Austin Melgar
Jan 26th 2001 - Apr 24th 2008
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Jen
June 2nd 2008
Although I didn't know them long i still whew them and heard many things. Sarah was the one Melgar I talked to the most. Austin was a fighter and I'll never forget.
WE LOVE YOU AUSTIN!!!!!!!!!!!!
Whitney Ihrman
May 15th 2008
Although I never met Austin, I heard that he had that Bruder-Melgar spunk. I won't soon forget how Brianna and Danielle used to keep me on my toes when they were in Kindergarten! Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. My the love and happiness you shared with Austin comfort you all.
Cris Ball
May 7th 2008
As a nurse @ peds hem/onc, I know Austin could be a handful! I always loved his spirit and infectious smile! I will treasure the memory of being his "nut lady"! If a peanutshell ever bonks me on the head, I will know who threw it!
b.Loewy
May 5th 2008
I only met Austin one time at his Uncle Mikes and Aunt
Christines home in Old Brookville L.I. But what a impact he had on me. He ofcourse was very shy. I could feel his
love and joy of life and being around him that one time was a great blessing for me. Thank you Austin for that one time.
i have prayed for you and your family ever day since that one time. With great respect and admiration for you and your faith .May God bless you and your family
forever.
Sincerely ,Bruce Loewy
Laurie and Jeff Doud
May 4th 2008
Our favorite memory of Austin was at last years Kings game. We were waiting at the entrance when your limo pulled up and out came a bunch of kids, including Austin. As we were entering the field the coach of the Kings came and got Austin asking if he wanted to go into the locker room and meet the team - Austin said yes and then asked if his brother could come too! It took awhile before we saw him again - he was so busy running up and down the stands, visiting with all his friends, and enjoying the stadium food. We did manage to grab him for a minute and get a picture with Austin and his two birthday buddies. We were so amazed by his energy. We will never forget the smile that lit up the world. He will be forever remembered.
Love,
Laurie and Jeff (Austin's other birthday buddy)
Sara Krebill
May 3rd 2008
Tom, Fran, Brianna, Danielle, Sarah and Ryan........There are so many wonderful memories to share about Austin. One in particular was two years ago, just before the Kalamazoo King's "Austin Melgar Day". My husband thought Austin should practice throwing before the first pitch at the game! Austin came over to warm up in our front yard. We laughed and laughed as Gary and Austin tossed the ball back and forth to each other. Gary kept saying, "step into it Austin"! Austin must have thought, "what the heck does that mean, I'm only five". Anyway, Austin went by limo to the game and threw out the first pitch like a pro!
That kids was amazing. I will miss him so much.
Hugs and kisses to all of you, Mommy Sara
Amy
May 1st 2008
My best memory is one That I will always cherish. Fran, Austin, My son Codey And I were all able to attend Mass together @ St Johns church in NYC. I remember sitting in the pew with Austin and Codey nestled between myself and Fran. Knowing all to well, that Fran and I were both saying the same prayers. Looking at those to little beautiful souls and knowing that they were the choosen ones, choosen by God because he knew how special they are. Austin was an amazing little boy, We are so blessed to have met and became friends with this family. God Bless you all.
Carol Chadderdon
May 1st 2008
Tom, Fran, Brianna, Danielle, Sarah and Ryan
I'm not good at writing about my emotions but I wanted to share this letter with you that I sent today to Locks for Love. My prays are with you and your family.
In late March or early April of 2001 I meet the most amazing family I believe I every will in meet in my life time. A family that knew the true meaning of family and God. They were sincere in their faith which has tested them for the last two and half years.
Not once did they stumble in their faith or the strenght of family falter in any way. They had a child names Austin who had the brightess smile in a twinkle in his eyes that said watch out. A very loving child, mischief, active and loved all sports especially soccer, running and just enjoying time with his family.
2005 he was diagnois with Neuroblastoma Cancer. I watch his mother nurse him when was little, care for him when he broke his arm, love him when he drove the family car down their driveway at the age of two. How he would color at my desk and ask his Mom are we done yet. Just that look was Austin. I seen Austin show amazing strenght and faith beyond his years and still always have the brightess smile I've ever seen on a child. He suffered through many chemo radation and other treatments and never complained or asked why. Why me lord? Any adult would of asked this question. But not Austin all he wanted was to play and spend time with his family. I remember last year how he just got a fishing pole after finishing another bout of chemo. He just wanted to go fishing. His parents did alot of special things to make Austin better. I prayed every day for this famiy along with hundreds of others. Austin was going to be that mircle we all need. Now he is one of God's very special Angles. I grew this
hair to help other children like Austin. So now I pass this on to you in good faith that it will help a child through a terrible ordeal.
I send this in memory of a child that I will always hold a place in my heart . A memory that will always be there. If only we had more Austin's in this world along with his family what wonderful place this would be. I'm sending his obituarie with this so you can see the brightest smile their every was, there is no flower that blooms that can compete against this Angle smile and twinkle in his eye's.
Sincerely
Carol Chadderdon
Ellen Robare
April 30th 2008
I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy.
I don't know you guys well, but I can remember working a library shift at Amberly during which Austin's class came in. It must have been last year, I remember it being a kindergarten class, and he got to attend school a quite a bit that year. I was aware at the time that he had cancer, but he was just such a normal kid, always had a smile on his face, and nobody treated him any differently (well, except for maybe that we never nagged him about his overdue books!) He even had some pretty darn cute-looking hair then. I can recall thinking that if you didn't know he was sick, you’d never know he was sick - if you know what I mean. Not much of a memory, I guess, but looking back now I imagine that was a really happy time for Austin, getting to just be a “regular” kid for a while.
Like many others, I’ve followed Austin’s story on the CaringBridge site, and I know that your hearts are broken with a pain that is beyond compare right now. I hope that all of the memories of your little angel are helping you, even in the midst of the sorrow, to celebrate a life that, brief though it may have been, was by no means small!
Mike and Lori
April 30th 2008
Tom, Fran, and Kids
Austin is such a beautiful young boy with a smile that can melt anyones heart. Although I cant stop the tears from falling I feel very fortunate to have been given the chance to meet Austin and his amazing family. Over the past 2 plus years, I have been completely amazed at how such a brave young boy has been able to show the courage to fight for himeself and for others. I remember when we first met Austin, on the sidelines of his sisters soccer game. It toook very little time before Alex and Austin had found a soccer sideline friendship, whether they played in the tents, kicked the soccer balls around, marched on the bleachers at soccer zone with their Icee's or sitting quietly for a minute to catch up on the game, they always found a way to have a fun adventure. Even when he was sick Austin always had a smile for Alex, and therefore Alex has been blessed by having the priveledge of meeting such a Strong and Brilliant young man. In the shortness of his life he has inspired everyone who has came in contact with him by showing them how much he loved every moment of life. Even when he was in pain, he suprised us all with his constant smile and determination. Austin must be such a beautiful angel up in heaven. God must of known that your family is quite special when he chose you for Austin, and we thank you for sharing him with us.
Lori and Mike
Taylor, Anna and Alex
Michelle O'Connell- PCA Bronson Peds
April 30th 2008
I will always remember Austin's bright and loving smile. He was such a joy to care for. He was always pulling pranks on the Nurses and staff. I will miss him so much. I remember times of him and his sibling doing crafts, reading books or just watching Tv together. Austin had such a wonderful spirit considering all he went through. He will forever be in my heart.
Michelle O'Connell
Betsy McGraw
April 30th 2008
My first memory of Austin is one that happened even before he was born. The older Melgar girls and my daughter wanted to take figure skating lessons. Since Fran and I would have to be there during the lessons anyway, we decided to sign up for the adult figure skating class. The class ran from Sept. through December during the time Fran was 5 to 8 months pregnant with Austin. We skated (and did a lot of laughing) one evening each week that fall. We even particpated in the final program in December, with Fran entering her 9th month of pregnancy!! I have often wondered if Austin's need to be in constant motion, and his great athletic coordination, had something to do with that skating class. Fran was clearly much more graceful with the twirls and kicks at 8 months pregnant than I ever was!!
Austin was born in January and I thought it was very fitting that he entered the world on a skating class night. I took Danielle and Brianna and my daughter, Annemarie, to lessons that night because Tom and Fran were at the hospital. We had fun anticipating what the newest member of the Melgar family would look and be like. Little did we know what an amazing kid he would become and the huge impact his life would have on so many people!
As neighbors, we had many opportunities to watch Austin grow and develop. My best memories will be of him fully enjoying whatever he was doing, whether climbing up and down the concrete steps to our pool 100 times at about 18 months, riding skateboards, scooters or bikes in our driveway or playing pool in our basement......his "mash" version of pool (as my daughter calls it) that is!
As fellow members of St. Thomas More, I have special memories of Austin's baptism and his first communion.
Today, I will also attend Austin's funeral and I will cry over a beautiful life ended way to soon. In the days to come, I will think of Austin kicking his soccer balls through rainbows in heaven, and I will thank God that I have had the opportunity to know the Melgar family and to share in Austin's life!
Julie DeRoeck
April 29th 2008
I was watching television tonight and when Home Improvement came on I thought of Austin. I loved the story you told about how he liked to watch T.V. late at night and that he told you the trick to staying up was to close your eyes during commercials! I closed my eyes and thought of Austin!
Arthur
April 29th 2008
I remember when I first saw Austin, he was brought into my parents' study in his baby carrier guy. I didn't really know what to make of him.
Lisa Griffith
April 29th 2008
Dear Austin,
You will always hold a place in my heart. The struggles that you battled and the strength that you had were great. I will always remember those big brown eyes and that smile from ear to ear. I was a patient care asst. at Bronson, and left a couple of years ago. But when I left, my thoughts of you and your family continued to stay with me. I am so sorry that you are gone and will be missed by many. My thoughts and prayers are with your family, and friends. God Bless you Austin.
Pat and Michaela Turk
April 29th 2008
Austin will always hold a special place in our hearts. I clearly remember seeing the eyes of Jesus looking up at me at St. Tom's as Austin lay on the bench with the family. Your strength and faith have been an inspiration to me. Our Christopher is 7 years old too, and we are caring for his needs as a special child with cerebral palsy. I will share Austin's strength and faith with Christopher as he grows. ptt
Austin sounds like a delightful boy; he will always be happy and have a special place in my heart. I have many times with him in my prayers. I hope he will have a wonderful time with you in your prayers too. mkt
Maureen Cartmill
April 29th 2008
Families stand out for many reasons and I remember, as many observed of my four brother and sisters growing up, being attracted to your shear numbers. As your family grew right before our eyes at St. Tom,s we watched with enjoyment your devotion, caring, commitment, love, and humor. You're quite a gang! Please know your family is in our prayers daily. Thank you for sharing Austin; such a wonderful child. Maureen Cartmill
Jen Seibel
April 29th 2008
I met Austin during his first admission to the hospital. He was so cute, always smiling! He couldn't wait to get back out onto the soccer field. I will never forget him. He was one of the few patients that has touched my life forever. I will never forget him.
Donna Ludwinski
April 29th 2008
Austin's reputation as a vivacious and joyful child preceeded him, and I treasure the opportunity I had to meet this amazing young man at the CNCF conference in Chicago last summer. Austin was so happy, so energetic, and surrounded by the most strikingly beautiful family! All of the Melgars have touched my life permanently, especially Austin, and I am deeply grieved for your loss. Your faith and love for one another are a testimony to all of us. Thank you for blessing us and sharing Sweet Austin with all of us.
Nurse Becky
April 28th 2008
I have many memories of Austin over his many stays at Bronson, but I think my favorite is the day I sent him to his kindergarten graduation. He was due to get a blood transfusion that morning and I did my very best to get it accomplished, but the transfusion didn't happen as fast as we would have liked. So Tom got him all ready to go in his little suit and tie. He was simply adorable! That is the image of him I will carry forever. He had the bigest smile on his face and was so excited about his graduation. He chatted about it all morning. As it got closer and closer to when the needed to leave I realized that his transfusion wasn't going to be quite done. So Tom and I decided the best thing to do is bring the car around to the door and Austin and I would meet him there and I would unhook his central line there. So that is exactly what we did. Austin always had a way of making us bend the rules...just a little! I will miss his happy smiles running in our halls and I think I will even miss his and Ryan's squirt guns (AKA syringes filled with water). I will surely never forget him or the rest of the family.
Nurse Becky
Cyndy Cohoon, RN
April 28th 2008
I am a nurse who worked with Fran and Tom at KCMS 200-2004. I remember when Austin was born and how excited Mom and Dad were... especially Dad. Dad would share that Austin was a prodigy... doing all things earlier than expected. This too was earlier than expected and I am so sorry for your loss.
I hope there is peace in knowing this special child is with angels and a better place.
CC
Sally Van Sweden
April 28th 2008
Dear Melgar Family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you. May you trust in the comfort of knowing that Austin is with Jesus.
Sincerely,
Van Swedens
Carol Kubota
April 28th 2008
I never met Austin, but I saw him in church many times. I also saw his family and how they cared so much about him. I could feel the love and energy that they had for each other. Along with the other members of St. Thoms, I prayed for Austin to get better. I am really sorry that he didn't. At least we can be assured that he is now in the hands of God and will be taken care of forever.
My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time. Austin will never be forgotten at St. Thoms.
Sincerely,
Carol
Anne Mills
April 28th 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Austin will always have a special place in my heart as will all of you. I am blessed to have known Austin. My love to all of you.
carrie barnes
April 28th 2008
Dear Melgar Family,
I have been praying for Austin for the last couple of months since Kim Palmer shared his story at our church and asked for prayer for Austin. I am so sorry for your loss--what a joyful spirit he sounds like! May God give you the peace and comfort you need right now. We will continue to pray for your family.
Carrie Barnes
Kelli Talicska
April 28th 2008
I was so blessed to be entrusted to the care of the Melgar children for a short time when Fran went back to work. I remember holding Austin in my arms and toting him from room to room as his little baby smile helped me make dinners, finish homework, play games and enjoy his brothers and sisters. He was the object of everyone's affection, and rightly so!!! :)
After many years away from Kalamazoo, I saw Fran and Austin at St. Tom's in September of 2007 when I returned for WMU's Homecoming weekend. It was then that I learned of Austin's brave fight and then that I added my voice to the many lifted in prayer. Though God ultimately wanted Austin Home with Him, I will never stop praying in thanksgiving for the joy that was his life, and I know that he will be praying for all of us.
I am truly humbled by the example of FAMILY and LOVE that the Melgars have taught me and shown all of us. They said once that God made no mistake in building their family, and I couldn't agree more. Though I cannot begin to comprehend their loss, their gain is greater than any of ours...for they have now have one of the brightest angels in Heaven.
Jan Niefert
April 28th 2008
I have so many memories of Austin that it is hard to choose. In the days since he left us I have been thinking about him and there are three memories that stand out from the rest.
The first is the joy I remember upon learning that Fran was pregnant with him. I greet him each Sunday after church when Fran so graciously allowed me to place my hands on her stomach and talk to Austin. He always responded with good strong kicks which delighted me in the extreme! I felt in love with Austin before he was even born!
Another memory is a time when the four older Melgar children were all going to the same week long soccer camp as my daughter.Fran and I decided to carpool with me doing the morning drop off and she doing the afternoon pick up. So each morning I would arrive at the Melgars and the older four would come trooping out wearing their soccer clothes wiith shin gards and soccer shoes and carrying a back pack, water bottle, and lunch box. Right out behind them would come Austin. He too would be dressed in complete soccer gear, he too would carry a backpack, lunch box, and water bottle, but he wasn't going any where. He was too young for soccer camp. But that didn't stop him from getting ready every day just like his big brother and sisters, and it didn't stop his yearning to be doing what they were doing. He never fussed as we pulled away, just stood their watching us, until we were gone, as Fran reassured him that some day he would be old enough to go to camp too. He looked so darn cute standing there in all his gear!
My third memory is also realted to soccer. This is my most poignant memory of Austin and one that is sacred to me. We dropped in at the Melgar house the night before Austin's First Communion. He was very sick at that time. I sat down next to him on the couch and said to him "so I hear tomorrow is your big day (the First Communion) are you excited? Acknowledging that he was he said "Today was a big day too!" Upon asking what made that day a big day Austin told me "I got to play soccer today." He then invited me to sit down and watch the video of him playing soccer today. What I saw on the screen was boy who was so sick he could hardly run or keep up with the other kids but he sure could still kick the ball! I was saddened by the obvious decline in his condition and I looked over at him eagerly watching, for more than his first time that day, the same video and saw a child who was joyfully watching himself play soccer!!! He wasn't focused on what he couldn't do he was focused on what he was doing and how fun it had been! Austin blessed me that day with his perspective. I can't imagine our lives without this sweet, cute, fun boy in it.
April 27th 2008
From: Linda Timm
Because I neglected signing my first memory entry, I feel I am entitled to a 2nd chance. There is soooo much to say about Austin. There is a popular musical with a profound song which will always make me think of Austin.
The name of the song is "For Good":
"Who can say if I've been changed for the better, I do believe I have been changed for the better -- Because I knew you, I have been changed for Good." That will forever be my special Austin song.
Ree Millard
April 27th 2008
There is not a word I could say that would make this nightmare any easier for you. Children should never die before their parents. I learned the hard way from working with oncology patients, that after awhile you stop asking why, and just trust that God has a plan, it may not be ours , but we must trust that He knows what He is doing! My favorite memory of Austin was at his 1st Communion/Confirmation at St Tom's. Watching him receive communion with Fr. Ken and Fr Fitz beside him, as well as his parents was so moving! Later as I went to communion and passed the family, watching the tears in Fran's eye's realizing her time with this special child was probably not going to last forever,went staight to my heart. What a beautiful family! And Tom, all your work with the fundraising, to fight this horrible disease, you are to be commended! I know when you are hurting, and in the medical profession, you just have to find something positive to do to combat the "I can't fix this situation" . You have all been an inspiration to the rest of us, how faith can walk you through the lowest points of your life! Austin lives on in all of us who new and loved him! Know that you will forever be in my prayers! Love Ree
Gloria Meert
April 27th 2008
As a member of St. Tom's I often sat behind or beside your family and am saddened about your family's loss. I watched Austin as an infant in your arms and as he grew into a little boy. I think the memory that stays with me the strongest was one time when he came to Mass with his suit and tie looking so handsome even with his bald head. He sat between his sisters and brother and most of the time he was good but he as most little boys do would tease them with a kick or push. It was a blessing to be a witness to his life. My prayers continue for your family. May the Lord give you comfort and ease your grief. Thank you for being part of my Church family.
The Suryan Family
April 27th 2008
As members of the St Tom's Parish, we have been praying for Austin and his family. We are some of the many strangers you have touched with your love and courage. I just wanted to remind you that there are more people than you know praying for you still.
April 27th 2008
It could sound like a cliche, but it is not...that Austin just lit up the room when he walked in. Seeing him would always make my day. No one that sick could have been more full of life. He constantly amazed and inspired anyone who knew him. One day he was at the Y and not feeling well so he was curled up under a blanket watching TV. I went to check on him and was concerned that the room might be too cold, but he said he was just fine and then he offered to share his blanket with me so I could be warm too. He was my very very special birthday buddy!
Theresa Millin
April 27th 2008
When Austin was in the hospital for a particularly long stay, 5 weeks (Fran and the girls had even fashioned a tent over the bed hanging from the ceiling!), Austin and Ryan had gotten their hands on some Nerf guns. Now, as Austin's nurses, we were in and out of his room quite a few times throughout the day, and I wasn't really looking forward to being shot every time I needed to fix a beeping pump or hang a med. I drew red crosses with a marker on two washcloths, and my PCA and I pinned them to the front of our shirts. I then explained to the boys that it violated the rules of the Geneva Convention to fire on designated medical personnel. It worked! I know Ryan had an itchy trigger finger if our backs were turned and he couldn't actually "see" the red cross, but he was pretty good about not shooting us that day. In hindsight, I should have put the red cross on our backs, too. Austin still gave us that big smile when we walked into the room, but it was accompanied by a look of "darn, I can't shoot them"!
Meredith Decker
April 27th 2008
To Sarah & Family:
I am sorry about the loss of your brother. I lost my Uncle Randy last week. If you want to e-mail and talk my e-mail is merebear22497@aol.com I miss you at soccer.
Meredith Decker
Karin and David Code
April 26th 2008
We live behind you on Lost Pine Way. We moved here two and a half years ago and soon thereafter heard about your adorable Austin and his wonderful family. Even though we followed his hopeful progress and inspriational story on the website, it wasn't until last year's carnival that we had a chance to meet you face to face.
I first saw Austin in a spray of a fireman's hose on that warm summer day. Enjoying life like he knew we all should learn to do. He smiled so bright, I felt touched by a little angel.
We sent our prayers during the vigil last Thursday across our yards and continue to hold you all up in God's loving arms.
Peace,
The Code Family
Nurse Jen, Nurse Brooke, and Nurse Misty
April 26th 2008
Our story with Austin began when he was diagnosed with Neuroblastoma, but our true bond with him began when we had to start paying him to take care of him. Austin had an IV that was in his chest called a Central Line. This Central Line had a dressing over it that needed to be changed frequently. Austin hated the dressing changes and would try everything to get out of it. It used to take 2 hours to complete this task. One night we decided to bribe him. We each decide to pay him a dollar to see if we could speed this procedure up. It worked!! Austin earned $5.00 and the task was done in 20 minutes!! The other half of the bet was that Nurse Jen had to walk with Austin up and down the halls wearing a spiky green rubber hat so that everyone could laugh. We will always remember the “Show me the Money” picture from that night. We love you and will miss you! Thank you for being a part of our lives!!!
Love Nurse Jen, Nurse Brooke, and Nurse Misty
Janet
April 26th 2008
To Austin's Family:
I have never met you. I came to know Austin through a college friend who has a Dad that is very ill in Little Rock, Arkansas. I was given a link to Austin's Caring Bridge site and had grown to know him (and his amazing family) through the journal updates. I have (as well as many others) prayed for him and you. I am a teacher and I have a love for children. Austin's story took my breath away and I just decided to make it a commitment to pray for all of you.
I have no words that will be able to comfort you, but I do sense your deep faith and love for the Lord. I will place all of you in His hands and trust Him to get you through this time. Romans 8:28 has always been a comfort to me. My husband is a cancer survivor. My heart truly is broken for you and again, I am sorry for your loss. May God's grace be sufficent for you during this time.
In His Love,
Janet
Larry Beer
April 26th 2008
Austin made a strong impression on me whether we were talking or just watching him around the cul-de-sac. He had a rare level of poise for a young child. This was evident both before and after his cancer was detected. He really enjoyed interacting with other kids, adults and animals, but seemed to have a unique ability to keep himself company as he pursued what ever seemed important for him to be doing at a particular time. One of my memories of him was when I hired him to help me shovel snow. He went and got his little snow shovel and was still shoveling long after I had stopped What an amazing spirit he had. I already miss his "Hey Mr. Beer". What Austin taught me was to:
Live every day
While you can
As best as you can
He really seemed to embody the above. I feel blessed to be one of those who were lucky to have known Austin.
Lynn McLeod
April 26th 2008
Over the past two years, my family has shared with yours the intimacy of prayer and the joy of hope. As a Mother, one has the greatest expectations and hopes for their children. We want to know that we are raising our kids to leave their mark on this world and to have made a difference in the lives of others. Austin has done that for my family. He has taught us to take joy in kicking a ball on a sunny day in a grassy field. He has taught us to love and to squeeze tight no matter how much it hurt. He has taught us that God can do great things and sometimes we still question his actions, and that's ok. He has shown us courage, strength, and an unending faith. He has made a difference in my life and he has made a difference in the lives of 290 children who prayed for him and all children who suffer each and every day. Austine will never be forgotten. He has left his mark on our hearts and he has left his mark on our faith journey though this wonderful life. May God comfort you and keep you until you are able to meet again!
Marcia Elliott
April 26th 2008
Dear Melgar Family,
You all inspire me so much!!! I am so lucky to know you all!!! Austin will always hold a special place in my heart. I remember one day when I was coming into the school and saw Fran as she was leaving the building and she said there's someone in the office that wants to see you. When I got to the office there was Austin in his wagon behind the office counter with his big smile. He said he'd like to come down to my office, so I pulled him in his wagon down to my office. We talked and shared some M&M's, and after some chit chat, he motioned for me to come closer as he had something he would like to whisper to me. When I bent down to hear him he asked if he could have a journal and special pencil like his sister and brother had gotten. It just makes me smile when I think about that.
Marcia Elliott
Amy St John
April 26th 2008
Austin will always hold a special place in our hearts, He was a beautiful child, who we adored and really looked forward to sharing time with. I remember when he showed Codey how to play Spongebob Life, sitting on the bed at Ronald McDonald house, so cute, they made up their own life rules as they played. We had to buy the game when we returned home because Codey enjoyed playing it so much, Austin truly made our trips To NY much more bearable, Codey always asked if he would be there. We were so blessed to have met this wonderful little boy. looking at the pictures that I have, you can truly see joy and love in his eyes. Till this day, Codey giggles at how Austin told him he lived in Kalamazoo, and Codey said you live in a zoo??? Both boys cracked up laughing. May God Hold you and comfort you all. Peace be with you....
Kathy Dixon
April 26th 2008
Tom, Fran and all the Melgars-
My heart aches in sorrow for you. May your love for each other be your strength. My prayers continue to be sent out for Austin as God is taking him into his care, and that God grant you strength during this time.
I believe in something written from the Book of Romans: "I am certain that neither death nor life will be able to separate us from the love of God." "... the Spirit helps us in our weakness; the Spirit himself makes intercession for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in speech. He who searches hearts knows what the Spirit means..." "...the suffering of the present is nothing compared with the glory to be revealed in heaven..."
May you all trust and believe that the glory of heaven has been revealed to Austin .
Love,
Kathy Dixon
Kim Palmer
April 26th 2008
My heart goes out to you Brianna and your whole family. It is so hard to understand when our loved ones are taken from us. I hope you find comfort in knowing that you were such a special part of Austin's well-lived life. The memories you have are a legacy of love! God Bless you and your family. I am praying for you! Love, Mrs. Palmer
Terri and Jeremy Banish
April 25th 2008
I am so glad we had the opportunity to know such an inspiring young man. Austin will be forever remembered in our hearts and we will miss him dearly.
I know this journey we have traveled has a purpose, but we may never know that here on earth. For whatever reason, I am glad we were able to meet and be there on this journey together. Your family will always have prayers and never walk alone.
God bless and much Love,
Terri and Jeremy Banish
www.caringbridge.org/visit/jeremysjourney
Talitas Paiva
April 25th 2008
I have bin following your caring bridge site, for a while, and slowly falling in love with Austin. There is noting that can be written or said in this momento that will take away a bit of your pain, I just pray that God will take care of you family and hearts.
Austin will allways have a very special place in my heart, nad now you have a beautiful angel in heven to watch over you. May the lord bring you peace!
Hugs,
Talita Paiva
(MG, Brazil)
Paula
April 25th 2008
I have been following Austin's story since September of 2007. Austin had a special place in my heart. I am so sorry for your loss. May God Blass you and provide comfort to you and your family during this difficult time.
Paula
Carly Boucher
April 25th 2008
Dear Tom, Fran, Brianna, Danielle and Ryan-
Words cannot express how deeply sorry I am for your loss.
When I had the opportunity to meet you guys in Vermont, I was immediately struck by your overwhelming love for one another, and the strength that was clearly evident in your family.
May Austin run free in heaven, embraced by our father.
God Bless,
Carly
Ken & Dana Pope
April 25th 2008
As you reflect and grieve the loss of Austin, a child with such a strong heart, please be reminded that there are many of us who continue to pray and hold you in our hearts. Simply call out, and we will be there.
Your journaling over the last three years helped keep your family close in our hearts ~ your strength while posting inspired us to realize the smallness of our tough times in comparison and the importance of family and God's love in our lives.
Contact us at any time! (324-0972)
Jen
June 2nd 2008
Although I didn't know them long i still whew them and heard many things. Sarah was the one Melgar I talked to the most. Austin was a fighter and I'll never forget.
WE LOVE YOU AUSTIN!!!!!!!!!!!!
Whitney Ihrman
May 15th 2008
Although I never met Austin, I heard that he had that Bruder-Melgar spunk. I won't soon forget how Brianna and Danielle used to keep me on my toes when they were in Kindergarten! Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. My the love and happiness you shared with Austin comfort you all.
Cris Ball
May 7th 2008
As a nurse @ peds hem/onc, I know Austin could be a handful! I always loved his spirit and infectious smile! I will treasure the memory of being his "nut lady"! If a peanutshell ever bonks me on the head, I will know who threw it!
b.Loewy
May 5th 2008
I only met Austin one time at his Uncle Mikes and Aunt
Christines home in Old Brookville L.I. But what a impact he had on me. He ofcourse was very shy. I could feel his
love and joy of life and being around him that one time was a great blessing for me. Thank you Austin for that one time.
i have prayed for you and your family ever day since that one time. With great respect and admiration for you and your faith .May God bless you and your family
forever.
Sincerely ,Bruce Loewy
Laurie and Jeff Doud
May 4th 2008
Our favorite memory of Austin was at last years Kings game. We were waiting at the entrance when your limo pulled up and out came a bunch of kids, including Austin. As we were entering the field the coach of the Kings came and got Austin asking if he wanted to go into the locker room and meet the team - Austin said yes and then asked if his brother could come too! It took awhile before we saw him again - he was so busy running up and down the stands, visiting with all his friends, and enjoying the stadium food. We did manage to grab him for a minute and get a picture with Austin and his two birthday buddies. We were so amazed by his energy. We will never forget the smile that lit up the world. He will be forever remembered.
Love,
Laurie and Jeff (Austin's other birthday buddy)
Sara Krebill
May 3rd 2008
Tom, Fran, Brianna, Danielle, Sarah and Ryan........There are so many wonderful memories to share about Austin. One in particular was two years ago, just before the Kalamazoo King's "Austin Melgar Day". My husband thought Austin should practice throwing before the first pitch at the game! Austin came over to warm up in our front yard. We laughed and laughed as Gary and Austin tossed the ball back and forth to each other. Gary kept saying, "step into it Austin"! Austin must have thought, "what the heck does that mean, I'm only five". Anyway, Austin went by limo to the game and threw out the first pitch like a pro!
That kids was amazing. I will miss him so much.
Hugs and kisses to all of you, Mommy Sara
Amy
May 1st 2008
My best memory is one That I will always cherish. Fran, Austin, My son Codey And I were all able to attend Mass together @ St Johns church in NYC. I remember sitting in the pew with Austin and Codey nestled between myself and Fran. Knowing all to well, that Fran and I were both saying the same prayers. Looking at those to little beautiful souls and knowing that they were the choosen ones, choosen by God because he knew how special they are. Austin was an amazing little boy, We are so blessed to have met and became friends with this family. God Bless you all.
Carol Chadderdon
May 1st 2008
Tom, Fran, Brianna, Danielle, Sarah and Ryan
I'm not good at writing about my emotions but I wanted to share this letter with you that I sent today to Locks for Love. My prays are with you and your family.
In late March or early April of 2001 I meet the most amazing family I believe I every will in meet in my life time. A family that knew the true meaning of family and God. They were sincere in their faith which has tested them for the last two and half years.
Not once did they stumble in their faith or the strenght of family falter in any way. They had a child names Austin who had the brightess smile in a twinkle in his eyes that said watch out. A very loving child, mischief, active and loved all sports especially soccer, running and just enjoying time with his family.
2005 he was diagnois with Neuroblastoma Cancer. I watch his mother nurse him when was little, care for him when he broke his arm, love him when he drove the family car down their driveway at the age of two. How he would color at my desk and ask his Mom are we done yet. Just that look was Austin. I seen Austin show amazing strenght and faith beyond his years and still always have the brightess smile I've ever seen on a child. He suffered through many chemo radation and other treatments and never complained or asked why. Why me lord? Any adult would of asked this question. But not Austin all he wanted was to play and spend time with his family. I remember last year how he just got a fishing pole after finishing another bout of chemo. He just wanted to go fishing. His parents did alot of special things to make Austin better. I prayed every day for this famiy along with hundreds of others. Austin was going to be that mircle we all need. Now he is one of God's very special Angles. I grew this
hair to help other children like Austin. So now I pass this on to you in good faith that it will help a child through a terrible ordeal.
I send this in memory of a child that I will always hold a place in my heart . A memory that will always be there. If only we had more Austin's in this world along with his family what wonderful place this would be. I'm sending his obituarie with this so you can see the brightest smile their every was, there is no flower that blooms that can compete against this Angle smile and twinkle in his eye's.
Sincerely
Carol Chadderdon
Ellen Robare
April 30th 2008
I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy.
I don't know you guys well, but I can remember working a library shift at Amberly during which Austin's class came in. It must have been last year, I remember it being a kindergarten class, and he got to attend school a quite a bit that year. I was aware at the time that he had cancer, but he was just such a normal kid, always had a smile on his face, and nobody treated him any differently (well, except for maybe that we never nagged him about his overdue books!) He even had some pretty darn cute-looking hair then. I can recall thinking that if you didn't know he was sick, you’d never know he was sick - if you know what I mean. Not much of a memory, I guess, but looking back now I imagine that was a really happy time for Austin, getting to just be a “regular” kid for a while.
Like many others, I’ve followed Austin’s story on the CaringBridge site, and I know that your hearts are broken with a pain that is beyond compare right now. I hope that all of the memories of your little angel are helping you, even in the midst of the sorrow, to celebrate a life that, brief though it may have been, was by no means small!
Mike and Lori
April 30th 2008
Tom, Fran, and Kids
Austin is such a beautiful young boy with a smile that can melt anyones heart. Although I cant stop the tears from falling I feel very fortunate to have been given the chance to meet Austin and his amazing family. Over the past 2 plus years, I have been completely amazed at how such a brave young boy has been able to show the courage to fight for himeself and for others. I remember when we first met Austin, on the sidelines of his sisters soccer game. It toook very little time before Alex and Austin had found a soccer sideline friendship, whether they played in the tents, kicked the soccer balls around, marched on the bleachers at soccer zone with their Icee's or sitting quietly for a minute to catch up on the game, they always found a way to have a fun adventure. Even when he was sick Austin always had a smile for Alex, and therefore Alex has been blessed by having the priveledge of meeting such a Strong and Brilliant young man. In the shortness of his life he has inspired everyone who has came in contact with him by showing them how much he loved every moment of life. Even when he was in pain, he suprised us all with his constant smile and determination. Austin must be such a beautiful angel up in heaven. God must of known that your family is quite special when he chose you for Austin, and we thank you for sharing him with us.
Lori and Mike
Taylor, Anna and Alex
Michelle O'Connell- PCA Bronson Peds
April 30th 2008
I will always remember Austin's bright and loving smile. He was such a joy to care for. He was always pulling pranks on the Nurses and staff. I will miss him so much. I remember times of him and his sibling doing crafts, reading books or just watching Tv together. Austin had such a wonderful spirit considering all he went through. He will forever be in my heart.
Michelle O'Connell
Betsy McGraw
April 30th 2008
My first memory of Austin is one that happened even before he was born. The older Melgar girls and my daughter wanted to take figure skating lessons. Since Fran and I would have to be there during the lessons anyway, we decided to sign up for the adult figure skating class. The class ran from Sept. through December during the time Fran was 5 to 8 months pregnant with Austin. We skated (and did a lot of laughing) one evening each week that fall. We even particpated in the final program in December, with Fran entering her 9th month of pregnancy!! I have often wondered if Austin's need to be in constant motion, and his great athletic coordination, had something to do with that skating class. Fran was clearly much more graceful with the twirls and kicks at 8 months pregnant than I ever was!!
Austin was born in January and I thought it was very fitting that he entered the world on a skating class night. I took Danielle and Brianna and my daughter, Annemarie, to lessons that night because Tom and Fran were at the hospital. We had fun anticipating what the newest member of the Melgar family would look and be like. Little did we know what an amazing kid he would become and the huge impact his life would have on so many people!
As neighbors, we had many opportunities to watch Austin grow and develop. My best memories will be of him fully enjoying whatever he was doing, whether climbing up and down the concrete steps to our pool 100 times at about 18 months, riding skateboards, scooters or bikes in our driveway or playing pool in our basement......his "mash" version of pool (as my daughter calls it) that is!
As fellow members of St. Thomas More, I have special memories of Austin's baptism and his first communion.
Today, I will also attend Austin's funeral and I will cry over a beautiful life ended way to soon. In the days to come, I will think of Austin kicking his soccer balls through rainbows in heaven, and I will thank God that I have had the opportunity to know the Melgar family and to share in Austin's life!
Julie DeRoeck
April 29th 2008
I was watching television tonight and when Home Improvement came on I thought of Austin. I loved the story you told about how he liked to watch T.V. late at night and that he told you the trick to staying up was to close your eyes during commercials! I closed my eyes and thought of Austin!
Arthur
April 29th 2008
I remember when I first saw Austin, he was brought into my parents' study in his baby carrier guy. I didn't really know what to make of him.
Lisa Griffith
April 29th 2008
Dear Austin,
You will always hold a place in my heart. The struggles that you battled and the strength that you had were great. I will always remember those big brown eyes and that smile from ear to ear. I was a patient care asst. at Bronson, and left a couple of years ago. But when I left, my thoughts of you and your family continued to stay with me. I am so sorry that you are gone and will be missed by many. My thoughts and prayers are with your family, and friends. God Bless you Austin.
Pat and Michaela Turk
April 29th 2008
Austin will always hold a special place in our hearts. I clearly remember seeing the eyes of Jesus looking up at me at St. Tom's as Austin lay on the bench with the family. Your strength and faith have been an inspiration to me. Our Christopher is 7 years old too, and we are caring for his needs as a special child with cerebral palsy. I will share Austin's strength and faith with Christopher as he grows. ptt
Austin sounds like a delightful boy; he will always be happy and have a special place in my heart. I have many times with him in my prayers. I hope he will have a wonderful time with you in your prayers too. mkt
Maureen Cartmill
April 29th 2008
Families stand out for many reasons and I remember, as many observed of my four brother and sisters growing up, being attracted to your shear numbers. As your family grew right before our eyes at St. Tom,s we watched with enjoyment your devotion, caring, commitment, love, and humor. You're quite a gang! Please know your family is in our prayers daily. Thank you for sharing Austin; such a wonderful child. Maureen Cartmill
Jen Seibel
April 29th 2008
I met Austin during his first admission to the hospital. He was so cute, always smiling! He couldn't wait to get back out onto the soccer field. I will never forget him. He was one of the few patients that has touched my life forever. I will never forget him.
Donna Ludwinski
April 29th 2008
Austin's reputation as a vivacious and joyful child preceeded him, and I treasure the opportunity I had to meet this amazing young man at the CNCF conference in Chicago last summer. Austin was so happy, so energetic, and surrounded by the most strikingly beautiful family! All of the Melgars have touched my life permanently, especially Austin, and I am deeply grieved for your loss. Your faith and love for one another are a testimony to all of us. Thank you for blessing us and sharing Sweet Austin with all of us.
Nurse Becky
April 28th 2008
I have many memories of Austin over his many stays at Bronson, but I think my favorite is the day I sent him to his kindergarten graduation. He was due to get a blood transfusion that morning and I did my very best to get it accomplished, but the transfusion didn't happen as fast as we would have liked. So Tom got him all ready to go in his little suit and tie. He was simply adorable! That is the image of him I will carry forever. He had the bigest smile on his face and was so excited about his graduation. He chatted about it all morning. As it got closer and closer to when the needed to leave I realized that his transfusion wasn't going to be quite done. So Tom and I decided the best thing to do is bring the car around to the door and Austin and I would meet him there and I would unhook his central line there. So that is exactly what we did. Austin always had a way of making us bend the rules...just a little! I will miss his happy smiles running in our halls and I think I will even miss his and Ryan's squirt guns (AKA syringes filled with water). I will surely never forget him or the rest of the family.
Nurse Becky
Cyndy Cohoon, RN
April 28th 2008
I am a nurse who worked with Fran and Tom at KCMS 200-2004. I remember when Austin was born and how excited Mom and Dad were... especially Dad. Dad would share that Austin was a prodigy... doing all things earlier than expected. This too was earlier than expected and I am so sorry for your loss.
I hope there is peace in knowing this special child is with angels and a better place.
CC
Sally Van Sweden
April 28th 2008
Dear Melgar Family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you. May you trust in the comfort of knowing that Austin is with Jesus.
Sincerely,
Van Swedens
Carol Kubota
April 28th 2008
I never met Austin, but I saw him in church many times. I also saw his family and how they cared so much about him. I could feel the love and energy that they had for each other. Along with the other members of St. Thoms, I prayed for Austin to get better. I am really sorry that he didn't. At least we can be assured that he is now in the hands of God and will be taken care of forever.
My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time. Austin will never be forgotten at St. Thoms.
Sincerely,
Carol
Anne Mills
April 28th 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Austin will always have a special place in my heart as will all of you. I am blessed to have known Austin. My love to all of you.
carrie barnes
April 28th 2008
Dear Melgar Family,
I have been praying for Austin for the last couple of months since Kim Palmer shared his story at our church and asked for prayer for Austin. I am so sorry for your loss--what a joyful spirit he sounds like! May God give you the peace and comfort you need right now. We will continue to pray for your family.
Carrie Barnes
Kelli Talicska
April 28th 2008
I was so blessed to be entrusted to the care of the Melgar children for a short time when Fran went back to work. I remember holding Austin in my arms and toting him from room to room as his little baby smile helped me make dinners, finish homework, play games and enjoy his brothers and sisters. He was the object of everyone's affection, and rightly so!!! :)
After many years away from Kalamazoo, I saw Fran and Austin at St. Tom's in September of 2007 when I returned for WMU's Homecoming weekend. It was then that I learned of Austin's brave fight and then that I added my voice to the many lifted in prayer. Though God ultimately wanted Austin Home with Him, I will never stop praying in thanksgiving for the joy that was his life, and I know that he will be praying for all of us.
I am truly humbled by the example of FAMILY and LOVE that the Melgars have taught me and shown all of us. They said once that God made no mistake in building their family, and I couldn't agree more. Though I cannot begin to comprehend their loss, their gain is greater than any of ours...for they have now have one of the brightest angels in Heaven.
Jan Niefert
April 28th 2008
I have so many memories of Austin that it is hard to choose. In the days since he left us I have been thinking about him and there are three memories that stand out from the rest.
The first is the joy I remember upon learning that Fran was pregnant with him. I greet him each Sunday after church when Fran so graciously allowed me to place my hands on her stomach and talk to Austin. He always responded with good strong kicks which delighted me in the extreme! I felt in love with Austin before he was even born!
Another memory is a time when the four older Melgar children were all going to the same week long soccer camp as my daughter.Fran and I decided to carpool with me doing the morning drop off and she doing the afternoon pick up. So each morning I would arrive at the Melgars and the older four would come trooping out wearing their soccer clothes wiith shin gards and soccer shoes and carrying a back pack, water bottle, and lunch box. Right out behind them would come Austin. He too would be dressed in complete soccer gear, he too would carry a backpack, lunch box, and water bottle, but he wasn't going any where. He was too young for soccer camp. But that didn't stop him from getting ready every day just like his big brother and sisters, and it didn't stop his yearning to be doing what they were doing. He never fussed as we pulled away, just stood their watching us, until we were gone, as Fran reassured him that some day he would be old enough to go to camp too. He looked so darn cute standing there in all his gear!
My third memory is also realted to soccer. This is my most poignant memory of Austin and one that is sacred to me. We dropped in at the Melgar house the night before Austin's First Communion. He was very sick at that time. I sat down next to him on the couch and said to him "so I hear tomorrow is your big day (the First Communion) are you excited? Acknowledging that he was he said "Today was a big day too!" Upon asking what made that day a big day Austin told me "I got to play soccer today." He then invited me to sit down and watch the video of him playing soccer today. What I saw on the screen was boy who was so sick he could hardly run or keep up with the other kids but he sure could still kick the ball! I was saddened by the obvious decline in his condition and I looked over at him eagerly watching, for more than his first time that day, the same video and saw a child who was joyfully watching himself play soccer!!! He wasn't focused on what he couldn't do he was focused on what he was doing and how fun it had been! Austin blessed me that day with his perspective. I can't imagine our lives without this sweet, cute, fun boy in it.
April 27th 2008
From: Linda Timm
Because I neglected signing my first memory entry, I feel I am entitled to a 2nd chance. There is soooo much to say about Austin. There is a popular musical with a profound song which will always make me think of Austin.
The name of the song is "For Good":
"Who can say if I've been changed for the better, I do believe I have been changed for the better -- Because I knew you, I have been changed for Good." That will forever be my special Austin song.
Ree Millard
April 27th 2008
There is not a word I could say that would make this nightmare any easier for you. Children should never die before their parents. I learned the hard way from working with oncology patients, that after awhile you stop asking why, and just trust that God has a plan, it may not be ours , but we must trust that He knows what He is doing! My favorite memory of Austin was at his 1st Communion/Confirmation at St Tom's. Watching him receive communion with Fr. Ken and Fr Fitz beside him, as well as his parents was so moving! Later as I went to communion and passed the family, watching the tears in Fran's eye's realizing her time with this special child was probably not going to last forever,went staight to my heart. What a beautiful family! And Tom, all your work with the fundraising, to fight this horrible disease, you are to be commended! I know when you are hurting, and in the medical profession, you just have to find something positive to do to combat the "I can't fix this situation" . You have all been an inspiration to the rest of us, how faith can walk you through the lowest points of your life! Austin lives on in all of us who new and loved him! Know that you will forever be in my prayers! Love Ree
Gloria Meert
April 27th 2008
As a member of St. Tom's I often sat behind or beside your family and am saddened about your family's loss. I watched Austin as an infant in your arms and as he grew into a little boy. I think the memory that stays with me the strongest was one time when he came to Mass with his suit and tie looking so handsome even with his bald head. He sat between his sisters and brother and most of the time he was good but he as most little boys do would tease them with a kick or push. It was a blessing to be a witness to his life. My prayers continue for your family. May the Lord give you comfort and ease your grief. Thank you for being part of my Church family.
The Suryan Family
April 27th 2008
As members of the St Tom's Parish, we have been praying for Austin and his family. We are some of the many strangers you have touched with your love and courage. I just wanted to remind you that there are more people than you know praying for you still.
April 27th 2008
It could sound like a cliche, but it is not...that Austin just lit up the room when he walked in. Seeing him would always make my day. No one that sick could have been more full of life. He constantly amazed and inspired anyone who knew him. One day he was at the Y and not feeling well so he was curled up under a blanket watching TV. I went to check on him and was concerned that the room might be too cold, but he said he was just fine and then he offered to share his blanket with me so I could be warm too. He was my very very special birthday buddy!
Theresa Millin
April 27th 2008
When Austin was in the hospital for a particularly long stay, 5 weeks (Fran and the girls had even fashioned a tent over the bed hanging from the ceiling!), Austin and Ryan had gotten their hands on some Nerf guns. Now, as Austin's nurses, we were in and out of his room quite a few times throughout the day, and I wasn't really looking forward to being shot every time I needed to fix a beeping pump or hang a med. I drew red crosses with a marker on two washcloths, and my PCA and I pinned them to the front of our shirts. I then explained to the boys that it violated the rules of the Geneva Convention to fire on designated medical personnel. It worked! I know Ryan had an itchy trigger finger if our backs were turned and he couldn't actually "see" the red cross, but he was pretty good about not shooting us that day. In hindsight, I should have put the red cross on our backs, too. Austin still gave us that big smile when we walked into the room, but it was accompanied by a look of "darn, I can't shoot them"!
Meredith Decker
April 27th 2008
To Sarah & Family:
I am sorry about the loss of your brother. I lost my Uncle Randy last week. If you want to e-mail and talk my e-mail is merebear22497@aol.com I miss you at soccer.
Meredith Decker
Karin and David Code
April 26th 2008
We live behind you on Lost Pine Way. We moved here two and a half years ago and soon thereafter heard about your adorable Austin and his wonderful family. Even though we followed his hopeful progress and inspriational story on the website, it wasn't until last year's carnival that we had a chance to meet you face to face.
I first saw Austin in a spray of a fireman's hose on that warm summer day. Enjoying life like he knew we all should learn to do. He smiled so bright, I felt touched by a little angel.
We sent our prayers during the vigil last Thursday across our yards and continue to hold you all up in God's loving arms.
Peace,
The Code Family
Nurse Jen, Nurse Brooke, and Nurse Misty
April 26th 2008
Our story with Austin began when he was diagnosed with Neuroblastoma, but our true bond with him began when we had to start paying him to take care of him. Austin had an IV that was in his chest called a Central Line. This Central Line had a dressing over it that needed to be changed frequently. Austin hated the dressing changes and would try everything to get out of it. It used to take 2 hours to complete this task. One night we decided to bribe him. We each decide to pay him a dollar to see if we could speed this procedure up. It worked!! Austin earned $5.00 and the task was done in 20 minutes!! The other half of the bet was that Nurse Jen had to walk with Austin up and down the halls wearing a spiky green rubber hat so that everyone could laugh. We will always remember the “Show me the Money” picture from that night. We love you and will miss you! Thank you for being a part of our lives!!!
Love Nurse Jen, Nurse Brooke, and Nurse Misty
Janet
April 26th 2008
To Austin's Family:
I have never met you. I came to know Austin through a college friend who has a Dad that is very ill in Little Rock, Arkansas. I was given a link to Austin's Caring Bridge site and had grown to know him (and his amazing family) through the journal updates. I have (as well as many others) prayed for him and you. I am a teacher and I have a love for children. Austin's story took my breath away and I just decided to make it a commitment to pray for all of you.
I have no words that will be able to comfort you, but I do sense your deep faith and love for the Lord. I will place all of you in His hands and trust Him to get you through this time. Romans 8:28 has always been a comfort to me. My husband is a cancer survivor. My heart truly is broken for you and again, I am sorry for your loss. May God's grace be sufficent for you during this time.
In His Love,
Janet
Larry Beer
April 26th 2008
Austin made a strong impression on me whether we were talking or just watching him around the cul-de-sac. He had a rare level of poise for a young child. This was evident both before and after his cancer was detected. He really enjoyed interacting with other kids, adults and animals, but seemed to have a unique ability to keep himself company as he pursued what ever seemed important for him to be doing at a particular time. One of my memories of him was when I hired him to help me shovel snow. He went and got his little snow shovel and was still shoveling long after I had stopped What an amazing spirit he had. I already miss his "Hey Mr. Beer". What Austin taught me was to:
Live every day
While you can
As best as you can
He really seemed to embody the above. I feel blessed to be one of those who were lucky to have known Austin.
Lynn McLeod
April 26th 2008
Over the past two years, my family has shared with yours the intimacy of prayer and the joy of hope. As a Mother, one has the greatest expectations and hopes for their children. We want to know that we are raising our kids to leave their mark on this world and to have made a difference in the lives of others. Austin has done that for my family. He has taught us to take joy in kicking a ball on a sunny day in a grassy field. He has taught us to love and to squeeze tight no matter how much it hurt. He has taught us that God can do great things and sometimes we still question his actions, and that's ok. He has shown us courage, strength, and an unending faith. He has made a difference in my life and he has made a difference in the lives of 290 children who prayed for him and all children who suffer each and every day. Austine will never be forgotten. He has left his mark on our hearts and he has left his mark on our faith journey though this wonderful life. May God comfort you and keep you until you are able to meet again!
Marcia Elliott
April 26th 2008
Dear Melgar Family,
You all inspire me so much!!! I am so lucky to know you all!!! Austin will always hold a special place in my heart. I remember one day when I was coming into the school and saw Fran as she was leaving the building and she said there's someone in the office that wants to see you. When I got to the office there was Austin in his wagon behind the office counter with his big smile. He said he'd like to come down to my office, so I pulled him in his wagon down to my office. We talked and shared some M&M's, and after some chit chat, he motioned for me to come closer as he had something he would like to whisper to me. When I bent down to hear him he asked if he could have a journal and special pencil like his sister and brother had gotten. It just makes me smile when I think about that.
Marcia Elliott
Amy St John
April 26th 2008
Austin will always hold a special place in our hearts, He was a beautiful child, who we adored and really looked forward to sharing time with. I remember when he showed Codey how to play Spongebob Life, sitting on the bed at Ronald McDonald house, so cute, they made up their own life rules as they played. We had to buy the game when we returned home because Codey enjoyed playing it so much, Austin truly made our trips To NY much more bearable, Codey always asked if he would be there. We were so blessed to have met this wonderful little boy. looking at the pictures that I have, you can truly see joy and love in his eyes. Till this day, Codey giggles at how Austin told him he lived in Kalamazoo, and Codey said you live in a zoo??? Both boys cracked up laughing. May God Hold you and comfort you all. Peace be with you....
Kathy Dixon
April 26th 2008
Tom, Fran and all the Melgars-
My heart aches in sorrow for you. May your love for each other be your strength. My prayers continue to be sent out for Austin as God is taking him into his care, and that God grant you strength during this time.
I believe in something written from the Book of Romans: "I am certain that neither death nor life will be able to separate us from the love of God." "... the Spirit helps us in our weakness; the Spirit himself makes intercession for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in speech. He who searches hearts knows what the Spirit means..." "...the suffering of the present is nothing compared with the glory to be revealed in heaven..."
May you all trust and believe that the glory of heaven has been revealed to Austin .
Love,
Kathy Dixon
Kim Palmer
April 26th 2008
My heart goes out to you Brianna and your whole family. It is so hard to understand when our loved ones are taken from us. I hope you find comfort in knowing that you were such a special part of Austin's well-lived life. The memories you have are a legacy of love! God Bless you and your family. I am praying for you! Love, Mrs. Palmer
Terri and Jeremy Banish
April 25th 2008
I am so glad we had the opportunity to know such an inspiring young man. Austin will be forever remembered in our hearts and we will miss him dearly.
I know this journey we have traveled has a purpose, but we may never know that here on earth. For whatever reason, I am glad we were able to meet and be there on this journey together. Your family will always have prayers and never walk alone.
God bless and much Love,
Terri and Jeremy Banish
www.caringbridge.org/visit/jeremysjourney
Talitas Paiva
April 25th 2008
I have bin following your caring bridge site, for a while, and slowly falling in love with Austin. There is noting that can be written or said in this momento that will take away a bit of your pain, I just pray that God will take care of you family and hearts.
Austin will allways have a very special place in my heart, nad now you have a beautiful angel in heven to watch over you. May the lord bring you peace!
Hugs,
Talita Paiva
(MG, Brazil)
Paula
April 25th 2008
I have been following Austin's story since September of 2007. Austin had a special place in my heart. I am so sorry for your loss. May God Blass you and provide comfort to you and your family during this difficult time.
Paula
Carly Boucher
April 25th 2008
Dear Tom, Fran, Brianna, Danielle and Ryan-
Words cannot express how deeply sorry I am for your loss.
When I had the opportunity to meet you guys in Vermont, I was immediately struck by your overwhelming love for one another, and the strength that was clearly evident in your family.
May Austin run free in heaven, embraced by our father.
God Bless,
Carly
Ken & Dana Pope
April 25th 2008
As you reflect and grieve the loss of Austin, a child with such a strong heart, please be reminded that there are many of us who continue to pray and hold you in our hearts. Simply call out, and we will be there.
Your journaling over the last three years helped keep your family close in our hearts ~ your strength while posting inspired us to realize the smallness of our tough times in comparison and the importance of family and God's love in our lives.
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