family was the greatest to him. Just looking at some of these memories reminds me so much of Jack. He always makes Mr. Underwood's 6th period class fun. And I always love listening to his iPod when we go to the track. Jack reminds me of Ben in so many ways...I keep your family in my prayers.
-Bailey.
Uncle Tim
October 14th 2009
Dear Ben - Your cousin Darby surprised us tonight at bedtime. After getting into bed, she asked when you were coming back to visit. She hasn't talked directly about you in a long time, to the point where I thought she blended you and Jack together. Your picture is on her board with lots of other photos, and she thought of you. I told her you were with God, and that you would not be coming to visit. She would see you again in a long, long time, but could always talk to you. She asked how you would hear her, and I said "Trust me, with those ears, he will!" and told her she could talk to you like she talks to God during prayer. So Darby said she wanted to talk to you and wanted me to leave the room, and I did. I didn't think she would, but a few minutes later from my room I could hear her talk and she was upset. I really couldn't hear what she was saying, and wasn't sure if I should listen in. After a few seconds I decided to, and all I caught was her saying something along the lines of "when are you coming back and I miss you."
There are times when I think of you and am confident you are in a good place, smiling down upon us, and it gives me great comfort. There are other times when I just miss you and your smile and laughter, and this evening was one of them. We missed you are cousin Mel's wedding this weekend, I'm sure you would have thought it boring, but it was really nice. Darby and Nolan REALLY enjoyed themselves.
If your not too busy, I need your help back on the soccer field, my touch is going south.
LOVE,
Uncle Tim (& Darby)
Wednesday, Oct 14, '09
Amy Bertram
September 8th 2009
flamey@att.net
Birthday kisses to you in Heaven, Ben. Watch over your family today and always.
God Bless,
Amy Bertram
Shelby Reynolds
August 8th 2009
From Where You Are- Lifehouse
June 21st 2009
It's almost been a year in a little over a month.
I didnt know Ben at all actually, but my heart really goes out to all the close friends, and especially the family.
My friend passed away on March 10th, 2009.
At his funeral I saw a gorgeous picture with a quote on the side, it read..
"Time has taken me away from you,
although not very far.
I'll be watching you through the sunshine,
and through the brightest star.
I'll be watching over you,
from the heavens up above.
So take good care of eachother,
and carry all my love.
If you ever wonder if im there,
here's where you can start-
Take a look inside yourself,
deep within your heart."
I really hope you all just remember,
Ben is in Gods kingdom now,
playing soccer with the greatest.
God bless!!
mom and dad
June 21st 2009
Today is June 21, 2009....11 months since you joined Jesus in the beautiful heavens surrounded by family and all those you used to read and learn about at Mooresville Christian during Bible and at church. Tomorrow is the start of your camp, son. It is our gift to you that we honor God doing what you loved so.....soccer. Your flag flies at the soccer fields you never got to play on. God has blessed the camp, the grief ministry and your foundation every step of the way. We lean completely on him and he takes us exactly where he wants us....God is so good. So many young folks have lost their lives since we lost you. I know you are there to welcome each one home and show them around. We were sharing stories with friends yesterday and every one of them reminded us of how you 'lived your faith to affect change". we miss you more than words can say and our hearts continue to be broken, but we count each blessing every day and we pray that Christ will come back and bring us all together in the New Earth....the place beyond heaven that is there for us when Christ returns and judgement is over. Until then, we serve God and hold on tight to your memory and your foundation and do ALL that God asks us to do.
mom and dad
May 16th 2009
As we approach 10 months without you Ben, memories can fade for many. While we grieve daily our loss, life moves on for most. We hope and pray that those you've touched continue to be impacted by the gifts of faith you gave them and that they live to 'pay that gift forward'
Mom and Dad
April 15th 2009
Melo@BenElo16.org
Happy Easter Ben! Of all the 'firsts' this was the gentlest. We still cried and missed you, but the Easter story takes on more relevance for us now. How glad we are that God was willing to sacrifice his only Son for our eternal salvation. If it were not so we would not have our heavenly reunion to look forward to. Praise God for whom ALL blessings flow....and we thank God for you, Ben, and all the joy and memories you gave us. We pray that those you touched are forever impacted by you and will 'live their faith to affect change'. We wonder, do you celebrate Easter in heaven? I guess we'll find out when we get there. We love you and think about you all the time. Say hello to grandpa harrison for us and I hope you're helping him get settled in.
Emily 'Allen' Ogle
March 10th 2009
trinitysky27@yahoo.com
I just learned of Ben's passing about 5 minutes ago (Today is 3/10/2009). I babysat Ben from the age of about one through the birth of Jack and until Gracie was born. I was probably about 12 years old when I began babysitting them and I am now 28. I would love to get in touch with Brain and Melanie to express how sorry I am. Please send this message on.
Love-
Emily
Anonymous
February 28th 2009
Thanks for being a such a great influence on me at school
Brittany Ball
January 5th 2009
hinderlover246@yahoo.com
This is a beginning of a new year. That night when i was at the party with my friends on new years, i automatically thought of ben and the elo family.
To Mr. and Mrs. Elo:
i think you guys have shown great strength in this dificult time. There isn't a day that goes by that i don't think about your family and how hard it is for you. However i know God has something planned for you life. Something great. I believe this ordeal has helped the community in a way come closer. I beliece God is with you always. Never forget that.
To Jack and Grace:
i understand that this is hard for you. i have never lost a sibling, but i have lost a parent. Its hard. Just remember though, you have great friends and family to help you through it. Talk to them. And pray. God is there 24/7 when our friends aren;t. God is the ultimate healer and our father and will make sure we make it through the dificult times. Always remember that. Jack, if u need some1 to talk 2 also, im at school. i c u about everyday. just talk 2 me. And grace, im there 2. Even tho i don't go 2 mca any more, if u ever see me and wanna talk, im there for you.
I am definatly praying for you guys. That God will give you even more strenght.
I loving memory,
Brittany R. Ball
Anonymous
December 24th 2008
Thanks for the exaple you set for those who come after you.
Katrina Kozisek
November 18th 2008
hey ben :) i know you are doing great in Gods kingdom! i am so jealous that you get to see him everyday. i and sooo many other people miss you! we miss your smile we miss the way you would share your faith with no hesitaion. we miss everything! i have so many memories with you and i will never forget them. i kno you are making great memories in heaven :) i love you soo much! you have really touched me. i have learned to love everyone even if they dont deserve the love because God loves all and thats what we should do. you taught me that God is amazing and without him we are nothing and we need him everyday in this crazy world. you taught me not to get so mad at people anymore. we have one life why get mad? why get upset? why get in fights with people? love and share the love of Christ to all because we all need it. you taught me not to be scared of dying i was so scared before i was afraid to go i was afraid to leave everything behind on this earth. but now i'm not i cannot wait till the day i get to join you and Jesus in heaven that will be the best day of my life. i am ready anytime God decides to take me :) i love you forever Ben :)
love, (cousin) Katrina :)
Ashleigh Gore
November 17th 2008
I miss you so much Ben! I think about you everyday...and pray that one day i can be as great as an influence as you. You've touched so many people by not being here.
I haven't took my blue bracelet off ONCE since your funeral...not for anything. :]] I guess that i didn't really want to share another memory, i just wanted to tell you that i miss you so much. I know your reading this from heaven, and probably playing soccer! Don't have to much fun without me..haha.
I love you,
Ashleigh
Amber Viles
October 23rd 2008
Amberball5529@aol.com
It is October 23, 2008.
This is how long it has taken me to actually talk about and discuss the great kid named Benjamin Elo.
Ben was an awesome friend. He would do anything for anyone. Although i never saw him play soccor i was reminded by Ben and told that he was "the best soccor player to ever have walked on Earth." According to Ben him and his muscles were the best at soccer. We talked all the time about that. Ben or Ben"JAMIN" as i called him, was also very, very devoted to his faith. I remeber one day he even started a prayer with me just because he had seen me trip up the stairs and knew i was having a heck of a day. I found myself talking to Ben a lot about God and how awesome of an athlete he had to be. And if all three of us (Ben, God, and me) were on a basketball team, that we would be unstoppable. Ben and I also made fun of eachother, I joked about him saying his muscles would look a little small one day or that he got out way too early in dodgeball. He would laugh and make a witty comment right back. Ben also was in National Jr. Honnor Society, with me, he was definatley a bright kid. We spent the Farwell Future Freshmen Dance together.... even though we both went with someone else. Everytime i turned around he'd be there akwardly smiling at me &asking me for advise on how to do the robot. HA HA i told him "Ben you cant your muscles just get in the way too much." He agreed. of coarse. We got pictures together and talked that whole day. No matter what our dates thought, BEn didnt care he just stayed by my side. I hope that when i go to Heaven and as he is watching over me he still is right there.... right by my side.
Now when i found out about Ben's passing I was in my room doing homework when my brother Adam came into the room. He had this look on his face i have never seen before, or secene since. He told me to come give him a hug and told me about Ben. I remeber that i just crumbled down to my bedroom floor and cried so hard. But everytime i looked up at Ben and my picture form the dance on my wall, Adam would be there. It made me think what would i do without a brother. Here we both sat crying over Ben on my floor when i knew that he was with someone greater now. LAter, even though Adam didnt know Ben i gave him a blue braclet, both of us havent taken it off since.
Ben i know is an angel. He earned his wings way before he passed away. I believe that God sent Ben to make his impact on everyone.... and he did. I just wish that he could have been here longer. Just one more laugh, one more joke, one more episode of him talking to his muscles. But i know he is. He is with God now laughing, joking, and talking to his muscles. But dont worry you two, i will join you some day. And we can make that All-Star basketball team BEn and i talked so much about.
BEn i am doing everything to my fullest.... aspiring to be like you. You are the inspiration to everything that I do. Anytime i trip up the stairs again or am palying a sport, I just think of you and it seems to go by that much easier. As i grow up, I want to be just like you Ben, I hope i can follow your footsteps all the way to Heaven.
To Ben's family. You guys are stronger then i could ever be. I know everytime i see you guys i tear up but you stay strong and you are just as inspiring to all of Ben's friends as he was. Thank you! I dont view Ben's spitrt gone because it is in you. It is what keeps you going and what keeps your loving nature afloat. Thank you so much!
I hope you enjoyed your t-shirts.
Love Always,
Amber Viles
Mom
October 20th 2008
Hello son, it has been 13 weeks today and 3 months tomorrow. We miss you so very much. I see your smiling face so many places and I hear you saying "come on mom....you and dad can do this; I'm great and I''ll see you soon". We know that of course but we miss everything about you and our family is forever broken. There's a Lifehouse song on that new CD with the song 'whatever it takes' that you liked. It's called 'broken' and it's as if we're talking to God about coping with our loss. The words ar amazing. Every day I pray that God forgives my sins, I remind myself that I love God more than I love you or daddy or Jack or Grace and I ask God what I can do to serve Him today. We know you're having a great time and God's using you to do important work in heaven. I pray every day for Christ's second coming.....how much more messed up does the world have to be, really! And every day people have a choice of faith....it can be now as much as later....so Dad and I vote NOW! Watch over Jack and Grace would you? And give Jesus a hug for us. All my love now and until I'm home with you in heaven.
Kelsie Mulvehill
October 11th 2008
mopigirl93@comcast.net
There aren't enought words in this world to describe how great of a friend Ben was. When I first moved here, I was 3, he was one of my first friends and ever since then he was always there for me. Even though we were seperated by schools we would occasionaly see each other when our familys would get together and we would catch up. But in 8th grade when he made the decision to come to PHMS I was so excited because I knew that I would get to talk to him more. I remember everyday in math Ben, Sara, Sydney and I would always talk all class period in math about whatever. From fighting with someone at the time or just talking about what we had done over the weekend I always felt like he was listening and really cared.Ben made such a difference at PHMS that it is really amazing to see how God was really using him. I wish that I had seen Ben before he left but after awhile I realized that he is still there in my heart and that when God decides that its my time to go that I will see him again. I love you and miss you Ben and someday i can't wait to see you again.
Forever #16
Kelsey Strohmeyer
September 24th 2008
Allaboutme0708@aol.com
Ben Elo was such an amazing kid, he changed so many lives even in the short time he was here. Me and Ben were not very close, he was in some of my classes so we did get to talk every now and then and just by those little moments he could make me smile, he was a bright beautiful boy who had so much to look forward to, it's really amazing in my eyes to see the inpact he made while attending PHMS, he changed lives and you will not meet many kids like Ben.
To the parents of Ben,
Seeing how strong you are and the faith you have in God is so amazing, not only has your son made an impact in my life you have as well, you've taught me that God will always be there and to have faith and you can get throuhg anything. You have really taught me a lot and i've never even talked to either of you one on one. I just wanted you to know how amazing i see you two in my eyes and awesome how you guys really are.
P.S, Jack is the biggest cutie ever :)
Amy Bertram
September 8th 2008
flamey@comcast.net
Happy 15th birthday, Ben. Today will be a hard day for your family and friends, I know, so please if you can, come to comfort them....a dream, a feeling of warmth, a sign of love.
Melanie, Brian, Jack & Grace: As this day has approached, you have been heavy in my thoughts and heart. We know all too well the feelings you feel and the thoughts that you think, over and over, day after day. It doesn't get easier, but it gets less difficult. Little comfort do words bring, but God is with you, and you & Ben are loved throughout the world by many. Perhaps our children are celebrating their lives together in heaven today together.
Ben, we miss you and all of the good things you brought to life. Thank you for your presence on this earth. Your life has touched our family immensely. We love you and are blessed to have known you most of your life.
Phil, Lori, Charlotte and Abigail
September 8th 2008
phelo@aol.com
It's the morning of September 8th, it was 15 years ago today that we were blessed by God. Ben - you will always be in our thoughts and prayers. We wish you a Happy Birthday and know you are dearly missed.
All our love,
Uncle Phil, Aunt Lori, Cousins Charlotte and Abigail.
Lexi Smith
August 29th 2008
There is so many thing i could say about ben.. He was such a greast kid "the kid" that every one liked.. had no problems with, and definetally not selfish.. I have many memories with him and i hope to see him one day.. I know that he is an a way better place now..
Love always,.
Lexi
Ben Pruitt
August 23rd 2008
keeper0023@pruittgroup.us
I just recently met Ben at the Notre Dame soccer camp this past summer. I am from Texas and i didnt have any friends there but right away Ben befriended me and made my camp a great experience. Ben was an amazing player and person and his impression on me will always have a place in my heart.
My deepest condolences,
Ben Pruitt
Whitney
August 20th 2008
xplosionchik99@aol.com
Ok the like 3rd or 4th week ben was at school he came up to me to tell me hey and that he was ben and that he wanted to be friends cause he thought and heard i was pretty cool and funny. so yeah as were walking and i went to his class i finally look down and he is wearing high heels and he was like my feet are killing me and im like well why are you wearing them he said i have a bet to win. lol it was the funniest thing ever
so yeah i would love to share a poem i wrote along with a quote i dedicated .. i wrote this poem just for him
My Angel
We all know that you loved us
but now that you are gone
we cry thinking of all of the good memorys
we had and will always be kept with us forever.
You are a wonderful person "Ben" .
" But your love is like the wind we
can't see it but we can feel it".
I love you and will always miss you!
-Whitney Wyatt
and i also dedicated this saying to him
“Love is always patient and kind, it is never jealous, love is never boastful or conceited, it is never rude or selfish, it does not take offense, and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins, but delights in the truth, it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end.”
ok i love you guys all and will always be here to tlk
Aaron Rice
August 18th 2008
shampoo_user@yahoo.com
Ben was the coolest. We had so much fun in History and APC. We lifted weights a lot together and he was always there to keep me going. I remember he was really really really good at History. Really good. Haha, and I just wished I could be as smart as he was. He had a positive attitude all the time, with everything he did, and I thought that was awesome. I know he had a positive influence on me, and I will never forget him.
Rebecca Scott
August 17th 2008
rebeccascott2012@yahoo.com
my fav memory of ben is that i was always cold in school, always. well one day i put my hands on his neck so he asked me if i wanted his sweatshirt and i said if u dont mind. so from then on i had his sweatshirt like everyday :) i had the biggest crush on him too.
teresa fobes dr feng and staff
August 4th 2008
terff12@hotmail.com
to bens parents i feel for your loss.id did not know benpersonally just the wonderful stories me and melanie shared at work they were wonderful thoughts and fun stories my parayers and thought are with you at such a difficult time love and be blessed TERESA FOBES
Dan Herner
July 30th 2008
herner@prodigy.net
I have been the head coach of Southport Presbyterian Church's 5/6 & 7/8 basketball teams for several years. We play MCA 2-3 times a year & almost always have had very competitive games. We at SPC view MCA as a classy and respected opponent.
As a coach, my memory of Ben is a very strong one. In 2005-06, SPC had maybe it's strongest 5/6 grade team. We had only lost a few games all year and had beaten MCA 3 times that year, two of which were pretty all close games. We drew MCA as our first opponent in the year end tournament on MCA's court. I knew going in that we could win if we could keep "the big kid" off the boards. We couldn't. The big kid had 20 points and 15 rebounds ( yes, I still remember exactly ) and we lost 43-36. We simply could not handle him and Ben decided that he was not going to lose again to Southport. I tried everything but we could not stop him.
It was and probably still is my most disapointing loss as a coach, but still it was not as hard to take because we were beaten by a team that was led by a kid that refused to lose.I felt that we were beaten, not that we had lost. here is a difference. Every kid on our team admired & respected Ben Elo and the incredible intensity and determination that he showed that night.
Last January when we our 7/8 grade team arrived to play at MCA, I saw Ben on the court in street clothes and went up to him. I asked him if he was playing and he said that he had transferred to Hadley. I told Ben that I was sorry to hear that and that I would miss competing against him, but that my 8th grade son Daniel whose job I had given to block him out at all costs would be relieved. I reminded hin of that game two years earlier and he did indeed remember & smiled. I also told Ben as I shook his hand that I would have loved to coach him. He thanked me and wished me luck.
My sons are 14 & 12 years old. We have sat down together and looked at this wonderful memorial to a respected opponent and fantastic young man that all of us at SPC admired. We will not forget him. I don't think I am wrong in saying that our community suffered a huge loss when Ben left us so early. I speak the truth when I say that I was as impressed with Ben as any kid I've coached or coached against in the 10 years that I have coached at SPC. From all of us at Southport Presbyterian, I share my heartfelt respect to Ben and wish & pray that his family is comforted in some small measure by the impression he made on all of us.
Aaron Kasper
July 30th 2008
beachsoccer7@comcast.net
Dear Elo family,
Although i knew Ben only from soccer, i could tell that he was loved by everyone that knew him at all. It was unbelievable how many people i saw that came to his viewing, and i am very sorry i couldnt come to the funeral, i really wish i could have.
Ben could always put a smile on my face. when ever we were together he would make me laugh, whether it was a corny joke, or said something that was just funny. i remember in regionals when we were rooming together, and he wore compression shorts all the time, even when he went to bed. i didnt know how he could do it but he somehow found it quite comfortable.
Ben also gave me plenty of courage, especially on the field. i remember in every game he would keep on telling me that he could do better, and how much he wanted to be in the game every second. i just couldnt believe it, even in those intense minutes of the big games.
I know there is nothing that i can say to make it any better, but i truly am sorry. I know what you are going through and i know nothing at all can help. all that i really can say is a prayer that i used to say when i found out about my dad. sh'ma yisrael, adoni elohenou adoni echad. baruch shem kevode machooto leolam va'ed. i dont really know exactly what it means but, i feel that it helps a little bit. much love to all of you guys.
Aaron Kasper #7
Haleigh Richardson
July 30th 2008
RGirl1193@aol.com
Everyday after eight period at Paul Hadley Ben and I always meet in the hallway outside the APC room and talked about our day. Folling the coversation we gave eachother a hug to insure our friendship that grew closer day by day. Ben always had a smile on his face that could light up a room. He picked me up with I didn't even have confidence in myseltf. The cross Ben wore around his neck truely represtented who he was and what he believed.
Melinda Beverstock
July 30th 2008
Iam4Him1st@aol.com
Melanie and Family,
Melanie, I just heard about Ben this morning and I had to contact you to let you know how sorry I am for your loss. In case you're not sure who I am, I am your dental hygienist at Mooresville Family Dentistry. We would talk soccer your whole appointment time! My heart goes out to you and your family and you are in my prayers. I heard that Ben was playing for Carmel....kudos to him! I remember how you would tell me how much he loved to play soccer! We lost one of our best players to Carmel, JT Hiquet....have you met him yet? Great kid and great family. Just knowing that Ben and my son are the same age, the news has really hit me hard. Please know that I will pray for you and your family every day. I will pray God's strength and peace to be
upon you all.
In Christian Love,
Melinda Beverstock
Lisa Woerner
July 29th 2008
woernldw@aol.com
Dear Elo Family,
My family and I are so sorry for the loss of your son.
We too lost our son when he was 16. He was a friend of Rikki Meyers. I learned from Mary Myers of your loss. I know that Drake lost a wonderful friend and team-mate. Your son was a handsome young man. His memory will be alive forever through you his family and all of his friends. God had other plans for him. Ben is in Heaven where the streets are made of gold. God set aside a special place for him. May God bless your family and give you peace.
If you every need to talk to someone that has lost a child, feel free to e mail us woernldw@aol.com or visit
travis-woerners.memory-of.com
Love to your family,
The Woerners,
Lisa, Fritz, Alexis, Nick and Angel Travis.
Ken Johnson
July 29th 2008
knj24@sbcglobal.net
I've know Ben and his family since he and Hailey were in K4 together at MCA. Over the years we went in our different directions until last year when our three youngest: Hanna, Holleigh and Kyler, returned to MCA. Hailey was now an 8th grader at Paul Hadley. Ben and Hailey were always good friends when they were younger and I remember many conversations about "Ben Elo this and Ben Elo that..." Many times even though Hailey seemed "upset" with Ben, I knew it was more a case of "puppy love". Last year, when our family returned to MCA, Ben and Hailey started up right where they left off. They instantly became very close again, and due to the age they now were, things grew more serious between them. I always joked with Hailey that she could date when she was 26, but as teens do they begin to "go out" together. As the father of three daughters, I could not have asked for a more perfect young man for one of my daughters to "go out" with than Ben Elo. Ben to me was the ultimate example of what young men should be about: Faith, family, friendships, academics and an unbridled passion for life. Ben was truly a tall, strong, compassionate "Oak of Rightousness" as God's Word calls us to be. A man amoung boys in many areas, not just in size.
Last year as the coach of the MCA soccer team I had the honor of having Ben play for our team. Ben had more "game" than I could ever have hoped to improve, having played with and coached by some of the best coaches not only in our area, but in the country. I wouldn't say I "coached" Ben but rather I utilized him. He was an outstanding talent. Ben really had nothing to gain personally by playing for our school team, quite the contrary. As amazing as he was, if he didn't completely dominate than some might ask why not and if he did completely dominate than others might say he was selfish. A tough position for a 14 yr old young man. He could have avoided it all by just not playing at all. But not Ben. True to his unselfish and compassionate nature he chose to play in every game he could. He didn't play for himself, he played for us. Ben knew what he brought to our team and he handled it in the most incredible way a young man could. He walked the perfect balance of "controlling" the game as he knew he should as our leader, but he never took the game away from the others. He was completely unselfish, a constant cheerleader, motivator, encourager and teacher. The ultimate example of a team player. Throughout it all he was always courteous, respectful and "professional" beyond his years. Ben Elo made an impact on my family and I that will never be forgotten. As Kyler, my 6 yr old son, said as he was crying the night we found out about Ben's passing: "My buddy died!". Much was taken away from us when God called Ben Elo home, but much, much more remains with us that will impact lives for eternity.
I'll close with this. Last year our soccer team traveled to Orchard for a game. We all arrived at different times and Kurt Janneck, my assistant coach arrived before me. The Orchard coach came up to Kurt and began telling him that he had been speaking with our "assistant coach" (refering to Ben). He believed because of Ben's stature that he was one of our coaches. He couldn't believe it when we informed him that Ben was a player. Well, there was a scheduling mistake and the the Orchard 8th grade team was playing another team so the Orchard coach and AD decided they would play us if we didn't use our 8th graders. So, to the dissappointment of Ben and his fellow 8th graders we agreed. As Kurt and I began to make our way to the sidelines, the Orchard coach (a young , fit twentysomething man that you could tell had a soccer playing background) made the joking comment (with more than a hint of self-confidence) that "if he plays (Ben), I play!" We all laughed it off, but as Kurt and I were returning to the sidelines we both agreed that we would take those odds. I have no doubt that Ben would have stepped up to the challenge and completely "schooled" this confident young man the beautiful art we call Soccer!
Thank you Ben for all you gave and all you left behind. We are all eternally grateful for having had the opportunity to be a part of your life! May God's favor rest upon the Elo family - we love you all!
Remebering #16 Ben Elo!
On the school bus
July 29th 2008
Ben always said thank you when he got off the bus. One day there was a substitute and the kids on the bus behaved horribly. The next day, they were lectured by the bus driver. When Ben got off the bus he apologized and said that while he didn't throw anything, he didn't do anything to stop them....he didn't make a difference. He said next time he would make a difference. It's clear he already has in more ways than we can count.
Mom and Dad
July 29th 2008
We have made the Micah 6:8 verse into royal blue, rubber bracelets that state "Act justly, love mercy, walk humbly". That was Ben! If Ben has lead you to change your life and you would like one please email us your address and we'll gladly send you one in his honor. brian-smi@att.net
We covet your continued prayers
julia Gastino
July 28th 2008
juliagoolia41593@aim.com
I remember the first day Ben came to paul Hadley, He looked so much older than he was so everyone thought he was a high schooler so i just said hi and asked how old he was. we didnt talk a whole lot but i remember talking in the hallways at school... and everytime we talked i would ask him if he remembered my name and he always said jule lol but the last time i talked to him in person, 3 days before he died he remember and said julia lol=] i really was hoping to get to know Ben better.. but i know one day i will
always love ya ben
,Julia
Sydney Myrick
July 28th 2008
volleygirl299@aol.com
The day that i met Ben was a day i didn't think much about at first. It was at one of the childrens services, we were about 5 or 6. when i walked into the room i accidentally ran into him when it was time to sit down to start the class. And i looked over and it was like his face just stuck in my mind. When Callan was telling us she was going to have a boy named Ben shadow her for a day i never thought it would've been the same boy who was so nice to me at sunday school. Even when he came that first day i still didn't realize who it was. But as we became closer and talked everyday in math i then realizied who it was. I told him how i remembered him and from then on it was like we had known each other forever. Some people thought he was kind of wierd when he was saying hello cause he would use these funny voices but it didn't bother him he just laughed it off and moved on. The best thing about Ben was if you told him something that you didn't want everyone to know he wouldn't even mention it again. And he valued all of his friendships so much everyone who he made an effort to talk to felt blessed just to have had one conversation with him. The day i found out he had passed away i didn't believe it. My brother had come home from football and was talking about all of the thing that went wrong in california for the baseball players. Then all of the sudden i heard him say sombody in your class has passed away, i asked him who it was and he said sombody with a last name of Elo but he couldn't pronounce it. So after he was finished trying to say it I asked if his name was Ben Elo and he said yes and i thought i was going to faint. I didn't belive it until I saw his name in the paper.
I just want to tell his family my prayers are with you and also keep looking forward and continue living your life the way you would. And know that Ben is always watching and loving you.
Sincerley,
Sydney Myrick
Allie McLaughlin
July 28th 2008
alexislu44@aol.com
Ben was an Amazing kid. He always knew how to make me laugh. When ever I was upset or down about something I knew Ben was going to make me feel so much better about what ever it was I was dealing with. He always had the biggest smile on his face everytime I saw him. I didnt have any classes with Ben. I wish I would have, but he was always loaded down with gum so I always went to him for a peice :]] We were going to have the best freshman year ever. We talked about having all our classes together, even though we knew it was never going to happen like that.
A couple words I would have to use while decribing Ben would be smart, funny, and a tad bit of a flirt ;]]
The last time I talked to Ben was that sunday night before he passed away. I remeber my phone vibrating as i was walking out of the movie theaters. I had just finished watching the new batman movie The Dark Night. He had texted me asking what i was up to. We texted pretty much all that night,Back and fourth for hours. I told Ben that the clown guy off the movie gave me the heeby geebys. I told him i was going to have a nightmare about the man. Ben agreed the man was disturbing but he told me that he never had problems with nightmares because he always dreamed about me :]] I fell asleep before recieving that message and never got to write back. But if I could send Ben a text up to heaven I would tell him that I will always dream about him. I miss him more and more everyday. And wish i could have just talked to him longer and I wouldnt have feel asleep that night. I'll always love and miss you.
Allie McLaughlin
((ps)) I'm still going to beat you in soccer. Wait for me in heaven :]
Brain and Melanie,
You two are so strong. You guys are such an insperation. You raised such a awesome kid. Just knowing him half a year has changed my life big time. He was such a sweatheart. Always putting a smile on my face. Me and Ben went to the Fairwell Future Freshman dance together, and I was so thrilled that he wanted me to go with him. Looking back I couldnt have picked a better date. :]] Thank you for letting him come to Paul Hadley. Its unreal the effect he has had on so many of our classmates.
((ps)) your house is beautiful!
Jack
Hey buddy! Any time you want another rootbeer float you know who to call. :]] You are an awesome kid with a huge heart. Dont ever forget that.
Grace
I havent got to talk to you. But i saw you playing in the gym at the church. You look like a doll. Ben said nice things about you. My prayers are with your whole family.
Allie McLaughlin
mom
July 28th 2008
melanie.l.elo@gsk.com
Ben, I'll always remember going shopping with you the Saturday before you went home to God. You and I had taken Jack to begin the "teaching" process of shopping. One of things I treasure most in teaching you was to be a GREAT shopper. Just in the last 9 months, you welcomed the opportunity to be wise and frugal and disciplined about your shopping. You were so proud the first time we went to Plato's Closet with your own hard earned money and you came home with a bag of great stuff for $60. Then we hit the mall for American Eagle, Aeropostle and Hollister where you diligently checked the sale racks for bargins. I would smile when you would check the price of something and decide it wasn't worth the money. What warms my heart the most about our last shopping spree is that you were helping Jack. I remember you bringing him a white sweatshirt, saying "try this Jack". He liked it because YOU liked it. I know you were a responsible shopper and I remember you saying " mom you know I"m a good shopper, just drop Aaron and I off at the mall and I'll get alot for my money". What I didn't tell you, Ben, is that while I KNOW you would have done a great job, I just really loved sharing that with you. It was OUR time. I realize that during that shopping day with Jack you picked out only 3 things because the stuff you liked wasn't on sale and we were going to come back later.....that was your amazing patience. I also didn't get to tell you how I appreciated that when we drove to Bloomington to Platos Closet on Jack's recollection of a commercial and the info turned out to be old, you never said a word of complaint to Jack or me....never rolled your eyes.....nothing but Grace and help during our day. We ache with missing you, but our love abounds. We will see you soon. You will always be my Very Best Brown-haired, Blue-eyed, first born son in the Whole WIde World. I love you!
Bob, Melinda & Tristan Lain
July 28th 2008
melindalain@sbcglobal.net
We did not know Ben very well, just what we saw on the soccer field. Our son, Tristan, had the opportunity to play with Ben when he was called up to play with the U14 teams at HFC from time to time. Ben was a very strong player and one that Tristan enjoyed having as a defender. As things change, both Ben and Tristan ended up at CUSC but in different age groups and we did not have an opportunity to see Ben play again.
Our hearts go out to his family and we will remember them in our prayers. I have a special message not only to his parents, but to his brother and sister as well. I also lost a brother at a young age. Sometimes I have questioned why this happened and often I have not had an answer. However, throughout the 45 years since he left us, I have found in the most astonishing places where my life or the lives of my family have been touched by the master working of God's plan through this event in our lives. You will never forget Ben's smiling face and he will be in your hearts forever. Just know that God's plan is greater than ours and Ben has fulfilled what God had in mind for him. He is with our Lord and rejoicing.
I pray for many blessings on all of you!
Melinda Lain
Andrew Majeski
July 28th 2008
pmajeski@att.net
I first met Ben when i was young and we played on the Komets soccr team. We had a bunch of older boys on that team and they would always pick on me. Every time they did this ben would always step up and say knock it off. He always had my back. On that team he was the best team mate anyone could ask for. He was not selfish and he played with his head. When I quite soccer for some years we didn't keep in touch. That day that Ben was shadowing Callan at Paul Hadey my first thought was this is incredible. I was in art class when they came by and I got up and talked to both of them for the whole class period. After they left I was still thrilled because i knew ben was goin to be an awsome influense here at Paul Hadley. After it was final that he was at Pual Hadley we hung out almost every minute. He was in my 6th period class (history with Mr, Underwood). That was one of the most fun period of my whole day. It wasn't just Mr. Underwood...it was Ben. This last spring we reffed together and everytime he had a chance he would say, "Andrew come here. Do you know this move", and i said,"no". So he would take as much time to teach me new tricks and moves. He was an awsome teacher. I was amazed at evrything he did. We would laugh at evreything.
He would always wear this blue mooresville sweatshirt to school. It was funny because Adam and I didnt think he had anyother sweatshirt. we would always joke around with him and that sweatshirt.
We were both trying out for the highschool soccer team and every practice he would push those kids that were struggleing. He would even push me when I was having a hard time. His main goal was to make varsity, and there is no doubt in my mind that he would have made it. Each time i will walk on the soccer feild and each time i score a goal it will be for Ben. I remeber this one time in practice he taught me how to kick the ball and get it to curve.
He was the best friend and team mate tht anyone could ask for.
I wish i could have spent more time with Ben, but i think it was an honner just to know the kid. I will really miss him. When I think of Ben I think of a BIG kid, with a BIG appeitie, that made a BIG diference. He was an amazing kid. He touched so many kids just in Paul Hadley thats its almost unbeleiveable. There is no one that knows him that doesnt think he is in heaven right now, and i know he's with right now as im writting this. God BLess Ben and his whole family!!! We all miss him very much.
Sincerly,
Andrew Majeski
Shaun Krivoshia
July 28th 2008
shaunkrivo@aol.com
My first experience with Ben was at the FC Pride Cup and I wanted to know how the Hoosier FC team had done in a game and up comes Ben from 20 or so feet away and starts to tell me how well his team had played and that they won....interesting to me for this young man to approach me, total composure, confidence and of course with a smile......I had never even met him before and he talked to me like an uncle.....it was awesome. That was the moment I knew Ben was something special.
Some time passed and Ben makes this all-star indoor travel team and you can see it in his face....."I've made it". From there he made the top travel team in the state Carmel United and brought his hard work, positive attitude and winning ways to our team.
Now for a few big moments this past year. Everybody has heard the EXTRA pizza for dinner story, but there is more. At one of our games Ben was able to get a Red card. Not missing a beat, Brian immediately calls Melanie and says "YOUR son just got a red card". Dan Sass and I busted a gut. I'll miss the "Ben, you need to work harder". Still haven't figured that out because Ben ALWAYS worked his butt off at practice and games(I know its a parent thing, I do it myself) I really did think Ben was going to stop and say"I'm giving 400%, what do you want 500%???". But that wouldn't be Ben. Believe it or not Ben finally had a call go against an opponent "smaller" than him this past year. Ben assumed he was getting called for the foul. I think he said "wow!" when he found out he was finally "declared" innocent.
I've known Ben for only 3-4 years, but his passing really has hit me hard. Big Ben was truly a great person. Although i'm not sure he knew it or not, he truly had it going on. Smart, fun, happy, positive, hard working, tough and yet gentle, kind, with great sportmanship, attitude and confidence. Top that off with a fantastic family, great freinds and terrific teammates. Awesome.
Ben will be with me and the CUSC 94 Boys/Family. We hope to see lots of the Elo's in the days, months and years ahead.
God Bless and Love,
Shaun
Uncle Tim
July 27th 2008
telo@molex.com
Benjamin -
Buddy, you have gone above and beyond what I ever imagined! I've had my bad times since you've been gone, and do miss you so. But all the amazing stories and people that I have met because of you has made me even more proud of you.
I took for granted the few times we kicked the ball around when you were younger. I do remember trying to teach you to kick with your laces, or chest trap a ball. (Rumor has it I failed on the trapping part - maybe that's why you became a forward?) While I can smile when looking back, I hoped we would have a chance to do it again sometime, so I could see just how strong you became.
Its funny, since I've started playing soccer again, in busting my butt trying to get back into shape, I was hoping that you could come see me play, instead I you. I wanted to show you that I could still do it, and that YOU would be proud of ME. You provided me with the motivation to push myself. I didn't want you to see me as the out-of-shape wannabe trying to capture the golden years, taking 3 days to get to the point that I could walk upright after a game. I finally felt like I was getting there. And now I won't be able to ask you. Its these simple thoughts that have brought me great sadness, because its a bond that goes back so far between us. And its partially this thought that has lifted me to smile. Because now you will see every trip, mis-play, stumble, and occasional fall, even when I don't want you to. And when I see you again, we will laugh together, and hopefully pass the ball around a little.
I will be talking to you often, even more than when you were here in person. I underestimated you, and have a new appreciation for what true strength is and where it comes from. Could your heart be any bigger? I have kept telling myself there are things I have time to get to, and now realize that many of those things are not to be waited for. Now you are teaching me, and I can only hope to be as good as a student as you.
You have motivated me in new ways, and hope to make you proud. I love you and miss you. We'll be talking again soon.
Robbie Brown
July 27th 2008
dlbdlbrlb@sbcglobal.net
I didn't know Ben for long but the ti,e we had together was AWESOME! WE had 4th period computer class together at Paul Hadley MIddle School at it was ALWAYS fun! We sit next to each other and had fun.One day we were sittin there talkin and we talkred bout our futures and what we wanted Ben said he was going to be a Professional soccer player and he was almost there! He would of been a pro and had a great life! He always had a smile on his face and never frowned, and always encouraged all his friend to do what they believed in! WE all miss him alot and high school will be boring without him!!! I have to tell myself god called him home for a reason and we will know that reason when he calls us all home!!!!! So BELIEVE IN GOD and he will help You.Thanks for all the great times Ben and we WILL see you again someday!!!And he always wore his Blue Mooresville sweatshirt thats how I remember Ben.
Your Buddy, Robbie
To the whole Elo Family,
Ben was a AWESOME FRIEND!! Thanks for letting him come to Paul Hadley so we could all meet him. MY mom is a Cafeteria worker and she always would come home and tell me bout how nice and pollite Ben was.Thank You for the Blue Bracelet I will wear it till it breaks but i will ALWAYS remember Ben no matter what! The Rascal Flatts song is EXACTILY what Ben would say to all of us.Thank You!
God Bless, Don, Darla,and Robbie Brown
Linda Hart
July 27th 2008
beaujake@prodigy.net
Ill miss ben selling the yellow trash bags in the neighborhood.
Uncle Phil, Aunt Lori, Charlotte and Abigail
July 27th 2008
phelo@aol.com
Brian, Melanie, Jack & Grace:
Benjamin Daniel Elo was and will remain an amazing young man, forever. As we discussed this past week, Ben got it! He understood what was necessary to become successful. His work ethic was second to none guided by his faith and wonderful parenting. Ben has left a permanent mark with us and will continue to do God's work in his passing. The mold may be broken, but Ben has left with us 'Defining Moments' we will all remember forever. We will not let the work Ben began here on earth go unfinished. It is our responsibility to carry on his legacy and help guide and nourish those who are willing to follow in our Lord's footsteps. I thank you Ben for making me a believer, more so now, then ever before.
Ben taught us not to sit back and watch. He was involved and willing to step forward with no fear of failure. He always looked at a new opportunity as a way of learning.
Godspeed, Benjamin. Know that you have made us all believers. Individually or as a group, you have proven to us we can make a difference. We will do our best to 'Act Justly, Love Mercy and Walk Humbly'. Micah 6:8
All our love and thanks to Brian and Melanie for sharing such a wonderful, loving young man.
Uncle Phil, Aunt Lori, Charlotte and Abigail Elo
Callan Swaim
July 26th 2008
mhsvolleyball94@aol.com
Ben and I went to MCA together at a very young age and....well I wouldn't really decribe us as BEST friends at that point in time...but we were friends. One day, in 1st grade, I came home from school and said "Well Mom, I guess I am going to have to marry Ben Elo, because he is the only boy taller than me!" And just about every
one thought that was humorous..and therefore teased us for the rest of time.
Just about a month before Ben came to Paul Hadley, our familes happened to run into each other at church in the fellowship hall, and my my mom, being who she is, had to bring up the fact I said Ben and I were made for each other, in 1st grade. Once the words came out of her mouth Ben and I gave each other a little look of, embarassment, joy, and nervousness, because we hadn't really communicated much since MCA, but this meeting kick-started our phenomenal relationship.
Ben was my best friend, we prettty much did everything together, every morning we would meet each other at our lockers, and walked around the school, talked with each other,and our friends for about 15 minutes until school started. Occcasionally we would see each other in the hallways and greet each other with a hug, and a big smile. At lunch time, Ben and I usually skipped lunch and went to the gym or Mr. Cooks room. Ben had become my right hand man, and my hero. No matter if people at school talked about how he was different, being so open about his religion, he never denied the right thing to do. He made a big difference in our school and we are lucky to have had him at Paul Hadley. I love Ben like a brother and like a best friend, (and as a boyfriend at one time) and I am looking forward to seeing him in heaven. I will continue talking to Ben and asking his advice on my problems, as I did before, and I will never forget him as long as live. I am so grateful to have my blue bracelet, from the memorial ,to wear to remind of Ben and I plan on wearing it forever!
Hailey Johnson
July 26th 2008
hj93@sbcglobal.net
I had known Ben Since about k4. He was the Best friend anyone could ever wish for.....kindergarden through 3rd grade while I was at MCA Ben would tease me alot and say things that bugged me but we were still great friends......but when we became better friends later in life he told me he only bugged me because he was a guy and he liked me and thats what he was supposed to do. I played soccer with Ben and I always thought he was the most talented person ever... I was really looking forward to watching him take his soccer skills to higher levels through out his life.
After I left MCA I didn't talk to Ben as much anymore.....but at the very beggining of 8th grade I went back to mca for a basketball game and i saw ben. When I saw him for the first time after not seeing him for a long time I thought he had become just about the best looking guy ever. During the game me and ben spent the whole night walking around the school talking.....i dont think I stopped laughing the whole time.
When Ben came to Paul Hadley half way through 8th Grade I was soooooooo excited... i hadn't gone to the same school as him for a while, but I still knew how great of a guy he was. when he came to PHMS me and him went out for a while and i realized he was an even greater boyfriend. He was always there when you needed him and I could trust him with anything. Now I realize that I was Really Really lucky to get the chance to date him....... he was one of the best guys I knew.
Once when we were dating we went to the movies and i brought my friend Sara and we spilled our gummi worms all over Ben.....but just being the great guy that he was he didnt get mad.... he just started laughing. when i got home that night me and ben talked on the phone until about 3 oclock in the morning. During that conversation Ben and i were joking around.... and he told me that if i died before him then he would make sure my funeral was in all pink, but then we got more serious and he told me something i will never forget he made me promise that if he died before me that I would keep living my life to the best that I could, and that i would try to succeed in everything i did, he also made me promise that i would work my butt off in soccer for him and that me and our other best friend Callan would stay close friends...... but the most important thing he made me promise that night was that I would live a good life that would make him proud and i would be strong and set good examples and make good choices and that I would try to live strong when he moved on to heaven. I didnt think that i would have to do these things so soon after he said it...but i told him i would and im going to try my best to keep that promise.
Im going to miss stayingg up til 4 in the morning talking on the phone with him......n sitting on the computer for hours on end instant messaging him. I'll misss passing notes in class and making funny faces when the teacher turned aroung in Language......sitting together at lunch listening to his ipod and talking about the most random things sharing a green powerade.
the thing that amazed me the most about Ben was that he never stopped loving or caring no matter what the situation was. we went to Florida together for a soccer tournament in january 2008 and he amazed me that he could walk straight off the soccer and want to give me a hug.... no matter how hot it was...or that he would be dead tired after playing 5 games in a row and he would still go out on an empty field and teach my little brother some foot skills. im going to miss everything about him.. but life will definitly be different with out his love and care.
I know that ben packed alot of living into his 14 years of life, and i only regret not being able to have one more conversation with him or hug him one more time or being able to hold his hand and talk as we walked around MCA one more time. I wish i could 've had one more late night chat on the phone or on AIM. and I regret not being able to say good bye but I know that he was loved and he knows how I feel right now......and i realize that I was lucky enough to get to know him as well as I did. and thats something I wouldn't trade for anything......Ben was amazing....and i was so lucky to be a part of his life.
I'm going to miss Ben alot but there is no doubt in my mind that he is in heaven right now in a happy place. and some day i'll see him again......I know he's still with me....just in spirit, and that he's watching over all of us.
I love you ben....and always will..
Hailey
Jack: I know this is hard....but you are in my prayers and i don't doubt for one minute that your going to make a GREAT big brother to Gracie. you don't even know the extreme amount of people you have praying over you and your family right now. You are an amazing, talented young man and you have a wonderful future ahead of you.
Gracie: you are the sweetest most wonderful little girl, daughter, and sister I have ever met. I love you so much. and I know you will go far with life. you are gifted and talented just as well as both of your brothers, and don't let anyone tell you any different. I love you sweetie.
brian and melanie: you guys are great parents. you did a wonderful job of raising ben and i feel like one of the luckiest girls that i got to be best friends and girlfriend to your amazing son. i'm glad that i've gotten to know you guys as well as i have. and thank you for everything you have been in my life too. I love both of you so much.
Ben Elo was one of the greatest people i have ever met and he has had a HUGE impact on my life.......thank you Ben.....i'm looking forward to seeing you again someday. But for now i'm going to try my best to keep the promise i made to him.
love always
hailey
Kayla Williams
July 26th 2008
Ballerbabe614@aim.com
I remember ben very well. yeah we only met eachother like half way into the summer but it felt like i have known him FOREVER!! He always new how to make you laugh or cheer you up, and he was such an AMAZING friend. I could talk to ben about anything cause he always was there if i needed him. He was always there for everyone! We also had so much fun when we got to hang out. I had so much fun talking to him because we had alot of things in common cause we both liked everthing up to baseball to tv shows. =) I will miss him very much, as us all!!! Im am very thankful and happy i met Ben. He was my best friend! I love you and will miss you very much!!!! See you again someday.
Zach Rodgers
July 26th 2008
carmelsoccer00@aol.com
The one thing i remember about ben the most is how always seem to make people laugh . Even if he wasn't trying to make you laugh you still would. I met been about two to three years ago and im glad i got to meet such a nice, smart, loving, caring, and well respected friend. I remember if I was going through a tough time Ben was always there first to make sure i was alright. Ben always thought of others before himself. He would always put forth all his effort in soccer. When the team would give up Ben was there to pick us up and i remember a game down in Alabama and Ben had to sit out that game but it sure didn't feel like it because i saw him during the game running down the sidelines back and forth cheering us on. I also remember when you would always tell me to do a move over and do it slower so you can learn how to do the moves. Ben loved the game and was more dedicated than anyone i've seen before. Its going to be tough without Ben this year but i decided whatever i do from now on is for Ben. I love you like a brother and I will never forget you . You are such an inspiration to me . Im glad i got to meet such a good friend as you .
In loving memory ,
Zach Rodgers
Steph Cooley
July 26th 2008
peetreebaby09@yahoo.com
Ben was a great i went to school with him in 8th grade and he was in my 6th period history class with Mr.Underwood and he always found a way to make someone laugh...he was soo smart everyone wanted him on there team wen we were put on teams.....he was such a great guy..and one of my friends....i just wish i could of said good bye...i miss ben so much...its going to be differnt Freshman year without him there.....
Sincerely Stephanie Cooley
Katrina Kozisek
July 26th 2008
watermelonsweetness@hotmail.com
so i wrote a paper about this but i'll put it on here too. last year we were at our family reunion we have every summer and me and ben didnt really talk and i wish we would have. if i could have 3 wishes one would be that ben could be brought back and 2 that i could have gotten to kno him more and 3 that ppl were more like him. anyways we were by a spring and we were throwing buckets of water on each other it was so much fun! and i felt super close to Ben at that moment. he was soo much faster and bigger than me i couldn't catch him to throw the water on him be he could catch me it was good times :) there are many more memories i share with Ben i have a video of me when i was a baby and he's in it 2 times and he was pushing me in a little barney car it was so cute :) i'm going to miss him soo much! i love him soo much! i can't stop thinking about it and i kno its so much harder for his parents and siblings and closer family. i've learned a lot this week and that is so love your family be happy and never forget cause it can be snatched away at any moment. i love Ben and always will. i talk to him and i talk to God i feel closer to God then i had before he left us and went toa better place :) a much better place and i kno Ben is looking down at everyone now and is smiling cause he has family and friends that love him greatly and will miss him soo much! I LOVE YOU BEN i'll never forget you EVER!
Bret & Zach Rodgers
July 25th 2008
btczem6@aol.com
I awaken to realize that I have been dreaming of you at one of our soccer games from this past Spring ... Watching from the sideline, I'm holding my breath in anticipation of what you will do ... will you dribble right through the keeper and the goal itself ?... you're moving so fast and so strongly with the ball ... the closest defender is struggling to stay with you, bouncing off of your shoulder as he begins to realize he has no chance of stopping you. Drawing more defenders, you angle towards the goal with the shot before you and then ... you lay the perfect pass across the face of the goal and to your teammate. You celebrated his goal with more joy than you would have your own. He was there because he trusted you. He ran as hard as he could to try to catch up to you.
These words "try to catch up to you" seem so fitting, Ben. You lead by example. You lead even when you didn't know you were leading. You were so humble. It meant so much to me to have your Dad say that it was one of the best times in your life to play with our team. When Zach asked me two winters ago to put together a team of the best players in Indiana to play against and beat the best teams in the Midwest (Vardar & GrandValley), I had no idea that it would lead to anything more than a weekend of fun and fulfillment of my son's wish. Your Mom is right, it became a means by which everyone on our team, players, parents, and coach alike came to be blessed and challenged by you.
I will so very much miss seeing you play, watching you practice with my son, but even more so I will miss seeing your interaction with the other boys and with Paul at our team dinners, before & after games, at practice, and so on.
You have given us lifelong memories and as your parents so aptly point out, a wonderful example of faith. When I was your age, I struggled to understand the meaning of "faith is assurance of things hoped for, proof of things not seen". My best friend as I grew up (for whom you remind me of a great deal) and you provide the clarity by the way you both have lived. I'm not sure as to the accuracy of what I recently heard, but it was said to my understanding that the ancient Egyptians believed that there was an afterlife for those who lived their life with joy and were a joy to others. You always gave Zach and me great joy. Thank you so much, Ben, and to your family for sharing you with us. We always loved you, we just didn't know how much.
Bret Rodgers
Father of Zach Rodgers (teammate of Ben's on CUSC) and team co-manager.
Cousin Mel
July 25th 2008
mrbroholm@bsu.edu
When Ben was born it was so exciting, he was the first cousin my brother and I had on the Elo side of the family! When asked to recall a favorite memory of Ben, the same thing keeps popping up- when Ben was very small he used to walk down the driveway at Grandma and Grandpa's old house, smelling every flower along the side of it. Ben, you are missed, and I wish I would have spent more time getting to know you. The time I did spend with you will always be cherished.
Love always,
Cousin Mel
Amy Bertram
July 25th 2008
flamey@comcast.net
I have known Ben since was about 2 years old, as his family moved across the street in the small community in which my father and stepmother (Joe and Brenda Van Mol) live. We saw him 1-2 times per year, and my now 14 year old daughter Kate could not WAIT to get to Grandma and Grandpa's house during those visits. If the Elos weren't home as soon as we got to the house in those younger years, Kate would ask incessantly, "IS BEN HOME YET??" We even flew down over Labor Day weekend in 1999 for Ben's 6th bday party AND to see little Miss Grace for the 1st time. Kate hurt herself on one of Ben's bikes, and she was a buzzkill the rest of the weekend. (Sorry, Ben!)
The memory that sticks out most is the Saturday of that Labor Day weekend back in 1999 when Gma and Gpa took Kate, Ben and me to an outdoor concert/festival. We brought a basket of food and some drinks, and Ben was so excited because he had gotten his mom and dad's permission to try a soda (mind you...caffeine free, of course...I think it was a Sprite) for the very first time! That was awesome to see the look on Ben's face when the sugary bubbly goodness touched his lips. I'm pretty sure he didn't know what to make of it.
Ben, you were always a kind and wonderful boy, and your amazing spirit lives on in all whose lives you have touched. Brian and Melanie, you are wonderful parents and sincere, amazing people: you will perservere and celebrate your son. Jack and Grace: you were so lucky to have Ben as your big brother all your lives, and you are better for his love: just be Jack and be Grace, and in doing that, you will make Ben, your mom and dad, and God above proud.
All our love,
The Bertrams
Laura Bade
July 25th 2008
bricwalk@sbcglobal.net
I never met your son. I saw his obituary in the paper. With the loss of someone so young, I went to this website to learn more about Benjamin. What a guy! In just his short 14 years he achieved so much. To also read of his love for the Lord and to live the life of a Christian is so overwhelming. I don't know what happened to Benjamin, but I do know, from reading his life story, watching the film, and reading the many tributes to him, he is now with the Lord. What an example he has set for many whom are now left behind. Your family are in my thoughts and prayers................
With deepest sympathy,
Laura Bade
Paul Kerridge
July 25th 2008
The first time I met Ben was at Soccer tryouts. We spoke for a while and after watching him play I offered him a place on the team. He was so excited he didn't know what to do with himself. The following day I called Brian and spoke to him not only to offer Ben a spot on the team but also to let him know what a tremendously likeable and polite young man Ben is.
From his very first impression Ben was a credit to his parents and the upbringing that they gave him.
Sorely missed but never forgotten.
PK
Laurie Quay
July 25th 2008
la_quay17@yahoo.com
Melanie & Brian,
My heart is just breaking at this horrible, shocking news. I haven't seen Ben since he was a pre-schooler, and he turned out to be such a handsome young man, and from everything I read, you have every reason to be extremely proud of him. I have wondered about him through the years, since his birth was so close to my son, John's. I remember all of us marveling at the amazing resemblance he had to his dad. I am praying for your whole family. You have my deepest sympathy.
Sincerely,
Laurie Quay
Brenda Van Mol
July 25th 2008
bvanmol@aol.com
Brian and Melanie,
You know how much we loved your son. He was the "grandson" that we could see every day. Since our own grandchildren live in other states, Ben was the one that we could talk about and share stories about with our friends. He was the one we could spoil, like giving him Hershey Kisses (which he thought were toys) and Coke!!! If you could have seen the look on his face when he took that first drink of Coke; we introduced him to a whole new world! He would come over to our house and try any "forbidden food" with glee!
As he grew older, we saw less of him, but you were obliging in giving us access to your other two wonderful children, Jack and Grace. You two are awesome parents and fantastic neighbors. You have made us better people by just being here.
Joe and I love you all,
Brenda
Jim and Kris Zaloudek
July 25th 2008
kzaloudek@gmail.com
Dear Brian and Mel-
Having known you both since our college days at Butler, we have many memories (some of which we will not share!) of watching you grow from fun-loving college grads (madly in love!!) and ready to take on the world...to new homeowners buying your first home in Indianapolis...to expectant parents decorating Ben's darling nursery in everything Beatrix Potter...to planning and building your beautiful home in Mooresville...to having more kids and adjusting to everything "family".
You transitioned beautifully from kids to grownups to parents and have become amazing parents. We have always admired the way you've been raising your kids...rules, unconditional love, healthy lifestyle, strong work ethic, love of sports, emphasis on education, and most of all being Christians and modeling your love of Christ to your children...teaching by your example.
We were crushed when we heard of Ben's passing. Our hearts are breaking for all of you, and we are praying for you.
Jim and Kris Zaloudek
Chris Wolfe
July 25th 2008
bearfan923@yahoo.com
I did not have the pleasure of meeting Ben however; I went to grade school and high school with Brian. I am so sorry for your loss. I wish that your pain and sorrow are eased with time and healing. Allow Ben to live on in your memories of all the good times that you shared. It sounds like he touched a number of people and left quite a path for other young children to follow. May God be with you! Take care, Chris Wolfe and The Whole Wolfe Family, Robert, Elaine, Deb, and Joe
Cara Herbig
July 25th 2008
caraherbig@comcast.net
We only had the opportunity to see Ben once each year when we visited Dad and Brenda on Memorial Day weekend. However, it was so great to see how he had changed and grown year over year for those 12 or so years. Since Ben was born only a month before my son, it was pretty neat to see how each of them were progressing in age, size, and in many other ways. A few things stick out for me though, and the biggest one was what a truly good person Ben was becoming. I have 3 girls and a boy, and I have always said that God knew I couldn't handle the garden variety, getting into trouble kind of boy, so he gave me Christopher. I am pretty darn sure that Ben was that kind of boy too. Just a good, kind, sweet, loving kid. Loved sports, loved his family. The one other thing that I remember was coming out one Memorial Day weekend, and being completely dumbfounded at how TALL Ben got in just one single year!! I mean, no joke, I thought he was Brian! That was a serious growth spurt.
Melanie and Brian, Jack and Grace, I know that this is beyond all comprehension the most difficult and painful time of your life. I also know and believe that someday we will all be able to talk about Ben, remember him, celebrate him ...and do this with the joy completely overriding the sadness. I will never forget your son - he will live on with my family, I promise you that.
Cara
Steve Klinger
July 25th 2008
sklinger@spitfire.net
I'll always remember Ben as a great kid, strong leader and giving heart. My first acquaintance in 2001 was our church's first mission trip to Calnali Mexico, Ben was 8 or 9 and came with Melanie. He woke up the first morning and his first word were "I can't even believe waking up to roosters!". I was amazed at the way he intereacted with the village children, while not speaking spanish, he understood play and soccor. Recently during the floods in Martinsville - the entire Elo family showed up to help. The truck of supplies/cots showed up late - everyone was tired, but Ben (and Jack) immediately jumped in the truck and started unloading. I know Ben is organizing kids in heaven and his spirit lives on.
Justin Moore
July 25th 2008
justinmoore19@aol.com
Ben was such an amazing kid and a great influence on so many people. I enjoyed Ben's great leadership attributes both on and off the athletic field. Watching Ben inspired me to be the best that I can be at everything that I attempted. Everyone looked up to Ben. He was a walking influence to non-believers, and his life was truly lived in pursuit of Christ. My thoughts and prayers are with the Elo family. Thank you Ben for always living your life to the fullest. You knew how to bring a smile to all that knew you. I know that you have found your true home in Heaven and are at the feet of your Savior worshipping Him. I miss you and love you.
"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28
Deb Titus
July 25th 2008
rdbe@aol.com
Melanie and family, From all of us at Dr. Don Duggan's office, please know that we are praying for you all during this terrible time. Words cannot express the pain that you are feeling right now, and only God can mend your broken hearts. Please trust him. Ben sounds like an amazing boy that you can surley be proud of. The staff of Dr. Don Duggan
Lake Price
July 24th 2008
Lakeprice@hotmail.com
I remember when Sassy,Parker, and I all went over to Ben's house and had a big paintball war. We got a bunch of scratches and bruises from the woods that we were having the wasr in and the getting hit by the paintball. The funniest thing was when Parker hit Ben right on the top of the head. His hair was all green from the paint. After the war all four of us watched Blazing Saddles din his basement. It was one of the funnier movies ive seen. After that movie Ben and us would always say lines out of it. It was fun.
Best of wishes to the Elo family,
Lake Price
Ashleigh Gore
July 24th 2008
ash_xoxo1@yahoo.com
There are not enough words to describe Ben Elo. Some that come to my mind are caring, compassionate, generous, forgiving, considerate, loving, athletic, hilarious, and understanding. Ben and I had our ups and downs, but I really got to know him this year. I learned that there was much more to him than his athletic ability. Underneath, he had a heart that reached out to everyone that he cared for. Ben always did his best at everything. Anything Ben set his mind to, he did. Whether it be winning a soccer game, or getting good grades…Ben accomplished it all. He didn’t know the meaning of quitting.
I can remember passing notes with him in class all the time. We would talk about countless random things. We told each other that we could ask each other anything…. and that we would be honest. Ben always knew how to make me and everyone else he knew smile. I remember staying up until midnight talking to him on the internet, and getting to know his “soft” side. I would always be online, just waiting for him to get on where I could talk to him. It would be the highlight of my whole entire day. I remember that when he wasn’t getting along with another student, he came to me for advice, which meant so much. Kings Island 2007 was amazing. We rode all the roller coasters together, and took tons of crazy pictures on THE BEAST. Ben was definitely my best friend before he went to Paul Hadley.
We played soccer together, and of course he was the best one on the team. He was so encouraging to everyone, including myself. Ben was an encourager. Whether on the basketball court or on the soccer field, he was always shouting “It’s okay, nice try, maybe next time.” Ben was both a great winner and also a great loser. He was arguably MCA’s Most Valuable Player.
When Ben left Mooresville Christian Academy, I at first did not accept his decision. I didn’t understand why he would just leave when he only had one semester left. I regret not supporting him. He wanted me to be supportive, and understanding..but I could not do what he had done for me so many times. Now I know..that God wanted him to go to Paul Hadley. If he wouldn’t have switched schools, those people at Mooresville wouldn’t have had a chance to meet this amazing, talented guy.
It is going to be different without Ben here, talking to his biceps, telling hilarious jokes, and making me smile. The thing I will miss about Ben the most…is definently how he listened. I could tell Ben everything, and instead of judging me, or whatever he could’ve said or done…he was there for me. He made everything better. Even through bad times..i always knew that a smile would emerge when I talked to him.
Ben will never be forgotten in my heart and in the hearts of those who love him. He was a great person, inside and out (not to mention I had a crush on him all year ) I will always remember his smile that would light up the room. And every morning he would make it an effort to come up to me and say “Good morning Ashleigh.” And even if I was having a bad day, Ben would make me smile. We should be happy to know that Ben is in a much better place. I can imagine him playing soccer on streets of gold standing next to God.
To Ben’s parents, Brian and Melanie-
You both are amazing parents. You should be very proud that you raised such a talented amazing kid. Know that your son was a light to all that he knew. He was a friend to many, and a great team mate to others. Ben was very lucky to spend his life with you two as his parents; setting great examples, and teaching him so much. I bet he is looking down from heaven, thanking the both of your for forming him into a great kid.
To Ben’s Brother and Sister: Jack and Grace.
I can’t imagine what the two of you are going through. But the only word of advice I have, is to always trust in God. When you are having those bad days..or difficult times, always know that God is never far. Don’t be afraid to talk about Ben. All the fun you had with him, the countless memories, his personality. Ben is listening. Jack, he knows that you are going to be an amazing older brother. Grace, he knows that God can fill the emptiness you are feeling.
2 Timothy 4:7- I have fought the good fight. I have completed the race. I have kept the faith.
Ben..we love you, and you will never be forgotten.
Brittany Ball
July 24th 2008
hinderlover246@yahoo.com
I remember when i was in sixth grade and we had had our first class for band. My close friend cyli was sitting next to me. Ben was in the back playing the drums with his best bud aaron. Everytime cyli called him she always called him bean. I never really knew why but thats the name she gave him. After that all of us got names.
Ben was always cool. He was great at sports and just loved life. Thats one thing out of the many that i liked about him. He was cool.
Jacob Frankovitz
July 24th 2008
jhfrank3@comcast.net
Ben remember that time in practice when you got so mad at me, because whenever you would get the ball I would put high pressure and be real physical. So when I was pushing you with my shoulders which was like up to your waste I accidently elbowed that area on you that is your weakest spot AKA your pot of gold. Well Ben that is only one of the many memories that me and you shared for the twelve months that I knew you. I will miss you very much and your family is holding up very strong. Were all here for you.
Jacob Frankovitz AKA JE (Jewish Enforcer)
Lisa King
July 24th 2008
I didn't know your son, but I came across his obituary in the Kokomo Tribune. What a beautiful young man. Please accept my sincere condolences in the loss of your son and brother. I know he is in the arms of Jesus and safe. There is a wonderful website www.findagrave.com where people can go to leave notes and flowers. I have placed your loved one there, and I hope that all who see it will continue to honor him. I know how hard a loss can be. May God bless you all.
Travis Cunningham
July 24th 2008
travis.cunningham94@gmail.com
I can't believe you are gone - I didn't get the chance to say goodbye. I'll always miss you Ben... too bad we didn't have the chance to hang out much lately.
One memory I have of you is when I held you and Aaron *hostage* in the basement with an airsoft gun and I didn't let you out. I'm sure you were shot a few times even though your dad did say not to shoot it in the house.
I'll miss you for a few years but I'll be up there to hang out with you later. I'll see you again.
Debbie Victor
July 24th 2008
dvictor@spsmw.org
Dearest Brian, Melanie and family,
My heart is only one of so many hurting right now. Ben was such a tribute to you. His infectious smile, look of wonderment, and love for life will forever be etched on my heart. As his other "soccer Mom", I can assure you that your son was the most thoughtful, polite, Christian young man that I've ever seen at the young age of 14. While he never "wore his Christianity on his sleeve", it was always present in his humility and character. Again, a visible tribute to his upbringing by two loving, caring parents.
We will miss Big Ben terribly.
I'm not sure how we will make it through the next soccer season, but as I told Parker, Ben would be saying "Dude, we have GOT to do this!" And we will ~ for Ben.
The Victor family, as everyone else, will be lifting you up in prayer as you begin this healing process and beyond. Know that we will be forever grateful to you for sharing Ben with us, however brief. What a huge impact this young man has made on so many lives!
God Bless you, and keep you in His loving care.
Love always,
Debbie (and the guys)
Skye Hart
July 24th 2008
skye.victoria@mchsi.com
I lived only a couple houses away from Ben, he was a great kid. My best friend Stacey and I always played with Ben, Jack and gracie when she was older. Sadly we moved in 2004, which ment no more seeing Ben and his family.
When I figured out that Ben died I was overcomed with grief. Even though I haven't seen him since i was in second grade, I still miss him.....
~skye
Manuel Calle
July 24th 2008
manuelcallea@hotmail.com
I remember when I was ten years old, Ben taught me how to shoot a soccer ball the right way. Now every time that I shoot I shoot the way that Ben taught me. Ben thank you very much, you are in my prayers and I will miss you.
Manuel Calle
Uncle Denny
July 24th 2008
I remember Ben as being the most kind and thoughtful young man that I have ever known. He was also very competitive and a great athlete. I remember playing RISK with Ben and he took me on and “BEAT” the all time RISK CHAMP. At Pokagon State Park this summer Ben and I went bike riding and went slow to allow me to keep up. He was a most respectful young man to everyone.
Katrina Kozisek
July 24th 2008
I remember two years ago at Spring Mill state Park her and Ben go into a water fight and were dumping water all over each other. It was really fun. I am going to miss Ben. We were only two months apart in age. I always look forward to the family reunions in the summer. We will always cherish the times Ben was with us and will always keep his spirit in our hearts.
Barbra Kozisek
July 24th 2008
I remember when Ben and Katrina were about a year old at my mom and dad’s house. Grandma and Grandpa Harrison were there and Ben and Katrina were pushing around the Barney car, which is one of those push cars. They had a little tiff as to who had the Barney car first. Grandma was cheering on the two of them in that voice that we all remember. I also remember the time that we ran into Melanie and her kids at the Indianapolis Children’s Museum and we came back to her house and let the kids play. Ben was great with the kids as he got older. He will be greatly missed but those in heaven will be greatly blessed.
Jesus said, “Do not your heart’s be troubled, trust in God, also in Me. In my father’s house there are many rooms. If it were not so I would have told you I am going there to prepare a place for you and take you to be where I am.” (John 14 1-6)
Uncle Steven Neubauer
July 24th 2008
He always marveled how grown up at a young age Ben acted and always thought that are sons could learn a great deal from him. He mentioned on more than one occasion that he was a great role model to our sons.
Cousin Emma
July 24th 2008
Emma loved her cousin Ben and all his piggy-back rides. He was always lifting, teaching and helping her on the state park trials at our annual family reunions. He always looked after the little ones.
Cousin Bruce
July 24th 2008
Bruce thought Ben was so great teaching Ben soccer at all the family get-togethers. He took the time at one reunion event to teach Bruce how to play baseball. I remember him working with Bruce to teach him how to hold the bat and hold the glove and play ball.
Cousin Paul
July 24th 2008
Paul spent many hours playing soccer with Ben at reunion and in Michigan. He loved playing the RISK board game with his cousins at Christmas and learned a lot from Ben.
Paul really looked up to Ben and saw him as a role model. He liked to follow him around.
Aunt Linda
July 24th 2008
My memories of Ben are of his birth to a few weeks ago. I have some wonderful memories, but I remember most is caring and kindness. He was always willing to help with anything that anyone needed. He spent hours taking care of our Emma at our 2007 reunion for the Ellers family. She has loved her cousin Ben ever since.
Godfather Uncle Tim
July 24th 2008
Ben was the ring bearer at my wedding when he was eight years old. He not only did a great job as ring bearer, but found the maid of honor’s lost engagement diamond ring. When all the adults were looking for it, Ben found the stone among all the sparkling confetti that no one else saw. I guess he was closer to the ground. Needless to say he was the hero of the day.
Grandma and Grandpa Ellers
July 24th 2008
sjellers@comcast.net
Grandma and Grandpa Ellers,
Where do I start with my memories of Ben—we have been on so many “adventures” together. I remember seeing him right after he was born and he looked exactly like Brian. I’ve never seen a son look so much like his Dad and his Dad has been his hero ever since. Ben has been to visit so many times, but the visit that I shall cherish most with Ben has been in the past three weeks. We were honored to have him come to our home and stay for a week. What a special time; we talked, shared stories and went camping. We also went to Michigan to stay with Linda and family and had fun at the beach. I shall cherish those memories forever.
Jack Elo
July 24th 2008
This summer Ben, Grace, I and Grandma went to visit our cousins in Michigan. One afternoon we went to the beach and the waves were about 3 feet high and rough. My brother Ben and I had spent hours jumping and diving into the waves and letting them push us back to the shoreline. We had a great time together.
Grandma Elo
July 24th 2008
When Ben was celebrating his first birthday—he had never had sweets—when it came to eating his birthday cake he wouldn’t have anything to do with it, not so much as even putting his fingers in the frosting. That didn’t last long!
Steve Lamb
July 24th 2008
steve47834@hotmail.com
I never met Ben, but I feel so close to the family from reading these messages. I was just scanning the IndyStar webpage when I noticed his passing at such a young age.
My heart goes out to his parents, siblings and other relatives.
I'm sure he is resting in God's arms.
Uncle "Cheese"
July 24th 2008
steve.b.butler@comcast.net
Ben was a gifted athlete and his interest in sports is no surprise as both his Mom and Dad are avid sports fans. In fact, because Ben’s birthday parties were always during football season they usually featured a few uncles clustered around a TV set watching a game.
The Elo family sporting tradition provided an opportunity for me to have a special relationship with Ben—I was the non-traditional “motor sports” guy. When Ben was a pre-schooler, I introduced him to his 1st motorcycle ride. He would sit in front of me, on top of the gas tank, and he would hold on to my arms—because he was too small to reach the handlebars. I can remember him twisting his little body when the bike leaned around the corners, as if he felt I needed his help in balancing the strange vibrating super-sized version of a "bicycle."
Soon we had graduated from motorcycles and I took Ben on his 1st airplane ride. What a great experience to show Ben how different the world looks from high above the ground. Ben rode up front with me—in the co-pilot’s seat—and tested the controls as he helped bank the plane around Grandma’s house on she waved up from her home on South Main Street.
One of my favorite summer activities was to take Melanie and her kid’s boating. As they grew older, we had the goal to teach them to water ski. Water skiing can be a bit intimidating to young children; so Melanie would jump into the water, put on the skis, and “show the kids how it’s done.” I can still remember how proud we all were when Ben got up on skis the 1st time. After his first success, he kept skiing for a very long time impressing us with his stamina and fitness.
A few years ago, Ben's brother Jack got a dirt bike for his birthday. In the process of teaching Jack how to ride, I also introduced Ben to dirt bikes. Sometimes Ben would come to Kokomo and I would borrow a motorcycle for him so that he didn’t need to share Jack’s bike—both boys could ride at the same time. We would ride around the track, or through the woods, all three of us riding together. I would alternate between leading (to demonstrate), then dropping behind to watch the boys perfect their own technique. These were such great times for me--I was drawing the boys into my own element and sharing my love for machines.
Although Ben seemed to enjoy trying these motorized activities, it was clear that these were never a substitute for his favorite sports. It is a tribute to Ben’s kind nature that he showed tolerance—and even enthusiasm—for all my “gear-head” activities even though he remained committed to excelling as a traditional athlete. Many boys would reject or make fun of activities that weren’t part of their own value system. Not Ben, he was always open and gracious about other people's interests.
Ben possessed many talents, but his humananity was his greatest gift to all of us that knew him. He will be deeply missed.
Love,
Uncle "Cheese"
Brent, Christi, Ryan & Lake Price
July 24th 2008
bwclprice@comcast.net
Brian & Melanie,
We lift you up with thoughts and prayers. Ben was so special and thoughtful. His love for his friends was so reflective in everything he did with his friends and family. He touched my heart so heavily when Lake was going through such a rought time with his illness and he sent Lake a prayer card, not many 14 year olds would ever do that. The love and support that you showed through our difficult time was so reflective in Ben as well. I hope that I be as much help and support as you were for us! Your love for your son will live on forever and we grieve with you today for our team son.
Lake has lost a true friend but not in his heart!
We love all of you and our deepest sympathy goes out to each of you!
Brent, Christi, Ryan & Lake
Mom and Dad
July 24th 2008
brian-smi@att.net
Dearest Baby Boy, My heart is breaking as I type......I am soooo missing you right now!!! I miss when you would come upstairs to bed and night and stop by our room to grap a q-tip and give both of us a hug and say good night and I love you! I miss waking you up in the morning and tickling you and pulling the hair on your legs to get you going.......you never once complained. I remember cutting your hair and the negociation that would take place over the size of the guard. As you got older the number kept getting higher and higher. I'm glad I got the chance to cut it one last time last week. Talk to me Benjamin! I need you more now than ever! You were everything I wanted in a friend....compassionate, funny, intelligent, a servant of God and most of all....loyal! You would follow me around like a puppy...even to the bathroom. I will always miss that! I look at your picture now and your eyes look into my soul....I hope you can see how much I loved you! I can't walk anywhere in this house and not see some place you touched. Your fingerprints are all over the place and me. I realized over the last couple of days all the people you have touched. I never imagined! I knew you were good, Ben. I just didn"t realize how good. In fact you were FANTASTIC! I need you to reach out to me, Ben! My heart is missing a big 5'11" 170lbs section of it.....PLEASE HEAR ME!
Your Loving Father
The Moore Family
July 24th 2008
One of our first memories of Ben was at an MCA skating party (Kindergarten/First Grade?). Michaela was struggling to stay on her skates. Ben came whizzing by on his rollerblades, giving her a thumbs-up, encouraging her by yelling, "You're doing good, Michaela!"
What a 'magnetic' personality he had ... you couldn't help but be drawn to him! He will be missed by many.
Our hearts go out to your family. We pray that the Lord will just wrap you in His comforting arms, and give you strength for the days ahead.
Our love and prayers are with you all,
Joe, Shauni, Michaela & Isaac
Debbi Kasper
July 24th 2008
shuttleme@comcast.net
Brian, Melanie, Jack and Gracie
The memory I share with you all is of the real "boy" that Ben was. After playing soccer in Rockford, him coming back to the hotel and just snuggling up in his bed watching TV....that is when they are the most precious. We ALL have lost a wonderful son. I will miss his smile, his sensitivity and his presence. Keep you family strong and use your faith to get thru....my thoughts and prayers follow you every day.....Debbi Kasper
Rachelle Gegg
July 24th 2008
SRGegg@cs.com
We have so many wonderful memories of Ben. He was a great kid. He was a great friend to Aaron. Thank you for that. You know they've been buddies since the first day of first grade. What a blessing to have him as a friend through thick and thin over so many years. I was always so grateful for Aaron's "gang" from MCA.
You two are wonderful parents, don't forget that. To have a boy who was so polite and so loyal and fun was a gift from you. Thank you for being an extended family to Aaron and to us as well. We love you and are here for you--day or night--forever.
Ray and Sara Land
July 24th 2008
rkland@lilly.com
Brian and Melanie,
At least a media that don't show my tears! Your family is
awesome. You've always been a beacon of love and
sharing. I remember Ben in a different light. I always tried
to keep him on his toes. He was a selfless person who looked up to both of you, and some of his shared moments
with me told me that.
Recently at the flood relief at Martinsville we spent several
hours together. He shared how much he hoped to be able
to help others as you two have. Wow, what a goal for a
young man. I'll miss him so very much.
I don't have to tell you guys, any day, any way, any time we
are here for you. Sara has some inside experience that I will share with you two at another time.
I'm sorry for your loss, but Jesus called a little angel to
brighten up the night sky.
YBIC,
Ray
Mom and Dad
September 8th 2010
melo@BenElo16.org
Dear son,
Today you should be 17 here on Earth. What would you look like and what would you be doing? Oh, how we miss you. Your goofy smile and humble nature and attitude are things we miss so much. 17 years ago at 7:50 in the evening you popped out in a rush and changed our lives forever. As Jack plays for MHS we watch and 'see' you fitting in on the field. The hard part about your birthday is that while we know YOU are great it is a day that began long ago with dreams and love fulfilled over time and has become empty with so many things that should have been. Please watch over and protect Jack and Grace. And while you're at it, could you ask God to come back soon and save this world from all that is broken? We keep our eyes on Heaven knowing you are so very close but far enough that we can not hold you or hear you laugh. There are so many other parents, Ben, that we've contacted that have also lost children. I hope you have found each other up there and that you welcomed them Home as they arrived. There really are no words to explain how one can 'live' and 'die' at the same time. We love you more than words can say. Say hello to Grandma and Grandpa, Aunt Laura and all the others for us, would you?
Uncle Tim
July 21st 2010
Dearest Nephew, it has been two years today. Time has brought on a level of busyness I have never seen, and at times, I feel guilty for not thinking more of you. But when things are the most hectic, and I am most frustrated, you make time for me to think. i remember. You as a small boy when I would babysit. And you as the impressive young man who made time for Darby. A smile comes to my face, and the burden lightens. When I struggle, I tend to find myself thinking of you, and my perspective changes. I love and miss you, and know you are there listening. Any chance you can share some of that listening with Nolan? Soap in the mouth isn't working so well, and he's running out of lovies to take away.
Please continue to watch and protect over the family, you are doing a great job as usual! When you make your rounds tonight, please bring peace to all those thinking of you today, and perhaps share some words of perspective!
Sharon and Jon Ellers
July 20th 2010
sajellers@sbcglobal.net
Dearly beloved Ben,
It has been two years since we received that horrible phone call...what a shock....and words cannot express how very much we miss you...you are a very special grandson...we were blessed to have had the privolege of having you stay with us for several days a few weeks before...how much fun we had and how much we enjoyed our talks...I continue to talk to you...and even though you do not physically talk back...I feel you close to me.
We just had our annual family reunion at Turkey Run...and we missed you...the last time we were there...you took the two little grand daughters...Emma and Aris under your loving arms...helping them on the trails and up the cliffs...we all spoke of you with Love and cherish our times together.
The soccer camp in your memory was a great success...this was the 2nd year...7 college coaches, nearly 100 children attended, and 100 people volunteered their help...Your Mother was the mastermind...and has put her all into it for you and your LOVE for the sport...the Notre Dame coach has been present both years.
I fel your presence ...and especially during the camp...we know that you are shining a light down on us. !0 of the "Ben's Boys" ....soccer United team members have come to help with the camp....they have been a huge help...as well as Paul the coach....they call me Grandma,too.
I know that the Lord is there in heaven with you and his promise is what keeps all of us going...as we know that we will all be together again one day....we LOVE you, Ben...and miss your presence here with us on earth....but continue to feel your heavenly presence....Forever and Always...Grandma and Grandpa Ellers
katrina
April 4th 2010
Ben! your so lucky you get to spend each and every day with Jesus. please greet this young man who died a couple weeks ago in my community. he was only 17 and i know you'll welcome him with a smile :) you both are lucky you get to experience what heaven is like. i'm really jealous. it has to be the greatest thing ever. after i take the ACT this next saturday i get to come work in your gardens with my mom and your mom :) i'm very excited. i can't wait to see you very soon.
love, katrina.
Katrina..
January 9th 2010
oh Ben, how i miss you.
Dad
January 7th 2010
brian.elo@omnicell.com
My Dear Son,
Another Holiday has come and gone. As I look out my office window at the flag pole, I cannot help but remember the times watching you play outside in the snow. You sledding with Jack and Grace, snowball fights and you coming in the house covered in snow and your Mom yelling at you to keep the snow in the laundry room. The same laundry room that i remember you helping Mom hang wall paper the day before you left us.
I don't know why, but this Christmas and New Year are harder for me than last. I envision you bugging me to get your license, Friday nights at basketball or football games and watching pro and college football with you and EPL. I miss all of that. I can't help but sit and wonder why are you not here. I still struggle with thoughts of that day and find myself praying to God to take those memories away.
With that said, your Mom and I know you are in Heaven and are doing great! We pray daily for God to bring his kingdom back to Earth......and you with it.
May all your goals in Heaven be upper 90, bud!
Love, Dad
mom and dad
November 26th 2009
melo@benelo16.org
Warm thanksgiving wishes to you, dear son. We are thankful for many things this year. The top of our list is the wonderful gift from God of you, Jack and Grace. We can't say 'happy thanksgiving' as our lives aren't 'happy' but we are blessed and thankful. We hope the people you've touched continue to hold your memory close and live their lives impacted by yours......touching others' lives in memory of you.
We pray daily for God to return and will continue to do so with our eye on heaven.
love always and forever
Bailey Pryor
November 9th 2009
Even though I didn't really know Ben, I've heard his story and felt his impact. He has inspired me to take a turn in my life, and even to inspire others like he has. I know he had an amazing life, and his family was the greatest to him. Just looking at some of these memories reminds me so much of Jack. He always makes Mr. Underwood's 6th period class fun. And I always love listening to his iPod when we go to the track. Jack reminds me of Ben in so many ways...I keep your family in my prayers.
-Bailey.
Uncle Tim
October 14th 2009
Dear Ben - Your cousin Darby surprised us tonight at bedtime. After getting into bed, she asked when you were coming back to visit. She hasn't talked directly about you in a long time, to the point where I thought she blended you and Jack together. Your picture is on her board with lots of other photos, and she thought of you. I told her you were with God, and that you would not be coming to visit. She would see you again in a long, long time, but could always talk to you. She asked how you would hear her, and I said "Trust me, with those ears, he will!" and told her she could talk to you like she talks to God during prayer. So Darby said she wanted to talk to you and wanted me to leave the room, and I did. I didn't think she would, but a few minutes later from my room I could hear her talk and she was upset. I really couldn't hear what she was saying, and wasn't sure if I should listen in. After a few seconds I decided to, and all I caught was her saying something along the lines of "when are you coming back and I miss you."
There are times when I think of you and am confident you are in a good place, smiling down upon us, and it gives me great comfort. There are other times when I just miss you and your smile and laughter, and this evening was one of them. We missed you are cousin Mel's wedding this weekend, I'm sure you would have thought it boring, but it was really nice. Darby and Nolan REALLY enjoyed themselves.
If your not too busy, I need your help back on the soccer field, my touch is going south.
LOVE,
Uncle Tim (& Darby)
Wednesday, Oct 14, '09
Amy Bertram
September 8th 2009
flamey@att.net
Birthday kisses to you in Heaven, Ben. Watch over your family today and always.
God Bless,
Amy Bertram
Shelby Reynolds
August 8th 2009
From Where You Are- Lifehouse
June 21st 2009
It's almost been a year in a little over a month.
I didnt know Ben at all actually, but my heart really goes out to all the close friends, and especially the family.
My friend passed away on March 10th, 2009.
At his funeral I saw a gorgeous picture with a quote on the side, it read..
"Time has taken me away from you,
although not very far.
I'll be watching you through the sunshine,
and through the brightest star.
I'll be watching over you,
from the heavens up above.
So take good care of eachother,
and carry all my love.
If you ever wonder if im there,
here's where you can start-
Take a look inside yourself,
deep within your heart."
I really hope you all just remember,
Ben is in Gods kingdom now,
playing soccer with the greatest.
God bless!!
mom and dad
June 21st 2009
Today is June 21, 2009....11 months since you joined Jesus in the beautiful heavens surrounded by family and all those you used to read and learn about at Mooresville Christian during Bible and at church. Tomorrow is the start of your camp, son. It is our gift to you that we honor God doing what you loved so.....soccer. Your flag flies at the soccer fields you never got to play on. God has blessed the camp, the grief ministry and your foundation every step of the way. We lean completely on him and he takes us exactly where he wants us....God is so good. So many young folks have lost their lives since we lost you. I know you are there to welcome each one home and show them around. We were sharing stories with friends yesterday and every one of them reminded us of how you 'lived your faith to affect change". we miss you more than words can say and our hearts continue to be broken, but we count each blessing every day and we pray that Christ will come back and bring us all together in the New Earth....the place beyond heaven that is there for us when Christ returns and judgement is over. Until then, we serve God and hold on tight to your memory and your foundation and do ALL that God asks us to do.
mom and dad
May 16th 2009
As we approach 10 months without you Ben, memories can fade for many. While we grieve daily our loss, life moves on for most. We hope and pray that those you've touched continue to be impacted by the gifts of faith you gave them and that they live to 'pay that gift forward'
Mom and Dad
April 15th 2009
Melo@BenElo16.org
Happy Easter Ben! Of all the 'firsts' this was the gentlest. We still cried and missed you, but the Easter story takes on more relevance for us now. How glad we are that God was willing to sacrifice his only Son for our eternal salvation. If it were not so we would not have our heavenly reunion to look forward to. Praise God for whom ALL blessings flow....and we thank God for you, Ben, and all the joy and memories you gave us. We pray that those you touched are forever impacted by you and will 'live their faith to affect change'. We wonder, do you celebrate Easter in heaven? I guess we'll find out when we get there. We love you and think about you all the time. Say hello to grandpa harrison for us and I hope you're helping him get settled in.
Emily 'Allen' Ogle
March 10th 2009
trinitysky27@yahoo.com
I just learned of Ben's passing about 5 minutes ago (Today is 3/10/2009). I babysat Ben from the age of about one through the birth of Jack and until Gracie was born. I was probably about 12 years old when I began babysitting them and I am now 28. I would love to get in touch with Brain and Melanie to express how sorry I am. Please send this message on.
Love-
Emily
Anonymous
February 28th 2009
Thanks for being a such a great influence on me at school
Brittany Ball
January 5th 2009
hinderlover246@yahoo.com
This is a beginning of a new year. That night when i was at the party with my friends on new years, i automatically thought of ben and the elo family.
To Mr. and Mrs. Elo:
i think you guys have shown great strength in this dificult time. There isn't a day that goes by that i don't think about your family and how hard it is for you. However i know God has something planned for you life. Something great. I believe this ordeal has helped the community in a way come closer. I beliece God is with you always. Never forget that.
To Jack and Grace:
i understand that this is hard for you. i have never lost a sibling, but i have lost a parent. Its hard. Just remember though, you have great friends and family to help you through it. Talk to them. And pray. God is there 24/7 when our friends aren;t. God is the ultimate healer and our father and will make sure we make it through the dificult times. Always remember that. Jack, if u need some1 to talk 2 also, im at school. i c u about everyday. just talk 2 me. And grace, im there 2. Even tho i don't go 2 mca any more, if u ever see me and wanna talk, im there for you.
I am definatly praying for you guys. That God will give you even more strenght.
I loving memory,
Brittany R. Ball
Anonymous
December 24th 2008
Thanks for the exaple you set for those who come after you.
Katrina Kozisek
November 18th 2008
hey ben :) i know you are doing great in Gods kingdom! i am so jealous that you get to see him everyday. i and sooo many other people miss you! we miss your smile we miss the way you would share your faith with no hesitaion. we miss everything! i have so many memories with you and i will never forget them. i kno you are making great memories in heaven :) i love you soo much! you have really touched me. i have learned to love everyone even if they dont deserve the love because God loves all and thats what we should do. you taught me that God is amazing and without him we are nothing and we need him everyday in this crazy world. you taught me not to get so mad at people anymore. we have one life why get mad? why get upset? why get in fights with people? love and share the love of Christ to all because we all need it. you taught me not to be scared of dying i was so scared before i was afraid to go i was afraid to leave everything behind on this earth. but now i'm not i cannot wait till the day i get to join you and Jesus in heaven that will be the best day of my life. i am ready anytime God decides to take me :) i love you forever Ben :)
love, (cousin) Katrina :)
Ashleigh Gore
November 17th 2008
I miss you so much Ben! I think about you everyday...and pray that one day i can be as great as an influence as you. You've touched so many people by not being here.
I haven't took my blue bracelet off ONCE since your funeral...not for anything. :]] I guess that i didn't really want to share another memory, i just wanted to tell you that i miss you so much. I know your reading this from heaven, and probably playing soccer! Don't have to much fun without me..haha.
I love you,
Ashleigh
Amber Viles
October 23rd 2008
Amberball5529@aol.com
It is October 23, 2008.
This is how long it has taken me to actually talk about and discuss the great kid named Benjamin Elo.
Ben was an awesome friend. He would do anything for anyone. Although i never saw him play soccor i was reminded by Ben and told that he was "the best soccor player to ever have walked on Earth." According to Ben him and his muscles were the best at soccer. We talked all the time about that. Ben or Ben"JAMIN" as i called him, was also very, very devoted to his faith. I remeber one day he even started a prayer with me just because he had seen me trip up the stairs and knew i was having a heck of a day. I found myself talking to Ben a lot about God and how awesome of an athlete he had to be. And if all three of us (Ben, God, and me) were on a basketball team, that we would be unstoppable. Ben and I also made fun of eachother, I joked about him saying his muscles would look a little small one day or that he got out way too early in dodgeball. He would laugh and make a witty comment right back. Ben also was in National Jr. Honnor Society, with me, he was definatley a bright kid. We spent the Farwell Future Freshmen Dance together.... even though we both went with someone else. Everytime i turned around he'd be there akwardly smiling at me &asking me for advise on how to do the robot. HA HA i told him "Ben you cant your muscles just get in the way too much." He agreed. of coarse. We got pictures together and talked that whole day. No matter what our dates thought, BEn didnt care he just stayed by my side. I hope that when i go to Heaven and as he is watching over me he still is right there.... right by my side.
Now when i found out about Ben's passing I was in my room doing homework when my brother Adam came into the room. He had this look on his face i have never seen before, or secene since. He told me to come give him a hug and told me about Ben. I remeber that i just crumbled down to my bedroom floor and cried so hard. But everytime i looked up at Ben and my picture form the dance on my wall, Adam would be there. It made me think what would i do without a brother. Here we both sat crying over Ben on my floor when i knew that he was with someone greater now. LAter, even though Adam didnt know Ben i gave him a blue braclet, both of us havent taken it off since.
Ben i know is an angel. He earned his wings way before he passed away. I believe that God sent Ben to make his impact on everyone.... and he did. I just wish that he could have been here longer. Just one more laugh, one more joke, one more episode of him talking to his muscles. But i know he is. He is with God now laughing, joking, and talking to his muscles. But dont worry you two, i will join you some day. And we can make that All-Star basketball team BEn and i talked so much about.
BEn i am doing everything to my fullest.... aspiring to be like you. You are the inspiration to everything that I do. Anytime i trip up the stairs again or am palying a sport, I just think of you and it seems to go by that much easier. As i grow up, I want to be just like you Ben, I hope i can follow your footsteps all the way to Heaven.
To Ben's family. You guys are stronger then i could ever be. I know everytime i see you guys i tear up but you stay strong and you are just as inspiring to all of Ben's friends as he was. Thank you! I dont view Ben's spitrt gone because it is in you. It is what keeps you going and what keeps your loving nature afloat. Thank you so much!
I hope you enjoyed your t-shirts.
Love Always,
Amber Viles
Mom
October 20th 2008
Hello son, it has been 13 weeks today and 3 months tomorrow. We miss you so very much. I see your smiling face so many places and I hear you saying "come on mom....you and dad can do this; I'm great and I''ll see you soon". We know that of course but we miss everything about you and our family is forever broken. There's a Lifehouse song on that new CD with the song 'whatever it takes' that you liked. It's called 'broken' and it's as if we're talking to God about coping with our loss. The words ar amazing. Every day I pray that God forgives my sins, I remind myself that I love God more than I love you or daddy or Jack or Grace and I ask God what I can do to serve Him today. We know you're having a great time and God's using you to do important work in heaven. I pray every day for Christ's second coming.....how much more messed up does the world have to be, really! And every day people have a choice of faith....it can be now as much as later....so Dad and I vote NOW! Watch over Jack and Grace would you? And give Jesus a hug for us. All my love now and until I'm home with you in heaven.
Kelsie Mulvehill
October 11th 2008
mopigirl93@comcast.net
There aren't enought words in this world to describe how great of a friend Ben was. When I first moved here, I was 3, he was one of my first friends and ever since then he was always there for me. Even though we were seperated by schools we would occasionaly see each other when our familys would get together and we would catch up. But in 8th grade when he made the decision to come to PHMS I was so excited because I knew that I would get to talk to him more. I remember everyday in math Ben, Sara, Sydney and I would always talk all class period in math about whatever. From fighting with someone at the time or just talking about what we had done over the weekend I always felt like he was listening and really cared.Ben made such a difference at PHMS that it is really amazing to see how God was really using him. I wish that I had seen Ben before he left but after awhile I realized that he is still there in my heart and that when God decides that its my time to go that I will see him again. I love you and miss you Ben and someday i can't wait to see you again.
Forever #16
Kelsey Strohmeyer
September 24th 2008
Allaboutme0708@aol.com
Ben Elo was such an amazing kid, he changed so many lives even in the short time he was here. Me and Ben were not very close, he was in some of my classes so we did get to talk every now and then and just by those little moments he could make me smile, he was a bright beautiful boy who had so much to look forward to, it's really amazing in my eyes to see the inpact he made while attending PHMS, he changed lives and you will not meet many kids like Ben.
To the parents of Ben,
Seeing how strong you are and the faith you have in God is so amazing, not only has your son made an impact in my life you have as well, you've taught me that God will always be there and to have faith and you can get throuhg anything. You have really taught me a lot and i've never even talked to either of you one on one. I just wanted you to know how amazing i see you two in my eyes and awesome how you guys really are.
P.S, Jack is the biggest cutie ever :)
Amy Bertram
September 8th 2008
flamey@comcast.net
Happy 15th birthday, Ben. Today will be a hard day for your family and friends, I know, so please if you can, come to comfort them....a dream, a feeling of warmth, a sign of love.
Melanie, Brian, Jack & Grace: As this day has approached, you have been heavy in my thoughts and heart. We know all too well the feelings you feel and the thoughts that you think, over and over, day after day. It doesn't get easier, but it gets less difficult. Little comfort do words bring, but God is with you, and you & Ben are loved throughout the world by many. Perhaps our children are celebrating their lives together in heaven today together.
Ben, we miss you and all of the good things you brought to life. Thank you for your presence on this earth. Your life has touched our family immensely. We love you and are blessed to have known you most of your life.
Phil, Lori, Charlotte and Abigail
September 8th 2008
phelo@aol.com
It's the morning of September 8th, it was 15 years ago today that we were blessed by God. Ben - you will always be in our thoughts and prayers. We wish you a Happy Birthday and know you are dearly missed.
All our love,
Uncle Phil, Aunt Lori, Cousins Charlotte and Abigail.
Lexi Smith
August 29th 2008
There is so many thing i could say about ben.. He was such a greast kid "the kid" that every one liked.. had no problems with, and definetally not selfish.. I have many memories with him and i hope to see him one day.. I know that he is an a way better place now..
Love always,.
Lexi
Ben Pruitt
August 23rd 2008
keeper0023@pruittgroup.us
I just recently met Ben at the Notre Dame soccer camp this past summer. I am from Texas and i didnt have any friends there but right away Ben befriended me and made my camp a great experience. Ben was an amazing player and person and his impression on me will always have a place in my heart.
My deepest condolences,
Ben Pruitt
Whitney
August 20th 2008
xplosionchik99@aol.com
Ok the like 3rd or 4th week ben was at school he came up to me to tell me hey and that he was ben and that he wanted to be friends cause he thought and heard i was pretty cool and funny. so yeah as were walking and i went to his class i finally look down and he is wearing high heels and he was like my feet are killing me and im like well why are you wearing them he said i have a bet to win. lol it was the funniest thing ever
so yeah i would love to share a poem i wrote along with a quote i dedicated .. i wrote this poem just for him
My Angel
We all know that you loved us
but now that you are gone
we cry thinking of all of the good memorys
we had and will always be kept with us forever.
You are a wonderful person "Ben" .
" But your love is like the wind we
can't see it but we can feel it".
I love you and will always miss you!
-Whitney Wyatt
and i also dedicated this saying to him
“Love is always patient and kind, it is never jealous, love is never boastful or conceited, it is never rude or selfish, it does not take offense, and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins, but delights in the truth, it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end.”
ok i love you guys all and will always be here to tlk
Aaron Rice
August 18th 2008
shampoo_user@yahoo.com
Ben was the coolest. We had so much fun in History and APC. We lifted weights a lot together and he was always there to keep me going. I remember he was really really really good at History. Really good. Haha, and I just wished I could be as smart as he was. He had a positive attitude all the time, with everything he did, and I thought that was awesome. I know he had a positive influence on me, and I will never forget him.
Rebecca Scott
August 17th 2008
rebeccascott2012@yahoo.com
my fav memory of ben is that i was always cold in school, always. well one day i put my hands on his neck so he asked me if i wanted his sweatshirt and i said if u dont mind. so from then on i had his sweatshirt like everyday :) i had the biggest crush on him too.
teresa fobes dr feng and staff
August 4th 2008
terff12@hotmail.com
to bens parents i feel for your loss.id did not know benpersonally just the wonderful stories me and melanie shared at work they were wonderful thoughts and fun stories my parayers and thought are with you at such a difficult time love and be blessed TERESA FOBES
Dan Herner
July 30th 2008
herner@prodigy.net
I have been the head coach of Southport Presbyterian Church's 5/6 & 7/8 basketball teams for several years. We play MCA 2-3 times a year & almost always have had very competitive games. We at SPC view MCA as a classy and respected opponent.
As a coach, my memory of Ben is a very strong one. In 2005-06, SPC had maybe it's strongest 5/6 grade team. We had only lost a few games all year and had beaten MCA 3 times that year, two of which were pretty all close games. We drew MCA as our first opponent in the year end tournament on MCA's court. I knew going in that we could win if we could keep "the big kid" off the boards. We couldn't. The big kid had 20 points and 15 rebounds ( yes, I still remember exactly ) and we lost 43-36. We simply could not handle him and Ben decided that he was not going to lose again to Southport. I tried everything but we could not stop him.
It was and probably still is my most disapointing loss as a coach, but still it was not as hard to take because we were beaten by a team that was led by a kid that refused to lose.I felt that we were beaten, not that we had lost. here is a difference. Every kid on our team admired & respected Ben Elo and the incredible intensity and determination that he showed that night.
Last January when we our 7/8 grade team arrived to play at MCA, I saw Ben on the court in street clothes and went up to him. I asked him if he was playing and he said that he had transferred to Hadley. I told Ben that I was sorry to hear that and that I would miss competing against him, but that my 8th grade son Daniel whose job I had given to block him out at all costs would be relieved. I reminded hin of that game two years earlier and he did indeed remember & smiled. I also told Ben as I shook his hand that I would have loved to coach him. He thanked me and wished me luck.
My sons are 14 & 12 years old. We have sat down together and looked at this wonderful memorial to a respected opponent and fantastic young man that all of us at SPC admired. We will not forget him. I don't think I am wrong in saying that our community suffered a huge loss when Ben left us so early. I speak the truth when I say that I was as impressed with Ben as any kid I've coached or coached against in the 10 years that I have coached at SPC. From all of us at Southport Presbyterian, I share my heartfelt respect to Ben and wish & pray that his family is comforted in some small measure by the impression he made on all of us.
Aaron Kasper
July 30th 2008
beachsoccer7@comcast.net
Dear Elo family,
Although i knew Ben only from soccer, i could tell that he was loved by everyone that knew him at all. It was unbelievable how many people i saw that came to his viewing, and i am very sorry i couldnt come to the funeral, i really wish i could have.
Ben could always put a smile on my face. when ever we were together he would make me laugh, whether it was a corny joke, or said something that was just funny. i remember in regionals when we were rooming together, and he wore compression shorts all the time, even when he went to bed. i didnt know how he could do it but he somehow found it quite comfortable.
Ben also gave me plenty of courage, especially on the field. i remember in every game he would keep on telling me that he could do better, and how much he wanted to be in the game every second. i just couldnt believe it, even in those intense minutes of the big games.
I know there is nothing that i can say to make it any better, but i truly am sorry. I know what you are going through and i know nothing at all can help. all that i really can say is a prayer that i used to say when i found out about my dad. sh'ma yisrael, adoni elohenou adoni echad. baruch shem kevode machooto leolam va'ed. i dont really know exactly what it means but, i feel that it helps a little bit. much love to all of you guys.
Aaron Kasper #7
Haleigh Richardson
July 30th 2008
RGirl1193@aol.com
Everyday after eight period at Paul Hadley Ben and I always meet in the hallway outside the APC room and talked about our day. Folling the coversation we gave eachother a hug to insure our friendship that grew closer day by day. Ben always had a smile on his face that could light up a room. He picked me up with I didn't even have confidence in myseltf. The cross Ben wore around his neck truely represtented who he was and what he believed.
Melinda Beverstock
July 30th 2008
Iam4Him1st@aol.com
Melanie and Family,
Melanie, I just heard about Ben this morning and I had to contact you to let you know how sorry I am for your loss. In case you're not sure who I am, I am your dental hygienist at Mooresville Family Dentistry. We would talk soccer your whole appointment time! My heart goes out to you and your family and you are in my prayers. I heard that Ben was playing for Carmel....kudos to him! I remember how you would tell me how much he loved to play soccer! We lost one of our best players to Carmel, JT Hiquet....have you met him yet? Great kid and great family. Just knowing that Ben and my son are the same age, the news has really hit me hard. Please know that I will pray for you and your family every day. I will pray God's strength and peace to be
upon you all.
In Christian Love,
Melinda Beverstock
Lisa Woerner
July 29th 2008
woernldw@aol.com
Dear Elo Family,
My family and I are so sorry for the loss of your son.
We too lost our son when he was 16. He was a friend of Rikki Meyers. I learned from Mary Myers of your loss. I know that Drake lost a wonderful friend and team-mate. Your son was a handsome young man. His memory will be alive forever through you his family and all of his friends. God had other plans for him. Ben is in Heaven where the streets are made of gold. God set aside a special place for him. May God bless your family and give you peace.
If you every need to talk to someone that has lost a child, feel free to e mail us woernldw@aol.com or visit
travis-woerners.memory-of.com
Love to your family,
The Woerners,
Lisa, Fritz, Alexis, Nick and Angel Travis.
Ken Johnson
July 29th 2008
knj24@sbcglobal.net
I've know Ben and his family since he and Hailey were in K4 together at MCA. Over the years we went in our different directions until last year when our three youngest: Hanna, Holleigh and Kyler, returned to MCA. Hailey was now an 8th grader at Paul Hadley. Ben and Hailey were always good friends when they were younger and I remember many conversations about "Ben Elo this and Ben Elo that..." Many times even though Hailey seemed "upset" with Ben, I knew it was more a case of "puppy love". Last year, when our family returned to MCA, Ben and Hailey started up right where they left off. They instantly became very close again, and due to the age they now were, things grew more serious between them. I always joked with Hailey that she could date when she was 26, but as teens do they begin to "go out" together. As the father of three daughters, I could not have asked for a more perfect young man for one of my daughters to "go out" with than Ben Elo. Ben to me was the ultimate example of what young men should be about: Faith, family, friendships, academics and an unbridled passion for life. Ben was truly a tall, strong, compassionate "Oak of Rightousness" as God's Word calls us to be. A man amoung boys in many areas, not just in size.
Last year as the coach of the MCA soccer team I had the honor of having Ben play for our team. Ben had more "game" than I could ever have hoped to improve, having played with and coached by some of the best coaches not only in our area, but in the country. I wouldn't say I "coached" Ben but rather I utilized him. He was an outstanding talent. Ben really had nothing to gain personally by playing for our school team, quite the contrary. As amazing as he was, if he didn't completely dominate than some might ask why not and if he did completely dominate than others might say he was selfish. A tough position for a 14 yr old young man. He could have avoided it all by just not playing at all. But not Ben. True to his unselfish and compassionate nature he chose to play in every game he could. He didn't play for himself, he played for us. Ben knew what he brought to our team and he handled it in the most incredible way a young man could. He walked the perfect balance of "controlling" the game as he knew he should as our leader, but he never took the game away from the others. He was completely unselfish, a constant cheerleader, motivator, encourager and teacher. The ultimate example of a team player. Throughout it all he was always courteous, respectful and "professional" beyond his years. Ben Elo made an impact on my family and I that will never be forgotten. As Kyler, my 6 yr old son, said as he was crying the night we found out about Ben's passing: "My buddy died!". Much was taken away from us when God called Ben Elo home, but much, much more remains with us that will impact lives for eternity.
I'll close with this. Last year our soccer team traveled to Orchard for a game. We all arrived at different times and Kurt Janneck, my assistant coach arrived before me. The Orchard coach came up to Kurt and began telling him that he had been speaking with our "assistant coach" (refering to Ben). He believed because of Ben's stature that he was one of our coaches. He couldn't believe it when we informed him that Ben was a player. Well, there was a scheduling mistake and the the Orchard 8th grade team was playing another team so the Orchard coach and AD decided they would play us if we didn't use our 8th graders. So, to the dissappointment of Ben and his fellow 8th graders we agreed. As Kurt and I began to make our way to the sidelines, the Orchard coach (a young , fit twentysomething man that you could tell had a soccer playing background) made the joking comment (with more than a hint of self-confidence) that "if he plays (Ben), I play!" We all laughed it off, but as Kurt and I were returning to the sidelines we both agreed that we would take those odds. I have no doubt that Ben would have stepped up to the challenge and completely "schooled" this confident young man the beautiful art we call Soccer!
Thank you Ben for all you gave and all you left behind. We are all eternally grateful for having had the opportunity to be a part of your life! May God's favor rest upon the Elo family - we love you all!
Remebering #16 Ben Elo!
On the school bus
July 29th 2008
Ben always said thank you when he got off the bus. One day there was a substitute and the kids on the bus behaved horribly. The next day, they were lectured by the bus driver. When Ben got off the bus he apologized and said that while he didn't throw anything, he didn't do anything to stop them....he didn't make a difference. He said next time he would make a difference. It's clear he already has in more ways than we can count.
Mom and Dad
July 29th 2008
We have made the Micah 6:8 verse into royal blue, rubber bracelets that state "Act justly, love mercy, walk humbly". That was Ben! If Ben has lead you to change your life and you would like one please email us your address and we'll gladly send you one in his honor. brian-smi@att.net
We covet your continued prayers
julia Gastino
July 28th 2008
juliagoolia41593@aim.com
I remember the first day Ben came to paul Hadley, He looked so much older than he was so everyone thought he was a high schooler so i just said hi and asked how old he was. we didnt talk a whole lot but i remember talking in the hallways at school... and everytime we talked i would ask him if he remembered my name and he always said jule lol but the last time i talked to him in person, 3 days before he died he remember and said julia lol=] i really was hoping to get to know Ben better.. but i know one day i will
always love ya ben
,Julia
Sydney Myrick
July 28th 2008
volleygirl299@aol.com
The day that i met Ben was a day i didn't think much about at first. It was at one of the childrens services, we were about 5 or 6. when i walked into the room i accidentally ran into him when it was time to sit down to start the class. And i looked over and it was like his face just stuck in my mind. When Callan was telling us she was going to have a boy named Ben shadow her for a day i never thought it would've been the same boy who was so nice to me at sunday school. Even when he came that first day i still didn't realize who it was. But as we became closer and talked everyday in math i then realizied who it was. I told him how i remembered him and from then on it was like we had known each other forever. Some people thought he was kind of wierd when he was saying hello cause he would use these funny voices but it didn't bother him he just laughed it off and moved on. The best thing about Ben was if you told him something that you didn't want everyone to know he wouldn't even mention it again. And he valued all of his friendships so much everyone who he made an effort to talk to felt blessed just to have had one conversation with him. The day i found out he had passed away i didn't believe it. My brother had come home from football and was talking about all of the thing that went wrong in california for the baseball players. Then all of the sudden i heard him say sombody in your class has passed away, i asked him who it was and he said sombody with a last name of Elo but he couldn't pronounce it. So after he was finished trying to say it I asked if his name was Ben Elo and he said yes and i thought i was going to faint. I didn't belive it until I saw his name in the paper.
I just want to tell his family my prayers are with you and also keep looking forward and continue living your life the way you would. And know that Ben is always watching and loving you.
Sincerley,
Sydney Myrick
Allie McLaughlin
July 28th 2008
alexislu44@aol.com
Ben was an Amazing kid. He always knew how to make me laugh. When ever I was upset or down about something I knew Ben was going to make me feel so much better about what ever it was I was dealing with. He always had the biggest smile on his face everytime I saw him. I didnt have any classes with Ben. I wish I would have, but he was always loaded down with gum so I always went to him for a peice :]] We were going to have the best freshman year ever. We talked about having all our classes together, even though we knew it was never going to happen like that.
A couple words I would have to use while decribing Ben would be smart, funny, and a tad bit of a flirt ;]]
The last time I talked to Ben was that sunday night before he passed away. I remeber my phone vibrating as i was walking out of the movie theaters. I had just finished watching the new batman movie The Dark Night. He had texted me asking what i was up to. We texted pretty much all that night,Back and fourth for hours. I told Ben that the clown guy off the movie gave me the heeby geebys. I told him i was going to have a nightmare about the man. Ben agreed the man was disturbing but he told me that he never had problems with nightmares because he always dreamed about me :]] I fell asleep before recieving that message and never got to write back. But if I could send Ben a text up to heaven I would tell him that I will always dream about him. I miss him more and more everyday. And wish i could have just talked to him longer and I wouldnt have feel asleep that night. I'll always love and miss you.
Allie McLaughlin
((ps)) I'm still going to beat you in soccer. Wait for me in heaven :]
Brain and Melanie,
You two are so strong. You guys are such an insperation. You raised such a awesome kid. Just knowing him half a year has changed my life big time. He was such a sweatheart. Always putting a smile on my face. Me and Ben went to the Fairwell Future Freshman dance together, and I was so thrilled that he wanted me to go with him. Looking back I couldnt have picked a better date. :]] Thank you for letting him come to Paul Hadley. Its unreal the effect he has had on so many of our classmates.
((ps)) your house is beautiful!
Jack
Hey buddy! Any time you want another rootbeer float you know who to call. :]] You are an awesome kid with a huge heart. Dont ever forget that.
Grace
I havent got to talk to you. But i saw you playing in the gym at the church. You look like a doll. Ben said nice things about you. My prayers are with your whole family.
Allie McLaughlin
mom
July 28th 2008
melanie.l.elo@gsk.com
Ben, I'll always remember going shopping with you the Saturday before you went home to God. You and I had taken Jack to begin the "teaching" process of shopping. One of things I treasure most in teaching you was to be a GREAT shopper. Just in the last 9 months, you welcomed the opportunity to be wise and frugal and disciplined about your shopping. You were so proud the first time we went to Plato's Closet with your own hard earned money and you came home with a bag of great stuff for $60. Then we hit the mall for American Eagle, Aeropostle and Hollister where you diligently checked the sale racks for bargins. I would smile when you would check the price of something and decide it wasn't worth the money. What warms my heart the most about our last shopping spree is that you were helping Jack. I remember you bringing him a white sweatshirt, saying "try this Jack". He liked it because YOU liked it. I know you were a responsible shopper and I remember you saying " mom you know I"m a good shopper, just drop Aaron and I off at the mall and I'll get alot for my money". What I didn't tell you, Ben, is that while I KNOW you would have done a great job, I just really loved sharing that with you. It was OUR time. I realize that during that shopping day with Jack you picked out only 3 things because the stuff you liked wasn't on sale and we were going to come back later.....that was your amazing patience. I also didn't get to tell you how I appreciated that when we drove to Bloomington to Platos Closet on Jack's recollection of a commercial and the info turned out to be old, you never said a word of complaint to Jack or me....never rolled your eyes.....nothing but Grace and help during our day. We ache with missing you, but our love abounds. We will see you soon. You will always be my Very Best Brown-haired, Blue-eyed, first born son in the Whole WIde World. I love you!
Bob, Melinda & Tristan Lain
July 28th 2008
melindalain@sbcglobal.net
We did not know Ben very well, just what we saw on the soccer field. Our son, Tristan, had the opportunity to play with Ben when he was called up to play with the U14 teams at HFC from time to time. Ben was a very strong player and one that Tristan enjoyed having as a defender. As things change, both Ben and Tristan ended up at CUSC but in different age groups and we did not have an opportunity to see Ben play again.
Our hearts go out to his family and we will remember them in our prayers. I have a special message not only to his parents, but to his brother and sister as well. I also lost a brother at a young age. Sometimes I have questioned why this happened and often I have not had an answer. However, throughout the 45 years since he left us, I have found in the most astonishing places where my life or the lives of my family have been touched by the master working of God's plan through this event in our lives. You will never forget Ben's smiling face and he will be in your hearts forever. Just know that God's plan is greater than ours and Ben has fulfilled what God had in mind for him. He is with our Lord and rejoicing.
I pray for many blessings on all of you!
Melinda Lain
Andrew Majeski
July 28th 2008
pmajeski@att.net
I first met Ben when i was young and we played on the Komets soccr team. We had a bunch of older boys on that team and they would always pick on me. Every time they did this ben would always step up and say knock it off. He always had my back. On that team he was the best team mate anyone could ask for. He was not selfish and he played with his head. When I quite soccer for some years we didn't keep in touch. That day that Ben was shadowing Callan at Paul Hadey my first thought was this is incredible. I was in art class when they came by and I got up and talked to both of them for the whole class period. After they left I was still thrilled because i knew ben was goin to be an awsome influense here at Paul Hadley. After it was final that he was at Pual Hadley we hung out almost every minute. He was in my 6th period class (history with Mr, Underwood). That was one of the most fun period of my whole day. It wasn't just Mr. Underwood...it was Ben. This last spring we reffed together and everytime he had a chance he would say, "Andrew come here. Do you know this move", and i said,"no". So he would take as much time to teach me new tricks and moves. He was an awsome teacher. I was amazed at evrything he did. We would laugh at evreything.
He would always wear this blue mooresville sweatshirt to school. It was funny because Adam and I didnt think he had anyother sweatshirt. we would always joke around with him and that sweatshirt.
We were both trying out for the highschool soccer team and every practice he would push those kids that were struggleing. He would even push me when I was having a hard time. His main goal was to make varsity, and there is no doubt in my mind that he would have made it. Each time i will walk on the soccer feild and each time i score a goal it will be for Ben. I remeber this one time in practice he taught me how to kick the ball and get it to curve.
He was the best friend and team mate tht anyone could ask for.
I wish i could have spent more time with Ben, but i think it was an honner just to know the kid. I will really miss him. When I think of Ben I think of a BIG kid, with a BIG appeitie, that made a BIG diference. He was an amazing kid. He touched so many kids just in Paul Hadley thats its almost unbeleiveable. There is no one that knows him that doesnt think he is in heaven right now, and i know he's with right now as im writting this. God BLess Ben and his whole family!!! We all miss him very much.
Sincerly,
Andrew Majeski
Shaun Krivoshia
July 28th 2008
shaunkrivo@aol.com
My first experience with Ben was at the FC Pride Cup and I wanted to know how the Hoosier FC team had done in a game and up comes Ben from 20 or so feet away and starts to tell me how well his team had played and that they won....interesting to me for this young man to approach me, total composure, confidence and of course with a smile......I had never even met him before and he talked to me like an uncle.....it was awesome. That was the moment I knew Ben was something special.
Some time passed and Ben makes this all-star indoor travel team and you can see it in his face....."I've made it". From there he made the top travel team in the state Carmel United and brought his hard work, positive attitude and winning ways to our team.
Now for a few big moments this past year. Everybody has heard the EXTRA pizza for dinner story, but there is more. At one of our games Ben was able to get a Red card. Not missing a beat, Brian immediately calls Melanie and says "YOUR son just got a red card". Dan Sass and I busted a gut. I'll miss the "Ben, you need to work harder". Still haven't figured that out because Ben ALWAYS worked his butt off at practice and games(I know its a parent thing, I do it myself) I really did think Ben was going to stop and say"I'm giving 400%, what do you want 500%???". But that wouldn't be Ben. Believe it or not Ben finally had a call go against an opponent "smaller" than him this past year. Ben assumed he was getting called for the foul. I think he said "wow!" when he found out he was finally "declared" innocent.
I've known Ben for only 3-4 years, but his passing really has hit me hard. Big Ben was truly a great person. Although i'm not sure he knew it or not, he truly had it going on. Smart, fun, happy, positive, hard working, tough and yet gentle, kind, with great sportmanship, attitude and confidence. Top that off with a fantastic family, great freinds and terrific teammates. Awesome.
Ben will be with me and the CUSC 94 Boys/Family. We hope to see lots of the Elo's in the days, months and years ahead.
God Bless and Love,
Shaun
Uncle Tim
July 27th 2008
telo@molex.com
Benjamin -
Buddy, you have gone above and beyond what I ever imagined! I've had my bad times since you've been gone, and do miss you so. But all the amazing stories and people that I have met because of you has made me even more proud of you.
I took for granted the few times we kicked the ball around when you were younger. I do remember trying to teach you to kick with your laces, or chest trap a ball. (Rumor has it I failed on the trapping part - maybe that's why you became a forward?) While I can smile when looking back, I hoped we would have a chance to do it again sometime, so I could see just how strong you became.
Its funny, since I've started playing soccer again, in busting my butt trying to get back into shape, I was hoping that you could come see me play, instead I you. I wanted to show you that I could still do it, and that YOU would be proud of ME. You provided me with the motivation to push myself. I didn't want you to see me as the out-of-shape wannabe trying to capture the golden years, taking 3 days to get to the point that I could walk upright after a game. I finally felt like I was getting there. And now I won't be able to ask you. Its these simple thoughts that have brought me great sadness, because its a bond that goes back so far between us. And its partially this thought that has lifted me to smile. Because now you will see every trip, mis-play, stumble, and occasional fall, even when I don't want you to. And when I see you again, we will laugh together, and hopefully pass the ball around a little.
I will be talking to you often, even more than when you were here in person. I underestimated you, and have a new appreciation for what true strength is and where it comes from. Could your heart be any bigger? I have kept telling myself there are things I have time to get to, and now realize that many of those things are not to be waited for. Now you are teaching me, and I can only hope to be as good as a student as you.
You have motivated me in new ways, and hope to make you proud. I love you and miss you. We'll be talking again soon.
Robbie Brown
July 27th 2008
dlbdlbrlb@sbcglobal.net
I didn't know Ben for long but the ti,e we had together was AWESOME! WE had 4th period computer class together at Paul Hadley MIddle School at it was ALWAYS fun! We sit next to each other and had fun.One day we were sittin there talkin and we talkred bout our futures and what we wanted Ben said he was going to be a Professional soccer player and he was almost there! He would of been a pro and had a great life! He always had a smile on his face and never frowned, and always encouraged all his friend to do what they believed in! WE all miss him alot and high school will be boring without him!!! I have to tell myself god called him home for a reason and we will know that reason when he calls us all home!!!!! So BELIEVE IN GOD and he will help You.Thanks for all the great times Ben and we WILL see you again someday!!!And he always wore his Blue Mooresville sweatshirt thats how I remember Ben.
Your Buddy, Robbie
To the whole Elo Family,
Ben was a AWESOME FRIEND!! Thanks for letting him come to Paul Hadley so we could all meet him. MY mom is a Cafeteria worker and she always would come home and tell me bout how nice and pollite Ben was.Thank You for the Blue Bracelet I will wear it till it breaks but i will ALWAYS remember Ben no matter what! The Rascal Flatts song is EXACTILY what Ben would say to all of us.Thank You!
God Bless, Don, Darla,and Robbie Brown
Linda Hart
July 27th 2008
beaujake@prodigy.net
Ill miss ben selling the yellow trash bags in the neighborhood.
Uncle Phil, Aunt Lori, Charlotte and Abigail
July 27th 2008
phelo@aol.com
Brian, Melanie, Jack & Grace:
Benjamin Daniel Elo was and will remain an amazing young man, forever. As we discussed this past week, Ben got it! He understood what was necessary to become successful. His work ethic was second to none guided by his faith and wonderful parenting. Ben has left a permanent mark with us and will continue to do God's work in his passing. The mold may be broken, but Ben has left with us 'Defining Moments' we will all remember forever. We will not let the work Ben began here on earth go unfinished. It is our responsibility to carry on his legacy and help guide and nourish those who are willing to follow in our Lord's footsteps. I thank you Ben for making me a believer, more so now, then ever before.
Ben taught us not to sit back and watch. He was involved and willing to step forward with no fear of failure. He always looked at a new opportunity as a way of learning.
Godspeed, Benjamin. Know that you have made us all believers. Individually or as a group, you have proven to us we can make a difference. We will do our best to 'Act Justly, Love Mercy and Walk Humbly'. Micah 6:8
All our love and thanks to Brian and Melanie for sharing such a wonderful, loving young man.
Uncle Phil, Aunt Lori, Charlotte and Abigail Elo
Callan Swaim
July 26th 2008
mhsvolleyball94@aol.com
Ben and I went to MCA together at a very young age and....well I wouldn't really decribe us as BEST friends at that point in time...but we were friends. One day, in 1st grade, I came home from school and said "Well Mom, I guess I am going to have to marry Ben Elo, because he is the only boy taller than me!" And just about every
one thought that was humorous..and therefore teased us for the rest of time.
Just about a month before Ben came to Paul Hadley, our familes happened to run into each other at church in the fellowship hall, and my my mom, being who she is, had to bring up the fact I said Ben and I were made for each other, in 1st grade. Once the words came out of her mouth Ben and I gave each other a little look of, embarassment, joy, and nervousness, because we hadn't really communicated much since MCA, but this meeting kick-started our phenomenal relationship.
Ben was my best friend, we prettty much did everything together, every morning we would meet each other at our lockers, and walked around the school, talked with each other,and our friends for about 15 minutes until school started. Occcasionally we would see each other in the hallways and greet each other with a hug, and a big smile. At lunch time, Ben and I usually skipped lunch and went to the gym or Mr. Cooks room. Ben had become my right hand man, and my hero. No matter if people at school talked about how he was different, being so open about his religion, he never denied the right thing to do. He made a big difference in our school and we are lucky to have had him at Paul Hadley. I love Ben like a brother and like a best friend, (and as a boyfriend at one time) and I am looking forward to seeing him in heaven. I will continue talking to Ben and asking his advice on my problems, as I did before, and I will never forget him as long as live. I am so grateful to have my blue bracelet, from the memorial ,to wear to remind of Ben and I plan on wearing it forever!
Hailey Johnson
July 26th 2008
hj93@sbcglobal.net
I had known Ben Since about k4. He was the Best friend anyone could ever wish for.....kindergarden through 3rd grade while I was at MCA Ben would tease me alot and say things that bugged me but we were still great friends......but when we became better friends later in life he told me he only bugged me because he was a guy and he liked me and thats what he was supposed to do. I played soccer with Ben and I always thought he was the most talented person ever... I was really looking forward to watching him take his soccer skills to higher levels through out his life.
After I left MCA I didn't talk to Ben as much anymore.....but at the very beggining of 8th grade I went back to mca for a basketball game and i saw ben. When I saw him for the first time after not seeing him for a long time I thought he had become just about the best looking guy ever. During the game me and ben spent the whole night walking around the school talking.....i dont think I stopped laughing the whole time.
When Ben came to Paul Hadley half way through 8th Grade I was soooooooo excited... i hadn't gone to the same school as him for a while, but I still knew how great of a guy he was. when he came to PHMS me and him went out for a while and i realized he was an even greater boyfriend. He was always there when you needed him and I could trust him with anything. Now I realize that I was Really Really lucky to get the chance to date him....... he was one of the best guys I knew.
Once when we were dating we went to the movies and i brought my friend Sara and we spilled our gummi worms all over Ben.....but just being the great guy that he was he didnt get mad.... he just started laughing. when i got home that night me and ben talked on the phone until about 3 oclock in the morning. During that conversation Ben and i were joking around.... and he told me that if i died before him then he would make sure my funeral was in all pink, but then we got more serious and he told me something i will never forget he made me promise that if he died before me that I would keep living my life to the best that I could, and that i would try to succeed in everything i did, he also made me promise that i would work my butt off in soccer for him and that me and our other best friend Callan would stay close friends...... but the most important thing he made me promise that night was that I would live a good life that would make him proud and i would be strong and set good examples and make good choices and that I would try to live strong when he moved on to heaven. I didnt think that i would have to do these things so soon after he said it...but i told him i would and im going to try my best to keep that promise.
Im going to miss stayingg up til 4 in the morning talking on the phone with him......n sitting on the computer for hours on end instant messaging him. I'll misss passing notes in class and making funny faces when the teacher turned aroung in Language......sitting together at lunch listening to his ipod and talking about the most random things sharing a green powerade.
the thing that amazed me the most about Ben was that he never stopped loving or caring no matter what the situation was. we went to Florida together for a soccer tournament in january 2008 and he amazed me that he could walk straight off the soccer and want to give me a hug.... no matter how hot it was...or that he would be dead tired after playing 5 games in a row and he would still go out on an empty field and teach my little brother some foot skills. im going to miss everything about him.. but life will definitly be different with out his love and care.
I know that ben packed alot of living into his 14 years of life, and i only regret not being able to have one more conversation with him or hug him one more time or being able to hold his hand and talk as we walked around MCA one more time. I wish i could 've had one more late night chat on the phone or on AIM. and I regret not being able to say good bye but I know that he was loved and he knows how I feel right now......and i realize that I was lucky enough to get to know him as well as I did. and thats something I wouldn't trade for anything......Ben was amazing....and i was so lucky to be a part of his life.
I'm going to miss Ben alot but there is no doubt in my mind that he is in heaven right now in a happy place. and some day i'll see him again......I know he's still with me....just in spirit, and that he's watching over all of us.
I love you ben....and always will..
Hailey
Jack: I know this is hard....but you are in my prayers and i don't doubt for one minute that your going to make a GREAT big brother to Gracie. you don't even know the extreme amount of people you have praying over you and your family right now. You are an amazing, talented young man and you have a wonderful future ahead of you.
Gracie: you are the sweetest most wonderful little girl, daughter, and sister I have ever met. I love you so much. and I know you will go far with life. you are gifted and talented just as well as both of your brothers, and don't let anyone tell you any different. I love you sweetie.
brian and melanie: you guys are great parents. you did a wonderful job of raising ben and i feel like one of the luckiest girls that i got to be best friends and girlfriend to your amazing son. i'm glad that i've gotten to know you guys as well as i have. and thank you for everything you have been in my life too. I love both of you so much.
Ben Elo was one of the greatest people i have ever met and he has had a HUGE impact on my life.......thank you Ben.....i'm looking forward to seeing you again someday. But for now i'm going to try my best to keep the promise i made to him.
love always
hailey
Kayla Williams
July 26th 2008
Ballerbabe614@aim.com
I remember ben very well. yeah we only met eachother like half way into the summer but it felt like i have known him FOREVER!! He always new how to make you laugh or cheer you up, and he was such an AMAZING friend. I could talk to ben about anything cause he always was there if i needed him. He was always there for everyone! We also had so much fun when we got to hang out. I had so much fun talking to him because we had alot of things in common cause we both liked everthing up to baseball to tv shows. =) I will miss him very much, as us all!!! Im am very thankful and happy i met Ben. He was my best friend! I love you and will miss you very much!!!! See you again someday.
Zach Rodgers
July 26th 2008
carmelsoccer00@aol.com
The one thing i remember about ben the most is how always seem to make people laugh . Even if he wasn't trying to make you laugh you still would. I met been about two to three years ago and im glad i got to meet such a nice, smart, loving, caring, and well respected friend. I remember if I was going through a tough time Ben was always there first to make sure i was alright. Ben always thought of others before himself. He would always put forth all his effort in soccer. When the team would give up Ben was there to pick us up and i remember a game down in Alabama and Ben had to sit out that game but it sure didn't feel like it because i saw him during the game running down the sidelines back and forth cheering us on. I also remember when you would always tell me to do a move over and do it slower so you can learn how to do the moves. Ben loved the game and was more dedicated than anyone i've seen before. Its going to be tough without Ben this year but i decided whatever i do from now on is for Ben. I love you like a brother and I will never forget you . You are such an inspiration to me . Im glad i got to meet such a good friend as you .
In loving memory ,
Zach Rodgers
Steph Cooley
July 26th 2008
peetreebaby09@yahoo.com
Ben was a great i went to school with him in 8th grade and he was in my 6th period history class with Mr.Underwood and he always found a way to make someone laugh...he was soo smart everyone wanted him on there team wen we were put on teams.....he was such a great guy..and one of my friends....i just wish i could of said good bye...i miss ben so much...its going to be differnt Freshman year without him there.....
Sincerely Stephanie Cooley
Katrina Kozisek
July 26th 2008
watermelonsweetness@hotmail.com
so i wrote a paper about this but i'll put it on here too. last year we were at our family reunion we have every summer and me and ben didnt really talk and i wish we would have. if i could have 3 wishes one would be that ben could be brought back and 2 that i could have gotten to kno him more and 3 that ppl were more like him. anyways we were by a spring and we were throwing buckets of water on each other it was so much fun! and i felt super close to Ben at that moment. he was soo much faster and bigger than me i couldn't catch him to throw the water on him be he could catch me it was good times :) there are many more memories i share with Ben i have a video of me when i was a baby and he's in it 2 times and he was pushing me in a little barney car it was so cute :) i'm going to miss him soo much! i love him soo much! i can't stop thinking about it and i kno its so much harder for his parents and siblings and closer family. i've learned a lot this week and that is so love your family be happy and never forget cause it can be snatched away at any moment. i love Ben and always will. i talk to him and i talk to God i feel closer to God then i had before he left us and went toa better place :) a much better place and i kno Ben is looking down at everyone now and is smiling cause he has family and friends that love him greatly and will miss him soo much! I LOVE YOU BEN i'll never forget you EVER!
Bret & Zach Rodgers
July 25th 2008
btczem6@aol.com
I awaken to realize that I have been dreaming of you at one of our soccer games from this past Spring ... Watching from the sideline, I'm holding my breath in anticipation of what you will do ... will you dribble right through the keeper and the goal itself ?... you're moving so fast and so strongly with the ball ... the closest defender is struggling to stay with you, bouncing off of your shoulder as he begins to realize he has no chance of stopping you. Drawing more defenders, you angle towards the goal with the shot before you and then ... you lay the perfect pass across the face of the goal and to your teammate. You celebrated his goal with more joy than you would have your own. He was there because he trusted you. He ran as hard as he could to try to catch up to you.
These words "try to catch up to you" seem so fitting, Ben. You lead by example. You lead even when you didn't know you were leading. You were so humble. It meant so much to me to have your Dad say that it was one of the best times in your life to play with our team. When Zach asked me two winters ago to put together a team of the best players in Indiana to play against and beat the best teams in the Midwest (Vardar & GrandValley), I had no idea that it would lead to anything more than a weekend of fun and fulfillment of my son's wish. Your Mom is right, it became a means by which everyone on our team, players, parents, and coach alike came to be blessed and challenged by you.
I will so very much miss seeing you play, watching you practice with my son, but even more so I will miss seeing your interaction with the other boys and with Paul at our team dinners, before & after games, at practice, and so on.
You have given us lifelong memories and as your parents so aptly point out, a wonderful example of faith. When I was your age, I struggled to understand the meaning of "faith is assurance of things hoped for, proof of things not seen". My best friend as I grew up (for whom you remind me of a great deal) and you provide the clarity by the way you both have lived. I'm not sure as to the accuracy of what I recently heard, but it was said to my understanding that the ancient Egyptians believed that there was an afterlife for those who lived their life with joy and were a joy to others. You always gave Zach and me great joy. Thank you so much, Ben, and to your family for sharing you with us. We always loved you, we just didn't know how much.
Bret Rodgers
Father of Zach Rodgers (teammate of Ben's on CUSC) and team co-manager.
Cousin Mel
July 25th 2008
mrbroholm@bsu.edu
When Ben was born it was so exciting, he was the first cousin my brother and I had on the Elo side of the family! When asked to recall a favorite memory of Ben, the same thing keeps popping up- when Ben was very small he used to walk down the driveway at Grandma and Grandpa's old house, smelling every flower along the side of it. Ben, you are missed, and I wish I would have spent more time getting to know you. The time I did spend with you will always be cherished.
Love always,
Cousin Mel
Amy Bertram
July 25th 2008
flamey@comcast.net
I have known Ben since was about 2 years old, as his family moved across the street in the small community in which my father and stepmother (Joe and Brenda Van Mol) live. We saw him 1-2 times per year, and my now 14 year old daughter Kate could not WAIT to get to Grandma and Grandpa's house during those visits. If the Elos weren't home as soon as we got to the house in those younger years, Kate would ask incessantly, "IS BEN HOME YET??" We even flew down over Labor Day weekend in 1999 for Ben's 6th bday party AND to see little Miss Grace for the 1st time. Kate hurt herself on one of Ben's bikes, and she was a buzzkill the rest of the weekend. (Sorry, Ben!)
The memory that sticks out most is the Saturday of that Labor Day weekend back in 1999 when Gma and Gpa took Kate, Ben and me to an outdoor concert/festival. We brought a basket of food and some drinks, and Ben was so excited because he had gotten his mom and dad's permission to try a soda (mind you...caffeine free, of course...I think it was a Sprite) for the very first time! That was awesome to see the look on Ben's face when the sugary bubbly goodness touched his lips. I'm pretty sure he didn't know what to make of it.
Ben, you were always a kind and wonderful boy, and your amazing spirit lives on in all whose lives you have touched. Brian and Melanie, you are wonderful parents and sincere, amazing people: you will perservere and celebrate your son. Jack and Grace: you were so lucky to have Ben as your big brother all your lives, and you are better for his love: just be Jack and be Grace, and in doing that, you will make Ben, your mom and dad, and God above proud.
All our love,
The Bertrams
Laura Bade
July 25th 2008
bricwalk@sbcglobal.net
I never met your son. I saw his obituary in the paper. With the loss of someone so young, I went to this website to learn more about Benjamin. What a guy! In just his short 14 years he achieved so much. To also read of his love for the Lord and to live the life of a Christian is so overwhelming. I don't know what happened to Benjamin, but I do know, from reading his life story, watching the film, and reading the many tributes to him, he is now with the Lord. What an example he has set for many whom are now left behind. Your family are in my thoughts and prayers................
With deepest sympathy,
Laura Bade
Paul Kerridge
July 25th 2008
The first time I met Ben was at Soccer tryouts. We spoke for a while and after watching him play I offered him a place on the team. He was so excited he didn't know what to do with himself. The following day I called Brian and spoke to him not only to offer Ben a spot on the team but also to let him know what a tremendously likeable and polite young man Ben is.
From his very first impression Ben was a credit to his parents and the upbringing that they gave him.
Sorely missed but never forgotten.
PK
Laurie Quay
July 25th 2008
la_quay17@yahoo.com
Melanie & Brian,
My heart is just breaking at this horrible, shocking news. I haven't seen Ben since he was a pre-schooler, and he turned out to be such a handsome young man, and from everything I read, you have every reason to be extremely proud of him. I have wondered about him through the years, since his birth was so close to my son, John's. I remember all of us marveling at the amazing resemblance he had to his dad. I am praying for your whole family. You have my deepest sympathy.
Sincerely,
Laurie Quay
Brenda Van Mol
July 25th 2008
bvanmol@aol.com
Brian and Melanie,
You know how much we loved your son. He was the "grandson" that we could see every day. Since our own grandchildren live in other states, Ben was the one that we could talk about and share stories about with our friends. He was the one we could spoil, like giving him Hershey Kisses (which he thought were toys) and Coke!!! If you could have seen the look on his face when he took that first drink of Coke; we introduced him to a whole new world! He would come over to our house and try any "forbidden food" with glee!
As he grew older, we saw less of him, but you were obliging in giving us access to your other two wonderful children, Jack and Grace. You two are awesome parents and fantastic neighbors. You have made us better people by just being here.
Joe and I love you all,
Brenda
Jim and Kris Zaloudek
July 25th 2008
kzaloudek@gmail.com
Dear Brian and Mel-
Having known you both since our college days at Butler, we have many memories (some of which we will not share!) of watching you grow from fun-loving college grads (madly in love!!) and ready to take on the world...to new homeowners buying your first home in Indianapolis...to expectant parents decorating Ben's darling nursery in everything Beatrix Potter...to planning and building your beautiful home in Mooresville...to having more kids and adjusting to everything "family".
You transitioned beautifully from kids to grownups to parents and have become amazing parents. We have always admired the way you've been raising your kids...rules, unconditional love, healthy lifestyle, strong work ethic, love of sports, emphasis on education, and most of all being Christians and modeling your love of Christ to your children...teaching by your example.
We were crushed when we heard of Ben's passing. Our hearts are breaking for all of you, and we are praying for you.
Jim and Kris Zaloudek
Chris Wolfe
July 25th 2008
bearfan923@yahoo.com
I did not have the pleasure of meeting Ben however; I went to grade school and high school with Brian. I am so sorry for your loss. I wish that your pain and sorrow are eased with time and healing. Allow Ben to live on in your memories of all the good times that you shared. It sounds like he touched a number of people and left quite a path for other young children to follow. May God be with you! Take care, Chris Wolfe and The Whole Wolfe Family, Robert, Elaine, Deb, and Joe
Cara Herbig
July 25th 2008
caraherbig@comcast.net
We only had the opportunity to see Ben once each year when we visited Dad and Brenda on Memorial Day weekend. However, it was so great to see how he had changed and grown year over year for those 12 or so years. Since Ben was born only a month before my son, it was pretty neat to see how each of them were progressing in age, size, and in many other ways. A few things stick out for me though, and the biggest one was what a truly good person Ben was becoming. I have 3 girls and a boy, and I have always said that God knew I couldn't handle the garden variety, getting into trouble kind of boy, so he gave me Christopher. I am pretty darn sure that Ben was that kind of boy too. Just a good, kind, sweet, loving kid. Loved sports, loved his family. The one other thing that I remember was coming out one Memorial Day weekend, and being completely dumbfounded at how TALL Ben got in just one single year!! I mean, no joke, I thought he was Brian! That was a serious growth spurt.
Melanie and Brian, Jack and Grace, I know that this is beyond all comprehension the most difficult and painful time of your life. I also know and believe that someday we will all be able to talk about Ben, remember him, celebrate him ...and do this with the joy completely overriding the sadness. I will never forget your son - he will live on with my family, I promise you that.
Cara
Steve Klinger
July 25th 2008
sklinger@spitfire.net
I'll always remember Ben as a great kid, strong leader and giving heart. My first acquaintance in 2001 was our church's first mission trip to Calnali Mexico, Ben was 8 or 9 and came with Melanie. He woke up the first morning and his first word were "I can't even believe waking up to roosters!". I was amazed at the way he intereacted with the village children, while not speaking spanish, he understood play and soccor. Recently during the floods in Martinsville - the entire Elo family showed up to help. The truck of supplies/cots showed up late - everyone was tired, but Ben (and Jack) immediately jumped in the truck and started unloading. I know Ben is organizing kids in heaven and his spirit lives on.
Justin Moore
July 25th 2008
justinmoore19@aol.com
Ben was such an amazing kid and a great influence on so many people. I enjoyed Ben's great leadership attributes both on and off the athletic field. Watching Ben inspired me to be the best that I can be at everything that I attempted. Everyone looked up to Ben. He was a walking influence to non-believers, and his life was truly lived in pursuit of Christ. My thoughts and prayers are with the Elo family. Thank you Ben for always living your life to the fullest. You knew how to bring a smile to all that knew you. I know that you have found your true home in Heaven and are at the feet of your Savior worshipping Him. I miss you and love you.
"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28
Deb Titus
July 25th 2008
rdbe@aol.com
Melanie and family, From all of us at Dr. Don Duggan's office, please know that we are praying for you all during this terrible time. Words cannot express the pain that you are feeling right now, and only God can mend your broken hearts. Please trust him. Ben sounds like an amazing boy that you can surley be proud of. The staff of Dr. Don Duggan
Lake Price
July 24th 2008
Lakeprice@hotmail.com
I remember when Sassy,Parker, and I all went over to Ben's house and had a big paintball war. We got a bunch of scratches and bruises from the woods that we were having the wasr in and the getting hit by the paintball. The funniest thing was when Parker hit Ben right on the top of the head. His hair was all green from the paint. After the war all four of us watched Blazing Saddles din his basement. It was one of the funnier movies ive seen. After that movie Ben and us would always say lines out of it. It was fun.
Best of wishes to the Elo family,
Lake Price
Ashleigh Gore
July 24th 2008
ash_xoxo1@yahoo.com
There are not enough words to describe Ben Elo. Some that come to my mind are caring, compassionate, generous, forgiving, considerate, loving, athletic, hilarious, and understanding. Ben and I had our ups and downs, but I really got to know him this year. I learned that there was much more to him than his athletic ability. Underneath, he had a heart that reached out to everyone that he cared for. Ben always did his best at everything. Anything Ben set his mind to, he did. Whether it be winning a soccer game, or getting good grades…Ben accomplished it all. He didn’t know the meaning of quitting.
I can remember passing notes with him in class all the time. We would talk about countless random things. We told each other that we could ask each other anything…. and that we would be honest. Ben always knew how to make me and everyone else he knew smile. I remember staying up until midnight talking to him on the internet, and getting to know his “soft” side. I would always be online, just waiting for him to get on where I could talk to him. It would be the highlight of my whole entire day. I remember that when he wasn’t getting along with another student, he came to me for advice, which meant so much. Kings Island 2007 was amazing. We rode all the roller coasters together, and took tons of crazy pictures on THE BEAST. Ben was definitely my best friend before he went to Paul Hadley.
We played soccer together, and of course he was the best one on the team. He was so encouraging to everyone, including myself. Ben was an encourager. Whether on the basketball court or on the soccer field, he was always shouting “It’s okay, nice try, maybe next time.” Ben was both a great winner and also a great loser. He was arguably MCA’s Most Valuable Player.
When Ben left Mooresville Christian Academy, I at first did not accept his decision. I didn’t understand why he would just leave when he only had one semester left. I regret not supporting him. He wanted me to be supportive, and understanding..but I could not do what he had done for me so many times. Now I know..that God wanted him to go to Paul Hadley. If he wouldn’t have switched schools, those people at Mooresville wouldn’t have had a chance to meet this amazing, talented guy.
It is going to be different without Ben here, talking to his biceps, telling hilarious jokes, and making me smile. The thing I will miss about Ben the most…is definently how he listened. I could tell Ben everything, and instead of judging me, or whatever he could’ve said or done…he was there for me. He made everything better. Even through bad times..i always knew that a smile would emerge when I talked to him.
Ben will never be forgotten in my heart and in the hearts of those who love him. He was a great person, inside and out (not to mention I had a crush on him all year ) I will always remember his smile that would light up the room. And every morning he would make it an effort to come up to me and say “Good morning Ashleigh.” And even if I was having a bad day, Ben would make me smile. We should be happy to know that Ben is in a much better place. I can imagine him playing soccer on streets of gold standing next to God.
To Ben’s parents, Brian and Melanie-
You both are amazing parents. You should be very proud that you raised such a talented amazing kid. Know that your son was a light to all that he knew. He was a friend to many, and a great team mate to others. Ben was very lucky to spend his life with you two as his parents; setting great examples, and teaching him so much. I bet he is looking down from heaven, thanking the both of your for forming him into a great kid.
To Ben’s Brother and Sister: Jack and Grace.
I can’t imagine what the two of you are going through. But the only word of advice I have, is to always trust in God. When you are having those bad days..or difficult times, always know that God is never far. Don’t be afraid to talk about Ben. All the fun you had with him, the countless memories, his personality. Ben is listening. Jack, he knows that you are going to be an amazing older brother. Grace, he knows that God can fill the emptiness you are feeling.
2 Timothy 4:7- I have fought the good fight. I have completed the race. I have kept the faith.
Ben..we love you, and you will never be forgotten.
Brittany Ball
July 24th 2008
hinderlover246@yahoo.com
I remember when i was in sixth grade and we had had our first class for band. My close friend cyli was sitting next to me. Ben was in the back playing the drums with his best bud aaron. Everytime cyli called him she always called him bean. I never really knew why but thats the name she gave him. After that all of us got names.
Ben was always cool. He was great at sports and just loved life. Thats one thing out of the many that i liked about him. He was cool.
Jacob Frankovitz
July 24th 2008
jhfrank3@comcast.net
Ben remember that time in practice when you got so mad at me, because whenever you would get the ball I would put high pressure and be real physical. So when I was pushing you with my shoulders which was like up to your waste I accidently elbowed that area on you that is your weakest spot AKA your pot of gold. Well Ben that is only one of the many memories that me and you shared for the twelve months that I knew you. I will miss you very much and your family is holding up very strong. Were all here for you.
Jacob Frankovitz AKA JE (Jewish Enforcer)
Lisa King
July 24th 2008
I didn't know your son, but I came across his obituary in the Kokomo Tribune. What a beautiful young man. Please accept my sincere condolences in the loss of your son and brother. I know he is in the arms of Jesus and safe. There is a wonderful website www.findagrave.com where people can go to leave notes and flowers. I have placed your loved one there, and I hope that all who see it will continue to honor him. I know how hard a loss can be. May God bless you all.
Travis Cunningham
July 24th 2008
travis.cunningham94@gmail.com
I can't believe you are gone - I didn't get the chance to say goodbye. I'll always miss you Ben... too bad we didn't have the chance to hang out much lately.
One memory I have of you is when I held you and Aaron *hostage* in the basement with an airsoft gun and I didn't let you out. I'm sure you were shot a few times even though your dad did say not to shoot it in the house.
I'll miss you for a few years but I'll be up there to hang out with you later. I'll see you again.
Debbie Victor
July 24th 2008
dvictor@spsmw.org
Dearest Brian, Melanie and family,
My heart is only one of so many hurting right now. Ben was such a tribute to you. His infectious smile, look of wonderment, and love for life will forever be etched on my heart. As his other "soccer Mom", I can assure you that your son was the most thoughtful, polite, Christian young man that I've ever seen at the young age of 14. While he never "wore his Christianity on his sleeve", it was always present in his humility and character. Again, a visible tribute to his upbringing by two loving, caring parents.
We will miss Big Ben terribly.
I'm not sure how we will make it through the next soccer season, but as I told Parker, Ben would be saying "Dude, we have GOT to do this!" And we will ~ for Ben.
The Victor family, as everyone else, will be lifting you up in prayer as you begin this healing process and beyond. Know that we will be forever grateful to you for sharing Ben with us, however brief. What a huge impact this young man has made on so many lives!
God Bless you, and keep you in His loving care.
Love always,
Debbie (and the guys)
Skye Hart
July 24th 2008
skye.victoria@mchsi.com
I lived only a couple houses away from Ben, he was a great kid. My best friend Stacey and I always played with Ben, Jack and gracie when she was older. Sadly we moved in 2004, which ment no more seeing Ben and his family.
When I figured out that Ben died I was overcomed with grief. Even though I haven't seen him since i was in second grade, I still miss him.....
~skye
Manuel Calle
July 24th 2008
manuelcallea@hotmail.com
I remember when I was ten years old, Ben taught me how to shoot a soccer ball the right way. Now every time that I shoot I shoot the way that Ben taught me. Ben thank you very much, you are in my prayers and I will miss you.
Manuel Calle
Uncle Denny
July 24th 2008
I remember Ben as being the most kind and thoughtful young man that I have ever known. He was also very competitive and a great athlete. I remember playing RISK with Ben and he took me on and “BEAT” the all time RISK CHAMP. At Pokagon State Park this summer Ben and I went bike riding and went slow to allow me to keep up. He was a most respectful young man to everyone.
Katrina Kozisek
July 24th 2008
I remember two years ago at Spring Mill state Park her and Ben go into a water fight and were dumping water all over each other. It was really fun. I am going to miss Ben. We were only two months apart in age. I always look forward to the family reunions in the summer. We will always cherish the times Ben was with us and will always keep his spirit in our hearts.
Barbra Kozisek
July 24th 2008
I remember when Ben and Katrina were about a year old at my mom and dad’s house. Grandma and Grandpa Harrison were there and Ben and Katrina were pushing around the Barney car, which is one of those push cars. They had a little tiff as to who had the Barney car first. Grandma was cheering on the two of them in that voice that we all remember. I also remember the time that we ran into Melanie and her kids at the Indianapolis Children’s Museum and we came back to her house and let the kids play. Ben was great with the kids as he got older. He will be greatly missed but those in heaven will be greatly blessed.
Jesus said, “Do not your heart’s be troubled, trust in God, also in Me. In my father’s house there are many rooms. If it were not so I would have told you I am going there to prepare a place for you and take you to be where I am.” (John 14 1-6)
Uncle Steven Neubauer
July 24th 2008
He always marveled how grown up at a young age Ben acted and always thought that are sons could learn a great deal from him. He mentioned on more than one occasion that he was a great role model to our sons.
Cousin Emma
July 24th 2008
Emma loved her cousin Ben and all his piggy-back rides. He was always lifting, teaching and helping her on the state park trials at our annual family reunions. He always looked after the little ones.
Cousin Bruce
July 24th 2008
Bruce thought Ben was so great teaching Ben soccer at all the family get-togethers. He took the time at one reunion event to teach Bruce how to play baseball. I remember him working with Bruce to teach him how to hold the bat and hold the glove and play ball.
Cousin Paul
July 24th 2008
Paul spent many hours playing soccer with Ben at reunion and in Michigan. He loved playing the RISK board game with his cousins at Christmas and learned a lot from Ben.
Paul really looked up to Ben and saw him as a role model. He liked to follow him around.
Aunt Linda
July 24th 2008
My memories of Ben are of his birth to a few weeks ago. I have some wonderful memories, but I remember most is caring and kindness. He was always willing to help with anything that anyone needed. He spent hours taking care of our Emma at our 2007 reunion for the Ellers family. She has loved her cousin Ben ever since.
Godfather Uncle Tim
July 24th 2008
Ben was the ring bearer at my wedding when he was eight years old. He not only did a great job as ring bearer, but found the maid of honor’s lost engagement diamond ring. When all the adults were looking for it, Ben found the stone among all the sparkling confetti that no one else saw. I guess he was closer to the ground. Needless to say he was the hero of the day.
Grandma and Grandpa Ellers
July 24th 2008
sjellers@comcast.net
Grandma and Grandpa Ellers,
Where do I start with my memories of Ben—we have been on so many “adventures” together. I remember seeing him right after he was born and he looked exactly like Brian. I’ve never seen a son look so much like his Dad and his Dad has been his hero ever since. Ben has been to visit so many times, but the visit that I shall cherish most with Ben has been in the past three weeks. We were honored to have him come to our home and stay for a week. What a special time; we talked, shared stories and went camping. We also went to Michigan to stay with Linda and family and had fun at the beach. I shall cherish those memories forever.
Jack Elo
July 24th 2008
This summer Ben, Grace, I and Grandma went to visit our cousins in Michigan. One afternoon we went to the beach and the waves were about 3 feet high and rough. My brother Ben and I had spent hours jumping and diving into the waves and letting them push us back to the shoreline. We had a great time together.
Grandma Elo
July 24th 2008
When Ben was celebrating his first birthday—he had never had sweets—when it came to eating his birthday cake he wouldn’t have anything to do with it, not so much as even putting his fingers in the frosting. That didn’t last long!
Steve Lamb
July 24th 2008
steve47834@hotmail.com
I never met Ben, but I feel so close to the family from reading these messages. I was just scanning the IndyStar webpage when I noticed his passing at such a young age.
My heart goes out to his parents, siblings and other relatives.
I'm sure he is resting in God's arms.
Uncle "Cheese"
July 24th 2008
steve.b.butler@comcast.net
Ben was a gifted athlete and his interest in sports is no surprise as both his Mom and Dad are avid sports fans. In fact, because Ben’s birthday parties were always during football season they usually featured a few uncles clustered around a TV set watching a game.
The Elo family sporting tradition provided an opportunity for me to have a special relationship with Ben—I was the non-traditional “motor sports” guy. When Ben was a pre-schooler, I introduced him to his 1st motorcycle ride. He would sit in front of me, on top of the gas tank, and he would hold on to my arms—because he was too small to reach the handlebars. I can remember him twisting his little body when the bike leaned around the corners, as if he felt I needed his help in balancing the strange vibrating super-sized version of a "bicycle."
Soon we had graduated from motorcycles and I took Ben on his 1st airplane ride. What a great experience to show Ben how different the world looks from high above the ground. Ben rode up front with me—in the co-pilot’s seat—and tested the controls as he helped bank the plane around Grandma’s house on she waved up from her home on South Main Street.
One of my favorite summer activities was to take Melanie and her kid’s boating. As they grew older, we had the goal to teach them to water ski. Water skiing can be a bit intimidating to young children; so Melanie would jump into the water, put on the skis, and “show the kids how it’s done.” I can still remember how proud we all were when Ben got up on skis the 1st time. After his first success, he kept skiing for a very long time impressing us with his stamina and fitness.
A few years ago, Ben's brother Jack got a dirt bike for his birthday. In the process of teaching Jack how to ride, I also introduced Ben to dirt bikes. Sometimes Ben would come to Kokomo and I would borrow a motorcycle for him so that he didn’t need to share Jack’s bike—both boys could ride at the same time. We would ride around the track, or through the woods, all three of us riding together. I would alternate between leading (to demonstrate), then dropping behind to watch the boys perfect their own technique. These were such great times for me--I was drawing the boys into my own element and sharing my love for machines.
Although Ben seemed to enjoy trying these motorized activities, it was clear that these were never a substitute for his favorite sports. It is a tribute to Ben’s kind nature that he showed tolerance—and even enthusiasm—for all my “gear-head” activities even though he remained committed to excelling as a traditional athlete. Many boys would reject or make fun of activities that weren’t part of their own value system. Not Ben, he was always open and gracious about other people's interests.
Ben possessed many talents, but his humananity was his greatest gift to all of us that knew him. He will be deeply missed.
Love,
Uncle "Cheese"
Brent, Christi, Ryan & Lake Price
July 24th 2008
bwclprice@comcast.net
Brian & Melanie,
We lift you up with thoughts and prayers. Ben was so special and thoughtful. His love for his friends was so reflective in everything he did with his friends and family. He touched my heart so heavily when Lake was going through such a rought time with his illness and he sent Lake a prayer card, not many 14 year olds would ever do that. The love and support that you showed through our difficult time was so reflective in Ben as well. I hope that I be as much help and support as you were for us! Your love for your son will live on forever and we grieve with you today for our team son.
Lake has lost a true friend but not in his heart!
We love all of you and our deepest sympathy goes out to each of you!
Brent, Christi, Ryan & Lake
Mom and Dad
July 24th 2008
brian-smi@att.net
Dearest Baby Boy, My heart is breaking as I type......I am soooo missing you right now!!! I miss when you would come upstairs to bed and night and stop by our room to grap a q-tip and give both of us a hug and say good night and I love you! I miss waking you up in the morning and tickling you and pulling the hair on your legs to get you going.......you never once complained. I remember cutting your hair and the negociation that would take place over the size of the guard. As you got older the number kept getting higher and higher. I'm glad I got the chance to cut it one last time last week. Talk to me Benjamin! I need you more now than ever! You were everything I wanted in a friend....compassionate, funny, intelligent, a servant of God and most of all....loyal! You would follow me around like a puppy...even to the bathroom. I will always miss that! I look at your picture now and your eyes look into my soul....I hope you can see how much I loved you! I can't walk anywhere in this house and not see some place you touched. Your fingerprints are all over the place and me. I realized over the last couple of days all the people you have touched. I never imagined! I knew you were good, Ben. I just didn"t realize how good. In fact you were FANTASTIC! I need you to reach out to me, Ben! My heart is missing a big 5'11" 170lbs section of it.....PLEASE HEAR ME!
Your Loving Father
The Moore Family
July 24th 2008
One of our first memories of Ben was at an MCA skating party (Kindergarten/First Grade?). Michaela was struggling to stay on her skates. Ben came whizzing by on his rollerblades, giving her a thumbs-up, encouraging her by yelling, "You're doing good, Michaela!"
What a 'magnetic' personality he had ... you couldn't help but be drawn to him! He will be missed by many.
Our hearts go out to your family. We pray that the Lord will just wrap you in His comforting arms, and give you strength for the days ahead.
Our love and prayers are with you all,
Joe, Shauni, Michaela & Isaac
Debbi Kasper
July 24th 2008
shuttleme@comcast.net
Brian, Melanie, Jack and Gracie
The memory I share with you all is of the real "boy" that Ben was. After playing soccer in Rockford, him coming back to the hotel and just snuggling up in his bed watching TV....that is when they are the most precious. We ALL have lost a wonderful son. I will miss his smile, his sensitivity and his presence. Keep you family strong and use your faith to get thru....my thoughts and prayers follow you every day.....Debbi Kasper
Rachelle Gegg
July 24th 2008
SRGegg@cs.com
We have so many wonderful memories of Ben. He was a great kid. He was a great friend to Aaron. Thank you for that. You know they've been buddies since the first day of first grade. What a blessing to have him as a friend through thick and thin over so many years. I was always so grateful for Aaron's "gang" from MCA.
You two are wonderful parents, don't forget that. To have a boy who was so polite and so loyal and fun was a gift from you. Thank you for being an extended family to Aaron and to us as well. We love you and are here for you--day or night--forever.
Ray and Sara Land
July 24th 2008
rkland@lilly.com
Brian and Melanie,
At least a media that don't show my tears! Your family is
awesome. You've always been a beacon of love and
sharing. I remember Ben in a different light. I always tried
to keep him on his toes. He was a selfless person who looked up to both of you, and some of his shared moments
with me told me that.
Recently at the flood relief at Martinsville we spent several
hours together. He shared how much he hoped to be able
to help others as you two have. Wow, what a goal for a
young man. I'll miss him so very much.
I don't have to tell you guys, any day, any way, any time we
are here for you. Sara has some inside experience that I will share with you two at another time.
I'm sorry for your loss, but Jesus called a little angel to
brighten up the night sky.
YBIC,
Ray
